Insomniac

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  What's the hardest thing you ever had to do?

  by Country Girl in

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  i think the hardest thing i ever went through was my divorce.

  it was something i knew i needed to go through, and get over, but it was the hardest thing of my life.

  i wanted the divorce, but it was so very painful.... what's the hardest thing you've ever gone through?

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  Insomniac

  My relationship's on the skids. The hardest thing I'm presently facing, is the prospect of breaking up with the love of my life. We love each other so very much, but it's just not working. I want marriage, he wants singlehood.

  What's getting me through this time is the fact that I acknowledge my limitations. I can't handle it all right now, so I'm setting a date by which we should have things resolved, one way or the other. By that date, I hope to be better prepared, mentally, to deal with this. Or, he might have an epiphany and decide I'm worth trying to keep. Either way, better six months from now than today.
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  Do you think that you're presently living the best moments of your life?

  by JH in

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  i feel as if i'm on top of a mountain, and things are going good.

  things could always be better, but i can't complain.. how about you?

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  Insomniac

  Dang, I hope this isn't as good as it gets.

  I'm in a bad place right now, probably as low as I'll ever get. But the good thing is (and there is a tiny core of optimism within me,) it can really only get better from here on out. And, keeping it all in perspective, I could have all the problems I now have, and have been born in some third-world country where I'd also be facing starvation. So, that should cheer me up a bit, too.

  My point, I guess, is: life sucks at this moment, but it'll be ok, in time.
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  What's your "Nickname"?

  by JH in

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  many people have nicknames.

  well, here on jwd i'm called "rat".

  in real life, i don't have any.

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  Insomniac

  Beta. When I used to work in restaurants, lots of the kitchen staff were new to English, and had a hard time pronouncing Elizabeth. One Eastern-European guy called me Elizabeta, which got shortened to Beta, which everyone could pronounce, so it stuck. I still use it now, for those who find Elizabeth too long.

  My honey calls me Boop (I call him Boo) or Baaayyyybeee or just E. He has other names for me, but I ain't telling 'em.
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  What a Prat!

  by ozziepost in

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  this evening mrs ozzie and i went to our favorite local restaurant - it's out in the outer suburbs, a lovely small thai restaurant - well, any food eaten with chopsticks is okay with us!.

  anyway, we entered and there at a middle table sat a family of three - father, mother and daughter.

  nothing unusual about that except, well it was the badge card that caught my eye.

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  Insomniac

  Perhaps the guy lived out that way, far from where the con was being held, and this was his first chance all day to sit down and enjoy himself in pleasant surroundings, away from all the crowds. Perhaps he wasn't Australian at all, but was visiting from the U.S. or England or some other civilized country where people commonly wear suits. Perhaps he likes being dressed up, it never occured to him to care whether random strangers in a restaurant approved of his attire.

  I'm glad you enjoyed your evening out, Ozzie, and I hope the gentleman you saw did, as well.
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  Things said to end a relationship

  by ballistic in

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  the fact is, i've been living a lie, i'm gay \ a lesbian \ only 14. i'm sorry - i got hit on the head this morning and i really have no idea who you are.

  and so you see, technically i'm a eunuch.

  i really like your sister.

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  Insomniac

  "I love you with all my heart, but I don't want to be married."
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  Name your pets

  by JH in

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  i have a cat called : katou

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  Insomniac

  I used to have a whole bunch of critters, but they've mostly all passed away due to extreme old age. So I'm left with one lazy, spoiled tabby cat named NewMoon- thus named because when trying to choose a name, I looked at the calendar for inspiration, and all it said on that day was New Moon.

  I also have an ENORMOUS plecostomus fish named Arabella, along with a bunch of nameless fishies.
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  What's Your View of Spanking (Children)?

  by minimus in

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  have you done it?

  would you still?

  is it ever acceptable?

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  If a reasonably intelligent adult can't think of a better way to make a child behave than hitting them, then they ought not to have children in their care. I stand by what I said earlier, that using violence (even mild violence) on little kids is just plain wrong.

  One time in a grocery store, I saw a guy who couldn't "control" his little daughter. She was acting the way 4-yr olds act normally: chatting a mile a minute, touching stuff in the checkout line out of curiosity, asking for a candy bar. Her "dad" hauled off and smacked her, hard, on her bare leg. It left a big, red handprint that covered her tiny little thigh. As the kid started bawling (just as I would have, if I'd been assaulted by someone four times my size,) her dad rolled his eyes and looked at me, as if for sympathy.

  I said to him, "I hope she remembers this stuff years from now, when she's picking out your nursing home." I really wanted to beat the shit out of him, so he'd know how it felt, but I remembered that, while it's legal to hit children, adults are off-limits.
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  How long is too long?

  by Insomniac in

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  just a question, for those who might know.

  how long should you hang onto a relationship, when it's becoming undeniably clear that it's going nowhere?.

  i'm so in love, with the most wonderful person i've ever known.

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  Insomniac

  I'm very sick right now. The symptoms don't make any sense to me, and I can't figure out what is wrong. He offered to take me to a doctor and he'd pay for it. He says I'm important to him, that he doesn't want to see me get truly unwell, or to die. I find this hard to believe. Apparently he's perfectly willing to let me walk out of his life forever, rather than marry me. But he cares enough to want to take me to a doctor because I'm sick. Hell, if I died, he'd have one less decision to make.

  I will continue to try to figure out what's wrong with me, and to fix the problem. But I think I'm just under a lot of stress, with everything up in the air the way it is.
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  What's Your View of Spanking (Children)?

  by minimus in

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  have you done it?

  would you still?

  is it ever acceptable?

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  Insomniac

  My stepfather was a firm believer in discipline. He used to hit me with a belt, with his fists, with pieces of lumber. One time he choked me until I passed out. He broke fingers and toes as punishment. He held my hand over an open flame until my fingerprints melted off. He punched me in the face and broke my nose. When the neighbors complained about the screaming, he told them I'd been bratty and was being spanked. They accepted his word on that. When I finally told the elders about the abuse, they advised me that a man has a right to hit his kids, according to the bible.

  Therefore, when I hear about people hitting their kids, I have zero tolerance. Maybe it starts out as a swat on the fanny, but where do you draw the line?

  By the way, it's illegal to hit military personnel and prisoners, in the U.S. Why, then, is it still legal to hit a small child one-third your size? It's wrong and it's stupid and it's ineffective. It should be outlawed.
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  Serial Killing More Common Among White Boys

  by Valis in

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  yep that's right if you are a white boy you are most probably a serial killer, because richard ramirez and wayne williams were only flukes.

  never you mind anyone on the planet could be a potential serial killer, all we know at this point is most of the ones we have caught are whiteys...see?

  i told you so!.

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  Insomniac

  Y'know, Valis is completely right. Statistics do back him up, after all. On reflection, I've resolved never again to hire a straight white guy, rent to one, or allow one to supervise children. Maybe they're not all bad, but you just can't be too careful.

  Thank you Valis, for alerting us all to this danger that lurks in our very midst.