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  religious or secular?

  by fader in

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  i have never been a religious person, despite being raised as a witness and going through the motions.

  now that i'm out, i'm not a religious person at all.

  i don't believe in god, i think there is some sort of higher power, but i'm just not that concerned with learning anything about it.

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  darkuncle29

  I am trying to be spiritually aware. Organized religion disgusts me. I am also into non-materialistic thinking; non-consumerism. I still buy things like CD and stuff, but not to MAKE me feel good or popular. I find that I don't have a need for alot of stuff.
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  Uplifting music

  by El blanko in

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  hi there and good day to you all .... i purchased an album yesterday which has just been released called immortal memory by lisa gerrard & patrick cassidy, it really is beautiful in places and has a certain uplifting meloncholy throughout.

  i know that sounds contradictory, but really, the first few tracks really tug at the heart strings.. if you need an aural and highly textured experience, this album is worth going for.

  it really helped lift my mood and is playing in the background as i work.. one track features the lords prayer sung in aramaic taken from the peshitta version of the holy scriptures.. if you do not know who lisa gerrard is, she used to sing with a group called dead can dance and is probably most noted for her vocal work in the film gladiator.

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  darkuncle29

  I listen to anything except Rap and modern country. What I like that you might relate to? How about Charlotte Church(spelling???), she does the vocal for the A Beautiful Mind music score. I think the Gladiator will be my next sound track that I buy.

  My best friend just got done recording an album, it is being mixed and edited at this time. His songs are all a little different. One sounds like Nickleback, another like Jane's Addiction. I like the music he and his buddy are doing, I'd actually buy a copy.

  I sometimes listen to trance/electronica when doing Tai Chi or meditating; that can get weird though.
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  Are you happy or are you sad with your life now? WHY?

  by fearnotruth22 in

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  being a jw has affected our life.

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  darkuncle29

  I am content with my life. I see my JW experience as a valuable commodity. The lessons were at times painful, but I am thankful for them. I now know what it feels like to have ones beliefs and views manipulated; or would that be manipulated by ones views and beliefs? How many people who have never been JWs can say that? I know that there are people who have probably learned that lesson elsewhere. I am just saying that JW are one school for that valuable life lesson.

  I am content with my life because I see possibilities before me now, that before I was unaware of. If given the opportunity to live my life over, I would hope that I did things better, but I would not change facing the choices that I had to make. I try and keep that in my mind when I am faced with choices now.
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  Do you ever mention to anyone you were a JW ??? or keep it secret ???

  by run dont walk in

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  workmates, friends, school friends etc,.

  do you ever mention it, or if someone asks you your religion, do you ever mention it, or keep it in your past ??

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  darkuncle29

  To people that knew me as a JW, school or work, I usually tell them bluntly that I am no longer a JW. Some of them ask and we talk about it. Others do not. I consider my anti-witnessing very important, but I try not to be whoo-hoo about it.
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  Are You Still Torn, Wondering Whether You Made The Right Decision To Leave?

  by minimus in

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  are you 100% sure you're doing the right thing??

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  My only regret is that I did not get out sooner. I wasted my 20's trying to figure out god and sexuality. I am glad I experienced what I did, many lessons there. But I still wish that I'd gotten out sooner. I now seem to be stuck in the "getting on with life" step.
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  Is the WTs God's chosen or a phoney? PROVE IT!

  by fearnotruth22 in

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  what is the basis for disqualification?

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  darkuncle29

  Prove it! I think their track record the past 120+ years is more damaging than anything that I could say. For me, that is proof enough. I do thank the WTS; without them, I would still likely be a christian in some form.
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  The biggest LIE you believed as a JW...

  by Waymores Ghost in

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  for me it was the belief that all people who refuse to become jws are intrinsically bad.

  if someone doesn't accept the "truth", naturally it's because "satan-the-devil" has hardened their hearts.

  when you're a dub, you tend to ignore the ramifications of this.

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  The whole thing. The house of glass ws destroyed for me during the course of a four hour conversation with my best friend, also ExJW. Having your world view ripped out of your mind that way is very traumatic. I thank him for that every time I see him.
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  Help with Grief

  by Sirona in

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  i'd appreciate any links or book recommendations to help with grief.

  i've searched the net, but thought that you would all have some good input.

  basically i'm trying to help someone very close to me who is shattered with grief (the death happened only 2 days ago).. please tell me about your own experiences in helping someone in this situation.

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  darkuncle29

  I totaly agree with these:

  What I have done was just to be in their company and keep my words to a limit. It's a time of grief.

  and this is second nature:

  Be there, LONG after the event, and remember the anniversary

  Give plenty of hugs, if they can tolerate the contact, or just hold a hand

  Be responsive when all they need is a little space from folks

  Be willing to let go and cry with them

  As the days move on, do things with them and fill the time, without cramming it to "forget"

  Expect relapses of strong emotion, long after the event

  Time can heal, if used correctly

  Grief is rarely quick, hence only time will help it fade

  Silence can often be better than empty platitudes

  Those around the griever can often by affected sympathetically

  bold emphasis is mine...

  Sometimes just having a second body there is good.
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  Do you fear a final judgement?

  by fearnotruth22 in

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  we dont know one way or another if we will have to be judged by god and possibly punished for our "sins" better safe than sorry?

  or, just do what makes you happy and worry about it when the times comes?

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  That is one of my favorite movies. My favorite is Fight Club. I like both movies, not because of the violence, but because of how the characters interact, think, and feel. I am intruiged by their assumptions and motivations.

  When it somes to inteligent debate, I am usually sloppy and lazy. I am not very effective at communicating my true nature, motives,intentions or feelings. I usually get frustrated and give up or do ahalf assed job. FWIW, I think you're interesting. Later.
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  The Awakening

  by darkuncle29 in

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  i don't remember where i found this, could have even found it here.

  i don't remember reading it before, and i know i didn't write this.

  i still think it is profound though.

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  darkuncle29

  Thank you Winston. Coming from you that means alot to me. I respect and admire you for what you are experienceing in your life.