i feel for you star trek.
right now i go to the meeting to shield my kids. every chance i have...i tell them how many lie they are being told. also i make sure that my kids dont associate with any witness kids, stay active with wordly stuff. focus on education, it's always a battle when your spouse is a full dub ( like ours are)
i take it one day at a time....man, this cult has taken it toll on my marriage. not sure how long we will last. but, i will keep shielding my kids until they can tell my wife for themselves that they don't want nothing to do with the cult.