My wife and I went cold Turkey. I fully recommend it. It's been 16 months and we've had barely any bother. One Elder (our group overseer) that did call around a couple months later after my mum spoke with him when she found out we were no longer going to attend. He simply wanted to confirm the rumor for himself. I said i had no problem with anyone and my absence had nothing to do with anyone at the hall. I also made it clear I had no intention of discussing my issues with anyone. He said 'fair enough' and that's the last we've seen of him.
I also recently went for a pint with a friend from my old hall whose a couple years older than me and was made up to Elder status shortly before we stopped going. I made it clear beforehand that I was happy to go for a drink but would not go into anything.
I'm a firm believer that you've got to draw a line in the sand and keep full control of every situation that arises.