Westi, try to collect all the positive memories and experiences and concentrate on them. Did you do things like go camping, to the movies, vacations, etc? Did you read to them, sing to them? Did you do fun things with them? Did you help with school projects? We helped my daughter with a science project that got her a trip to the Nasa Space Center in Huntsville, AL. I helped her with a poster that got first place. I helped her with an art project that got first place. We had "Girl's Night Out" each week. My son and I took long drives, listened to music and took in historical sites like the Etowah Indian mounds and Civil War cemeteries and battle fields. We did a lot of normal, fun things. They never have complained about being taken to meetings. They do complain about a few things, but that has lessened considerably over the years. Regret might be less heavy to carry than guilt.
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If you don't like being a Jehovah's Witness then leave....
by Quirky1 inif you don't like being a jehovah's witness or going to the kingdom hall or the society then leave.... it's as simple as that... .
i left several years ago and have not been hounded, bothered or sought out by anyone.
i still see them from time to time, and yes, they do pour out the love bomb when you run into them, but eh, you know what?
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If you don't like being a Jehovah's Witness then leave....
by Quirky1 inif you don't like being a jehovah's witness or going to the kingdom hall or the society then leave.... it's as simple as that... .
i left several years ago and have not been hounded, bothered or sought out by anyone.
i still see them from time to time, and yes, they do pour out the love bomb when you run into them, but eh, you know what?
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we are all different.
It's easy, but there are consequences for a sudden break with the JWs. OUr congo was already treating us differently though, before we left. The shunning from family came many, many years later.
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If you don't like being a Jehovah's Witness then leave....
by Quirky1 inif you don't like being a jehovah's witness or going to the kingdom hall or the society then leave.... it's as simple as that... .
i left several years ago and have not been hounded, bothered or sought out by anyone.
i still see them from time to time, and yes, they do pour out the love bomb when you run into them, but eh, you know what?
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Westie, just love them and be there for them when they want to talk or vent about it. YOu did what you felt was right at the time and surely you did fun things with them and gave them good memories. My daughter has fond memories of some experiences she had like older sisters who loved her, get togethers, friends, the motels at the conventions, etc. She remembers the weddings and going to spend time with other JW kids and their families, etc.
My son told me recently that he appreciates the solid sense of what was right and wrong we raised him with. He doesn't mean silly JW right and wrongs, but the things like stealing. We didn't cuss like sailors like some parents do. He viewed us having respect for others, etc. and we always put family and our children first.
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If you don't like being a Jehovah's Witness then leave....
by Quirky1 inif you don't like being a jehovah's witness or going to the kingdom hall or the society then leave.... it's as simple as that... .
i left several years ago and have not been hounded, bothered or sought out by anyone.
i still see them from time to time, and yes, they do pour out the love bomb when you run into them, but eh, you know what?
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It is easy, ucantnome, if you don't way overthink it.
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If you don't like being a Jehovah's Witness then leave....
by Quirky1 inif you don't like being a jehovah's witness or going to the kingdom hall or the society then leave.... it's as simple as that... .
i left several years ago and have not been hounded, bothered or sought out by anyone.
i still see them from time to time, and yes, they do pour out the love bomb when you run into them, but eh, you know what?
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There must be 50 ways to leave Jehovah.
Just change the word lover to Jehovah.
SONGS + LYRICS
50 Ways To Leave Your Lover Add « see all songs Lyrics:
“The problem is all inside your head”
She said to me
“The answer is easy if you
Take it logically
I’d like to help you in your struggle
To be free
There must be fifty ways
To leave your lover”She said, “It’s really not my habit to intrude
Furthermore, I hope my meaning
Won’t be lost or misconstrued
But I’ll repeat myself
At the risk of being crude
There must be fifty ways
To leave your lover
Fifty ways to leave your lover”You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don’t need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don’t need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself freeOoh, slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don’t need to be coy, Roy
Just listen to me
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don’t need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself freeShe said, “It grieves me so
To see you in such pain
I wish there was something I could do
To make you smile again”
I said, “I appreciate that
And would you please explain
About the fifty ways?”She said, “Why don’t we both
Just sleep on it tonight
And I believe in the morning
You’ll begin to see the light”
And then she kissed me
And I realized she probably was right
There must be fifty ways
To leave your lover
Fifty ways to leave your loverYou just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don’t need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don’t need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself freeSlip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don’t need to be coy, Roy
Just listen to me
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don’t need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
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Intelligent design vs evolution.
by moley ini was out walking my dog and thought, there is no way an intelligent being would create this animal :-).
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FlyingHighNow
Provided he exists (which he does not)
I say we don't know that God is a guy or that there is only one God or Goddess. I kinda like the explanation in Jehovah Unmasked, about why our world is so messed up. You should read it. I'm not saying it's true, but it's interesting, what the Gnostics believed about who Jehovah is and why things are like they are.Jehovah Unmasked, is written by an ex JW. It's an easy read and was helpful in my journey out of the org.
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Intelligent design vs evolution.
by moley ini was out walking my dog and thought, there is no way an intelligent being would create this animal :-).
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FlyingHighNow
I was out walking my dog and thought, there is no way an intelligent being would create this animal :-)
Dogs and camels just prove there is a sense of humor involved.
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Suggestions for car buying
by FlyingHighNow inif you were a lady and you were 55 and had $5,000 or less to spend on a used car, what would buy?
top concerns: good mpg; reliable; in not having major issues like ball joints breaking, timing belts breaking, etc.
not too expensive to maintain.
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Car hunting sucks.
It so does, St. Ann, especially when you have no car to go look for a car. I walked down to the dealership today. It's closeby. The 2009 Corolla's seats are hard and my arms were too far above my legs. The wheel had hardly any grips on it and wasn't cushioned like my last car.
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Goodbye JW net
by snare&racket inforgive me for indulging in a goodbye but it would feel wrong not to,.
i hope the discussions and atmosphere here do not change for it is a bubbling brew of doubt, bravery and sincere hunger for answers.
these are healthy ingrediants for humans and especially for a jehovah's witness.. this forum offers not just the ability to ask without consequence, but it also offers the means to be real.
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FlyingHighNow
Oh no, now, you have to come back and check in here and there and tell us about your fascinating world as a doctor.
Meanwhile, I understand being a doctor can be stressful, so here's my prescription for you. When you get down or overwhelmed, play or sing this. (It's the best doctor song ever):
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Goodbye JW net
by snare&racket inforgive me for indulging in a goodbye but it would feel wrong not to,.
i hope the discussions and atmosphere here do not change for it is a bubbling brew of doubt, bravery and sincere hunger for answers.
these are healthy ingrediants for humans and especially for a jehovah's witness.. this forum offers not just the ability to ask without consequence, but it also offers the means to be real.
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FlyingHighNow
Wow, congrats.