Posts by FeelingFree

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is it possible to raise good kids with out religious morals?

by Princess Ashe in

making up my mind on how to teach my son values in life seems to be an on going struggle of what is right and wrong.

being raised in a sheltered jw life until after leaving high school seems like going from one extreme to another of being over restrictive or under.

trying to find that balance.

FeelingFree

My little sister was about 11 when my parents actively stopped being witnessess. She had very limited knowledge of anything JW related as they had been sporadic for several years.

I have to say her friends all through secondary school would of put a lot witnessess to shame. They were good students, didn't under age drink, do drugs or have sex and very rarely sweared. They were/are a lovely bunch of girls even now they are in their early 20's. I think there are plenty of parents out there that manage to instill great moral's and produce well behaved, great kids.

I think you just have to go with your gut feelings about things and as long as you remain consitant in what you feel is right or wrong you can't possibly do a bad job.

I understand where you are coming from as a mother myself, all we can do is what we think is best for our children. You know at the end of the day they will always find fault in their upbringing no matter what you do! lol x

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JW's and depression

by FeelingFree in

jw
friends

i was wondering how many of you suffered badly with depression when you were in "the truth" and if you feel your depression was related to being part of the organisation?

are you better now you have left or still have issue's?

whatever your experience's i would be very intrested to know (if you feel you can talk about it.).

FeelingFree

Thank you so much for all your comments. Im so glad you are all doing a lot better now!

The thing with being a born in is that your will never know what could of been and what your life might of been like without the influence of the org or the people in it. The aspect of not knowing I find can be frustrating but I'm trying very hard to not dwell on what could of been or blame my family for their decisions as that is not healthy. Also I have to learn to take responsibility for my decision to stay in all these years when several times I could have broken free but for some reason felt I couldn't.

love2Bwordly I think I do agree that mental health problems can be hereditary. My brother and my cousin both have very similar problems and that sure cant be put down to learned behaviour or circumstances as they didn't grow up together.

Think letting go of all negativity and realising you are good enough is key to aiding recovery.

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JW's and depression

by FeelingFree in

jw
friends

i was wondering how many of you suffered badly with depression when you were in "the truth" and if you feel your depression was related to being part of the organisation?

are you better now you have left or still have issue's?

whatever your experience's i would be very intrested to know (if you feel you can talk about it.).

FeelingFree

I do think the whole doom and gloom dieing at armageddon, not ever being able to do enough and what you are doing isn't good enough blah blah is extremely negative and can't be good for anyones mental well being!

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JW's and depression

by FeelingFree in

jw
friends

i was wondering how many of you suffered badly with depression when you were in "the truth" and if you feel your depression was related to being part of the organisation?

are you better now you have left or still have issue's?

whatever your experience's i would be very intrested to know (if you feel you can talk about it.).

FeelingFree

a watcher - Im really pleased for you, living with depression is horrible and I'm glad you have managed to break that cycle. I guess it can swing both ways can't it and I understand how being a witness can help that. I wish you all the best :)

Sometimes though I think it's different for born in's than one who has actively decided to study and they learning all about it for the first time. I can't speak for all born in's but I think the sense of wonder that a new study/baptised person has is not there for someone who has known about it their whole life.

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JW's and depression

by FeelingFree in

jw
friends

i was wondering how many of you suffered badly with depression when you were in "the truth" and if you feel your depression was related to being part of the organisation?

are you better now you have left or still have issue's?

whatever your experience's i would be very intrested to know (if you feel you can talk about it.).

FeelingFree

Or even your opinions haha my spelling is terrible!

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JW's and depression

by FeelingFree in

jw
friends

i was wondering how many of you suffered badly with depression when you were in "the truth" and if you feel your depression was related to being part of the organisation?

are you better now you have left or still have issue's?

whatever your experience's i would be very intrested to know (if you feel you can talk about it.).

FeelingFree

I was wondering how many of you suffered badly with depression when you were in "THE TRUTH" and if you feel your depression was related to being part of the organisation? Are you better now you have left or still have issue's? Whatever your experience's I would be very intrested to know (if you feel you can talk about it.)

The reason I ask is that myself and pretty much all my family members on my mothers side have suffered badly with bouts of depression. Mine started in my late teens which was also the time I deceided to "make the truth my own" and consequently got baptised aged 20. Now im wondering if this is just coincidence or indeed related.

Curently I am having councelling for the first time ever after having resisted for years. I have to say it's been so helpful to me and my councellor has been brilliant. It's really helped sort my head out regarding JW matters and been significant in helping me break away. I asked my councellor about depression running in families and she feels this is unfounded and it usually relates to circumstances and learned behavior. All the family members have now left and so I wonder if we all could have saved ourselves some grief by leaving the org earlier?!

Be interesting to read your oppinions :)

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My Mom Hopes I Die Before The Great Tribulation Comes

by minimus in

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friends

she told me that yesterday and i just chuckled.. .

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FeelingFree

Haha thanks for clearing that up Blondie. I did ask my husband (lurkernomore) if your were still a believer, he said no and explained what you were trying to get across. I'm just need to get used to how it all works on here, whats what, who's who etc.

Whats funny or a bit embarrasing is the fact that you seem know more about the religion I just left than I do! Shows where my head has been these past few years.....I don't think I can just blame that on having a child distracting me! :/ I was obviously "weak" for a long time...... haha

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My Mom Hopes I Die Before The Great Tribulation Comes

by minimus in

jw
friends

she told me that yesterday and i just chuckled.. .

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FeelingFree

Thanks for that Blondie. Feeling great right now! lol

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My Mom Hopes I Die Before The Great Tribulation Comes

by minimus in

jw
friends

she told me that yesterday and i just chuckled.. .

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FeelingFree

Sorry I know this is a bit off the original subject but..... yes I did think about the flood situation and Sodom and Gomorrah. But it still doesn't actually say that innocent children will die at armageddon at any point in the bible. Also no man can judge another as that is down to Jehovah but still they do it all the time. When I said to her it wasn't her place to judge and she couldn't and shouldn't say that she said "no I cant as it's not up to me, but you will die and so will they" then I said "but you cant say that because you dont get to make that decission" and it went on like that round and round for about 5 mins.... *Sigh*

By the way I have just left the Organisation and joined here yesterday. So all pretty new and raw at the moment!

Also I agree with smiddy!!

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My Mom Hopes I Die Before The Great Tribulation Comes

by minimus in

jw
friends

she told me that yesterday and i just chuckled.. .

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FeelingFree

But that makes no sense. I was always of the understanding that if you had knowledge and the opportunity to learn but you wilfully rejected the organistion and therefore Jehovah, you will not get a resesurrection even if you die before Armageddon?

Anyway I'm sorry, thats a horrible thing to have to hear from your mother. My Mother-in-Law told me yesterday that my children will die at Armageddon, I said that was utter rubbish and what kind of loving God would kill innocent children. Asked her to tell me exactly where it said that in the bible and she couldn't but she still said it was true. I told her I could not be part of something where fear was used to keep people in "the truth". Her answer was that I had never made "the truth" my own and had no faith!

These people.....