“What to do when you're PIMO and dont want to date a jw?”
If you don’t want to expand your horizons beyond the JWs: Masturbate, preferably to Internet porn or with some personal satisfaction device.
If you do want to expand your horizons beyond the JWs: Start dating, but get a Virtual Private Network (VPN), secret phone number, post office box, or whatever you need to maintain secrecy if you are still Physically In (PI).
But if/when you become Physically Out, Mentally Out (POMO), then, well, f^ck it – you’ve finally got it made!