(((((Hambeak))))) This is not the first time this has been debated. In the past there were some very nasty things said, and the moderators had to lock threads and even once or twice deleted someone for inciting hatred. Those threads were confined to a gay topic matter (so not everyone may have seen them), and it seemed like the same one or two people would come in and spew forth their canned messages ala Pat Robertson. In fact I know of several gay folk who left at those times because of the vitriol.
But hey I'm still here. Mostly because I don't need to have someone else's acceptance to accept who I am. It took me a long time to get there, it was a struggle I wouldn't want to wish on anyone. But other gay ex-JWs can relate. It's one thing to leave the cult, and have brainwashing withdrawals. To also think that you are a condemned pervert because that's what you have been fed all your life, well lets just say that it takes a strong person to overcome that.
Not everyone does overcome it. My nephew snuck into a locked cabinet, loaded a pistol and killed himself rather than own up to his parents that he was gay. After all he saw first hand what the religion and the family does to gays. He has seen my older brother and myself lambasted all his lifetime. He knew that we were doubly cursed by the family and the religion, and, he believed, by god.
If in fact this person is struggling with his/her sexuality, its very common to go through a very homophobic phase as you vehemently deny who you are. You have to feel sorry for him/her. And sorry for a world where this type of struggle ends so often with a person's last breath.
Stick around, Hambeak, most on this board are loving accepting people. And the ones that aren't, well I'm glad when they speak up so I know who they are. The ones that scare me are the ones that think they are accepting, but every time they see you bring up questions as to what causes homosexuality, or who's the man, or etc.
Bless you for trying to help.
Sherry