Where I live, it's the culture for people to be very to themselves and hard to get to know. It's very unlike the culture I grew up with in the south. There is a very predominant dutch culture and it's very conservative. This is not a place where you can just chat with a stranger in the grocery store.
I am a white, middle aged lady. Do you know who the friendliest people are, around here? Hispanic people. Usually HIspanic people will smile and talk with me. I have come to accept that the people are good people, they are just very conservative when it comes to being outgoing to sharing.