In my humble opinion, I believe that these three posts are the most reasonable and compassionate of them all:
“KateWild”: “I think this really shows she is telling the truth, it's such an old mag and I would say that the rule about this is inconsistent around the globe, just like the Malawi / Mexico incident. Most JWs who want to go along to the YMCA, don't do a CD-ROM search to see if it's okay.”
“notjustyet”: “What did I learn from this thread? I learned not to be quick in calling "troll" at the expense of scaring away a person who came to this site for answers about the WTBTS/Jw. . . . There are so many variables that could happen in the future that could make a person "look" like a troll but in reality are not. A person could have misunderstood what was said, the person that share story X could have been lying, the story could be true and would be dealt with on a Judicial Committee later, etc etc, . . . I hate seeing a person come here and get pounced on in a free for all with everyone jumping in sharing stories.”
“rebel8”: “There are jws who do not know about the Y restriction. And this lady is STUDYING. Jeez people, calling her names?”
Me personally, I do not know all the facts of jnjburkett’s situation or that of her JW acquaintances (and neither do any of you all), but all that aside, I can only say this: Let’s just be fair and give everyone the benefit of the doubt, and ‘treat them as we would want to be treated.’ (What famous person said that? . . . . Oh yah, the same person known for stating the “Golden Rule.”)
I was actually a born-in JW (since 1966), and I myself have observed quite a gamut of variety in what actually is, and what is “supposed to be,” allowed among the JWs. I for one have been an active member of Alcoholics Anonymous (“AA”) for quite some years. (I started going to AA meetings around 1988, but I have gone “in and out” a few times. I’m currently attending AA pretty much daily, and have been in detox and also in a residential treatment facility for 21 days.) The elders in all my judicial committee hearings (yes, all about drinking alcohol) all thought that getting “professional” help in AA was actually a good idea, even though that 12-step program is God-based/spiritual-based and originally began as a definite Christian group (the “Oxford Group”). I even join in saying the Lord’s Prayer. That just goes to illustrate how in the whole grand scheme of things nothing is really as black-and-white and universally consistent as one might think – even in JW land.