so as you all know, my wife and i are not officially df or da.. a small event happened this week that i have to share!.
a family that we were really close to (dinners and catch ups several times a month , go out socially often, play sport together, helped them through tough times, like uncle and aunty to their kids, etc).
the wife's father died.
Stillin said it perfectly, "We just don't fit the profile anymore."
Someone posted one time that as soon as you show signs that you are "weak", if JW's can not "fix" you, they will dehumanize you. You are no longer a human to them. Sad but true. They can't and won't get it, UNTIL IT HAPPENS TO THEM.
... you are told to trust the slave as you do jehovah and jesus..
.....you are shown a video that encourages you to NOT pick up the phone when your DF'd kid calls.
http://www.philly.com/philly/news/jehovahs-witnesses-sexual-abuse-children-beliefs-rules.html.
Fantastic!!!
I often think of all those who had to sit in front of 3 "men" and pour out their soul and all the details of their "sin." It must suck for WT to be on the other side of the table.
Our thoughts and hearts go out to those child victims that no one wanted to help. This child abuse issue has been going on for years and is now biting WT in the a*s! Our thoughts and hearts go out to those who lost loved ones due to suicide because of WT's barbaric shunning policy.
Great article. Thank you for sharing.
i was informed by my jw father tonight that the reason i don't go to meetings is because "of a guilty conscious".
i just done an eye roll and walked away.
i just can't make this stuff up..
I would respond, "the only thing I feel guilty about is spending way too long listening and following WT bulls*it."
Let them believe what they want, they are stuck in a cult. YOU ARE FREE!!!
just had to share... a former friend of my wife's, has just left our house, unbeknown to us, her and her husband have been inactive for about a year and a half, they have pre teen boys too.
she reached out to my wife as she had heard that we were apostates etc and needed someone to talk to.. .
after her father dying she was in a bad place mentally and emotionally and reached out to her cong for support, apon receiving 0 she turned to the bible for comfort only in her raw emotional state to realize that jehovah was a murderous unfair god and then her wheels of rational reasoning started turning.. she questioned things and was outspoken about things and attracted elder attention... long story short she wanted to connect with a friendly ear and she splurged she's never going back, the bible is all bulls**t and it's a cult, despite not knowing most of ttatt we all shared experiences and watched her eyes boggle at (stuckinarut... the first euphoric high) the un scandal, beth sarim, ray franz, 607, arc.
These are the experiences that excite us!!! When you no longer attend meetings and can not see with your physical eye, the decline, it constantly makes you wonder what is going on inside.I can see on this forum and others that people ARE waking up. When you are still in the cult and you experience the lack of love it shatters you. Once you learn TTATT and find out you were in a cult, your jaw hits the floor.
It's cool that you were there for them. I couldn't have done this exit alone, it's tough.
Great news!!! Thank you for sharing.
i've noticed in the past 10 years that the social support that used to be available in the congs, a shoulder to cry on, elders to help with family/marriage issues these seem to have been purposely withdrawn.
counsel is even heard from the platform that the elders are not there to help people with their problems.. so first in the 80s-90s they take away the congregation get to getters and social events and now they seem to be going one step further in taking away the emotional support for people too.. this will take away an aspect that i'm sure was keeping alot of people in the borg, the community support.
if that's not there and its just about meetings and ministry how many will start to get their emotional support elsewhere?.
We received zero emotional support several years ago. A real wake up call!!! The Elders couldn't even show a bit of concern for our family. I would like to personally thank them all. We wouldn't be here today (out of the cult) if it wasn't for the "loving concern from the Elder body." lol
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yj7ilnoxvu4.
she helped me.
sent me my first copy of crisis of conscience (free) grace has been featured on many talk shows, including sally jesse raphael, raising awareness of support for cult abuse survivors.
RIP Grace (Mouthy). You will be missed.
"oh i'm not going to worry about it, armageddon will be here by then!".
-including me.
"Jehovah will take care of it, in his due time."
Yadda, yadda, yadda!!!
you start listening to music deemed "unsuitable for christians".
you pretend to knock on the doors.
you explain a jw teaching to someone and realize how ridiculous it sounds.
...when you tell still in JW's that you are truly happier out than in and they seem pissed off and perplexed by your happiness.
avon lake ohio.
while new mega church being built right down the street!.
That is a beautiful site!!!! Maybe WT will sell it to a church. They sold ours to a church a couple of years ago. Let's see....I can't do any work for a church and it's up to my conscience if I want to go to a wedding or funeral at a church but it's ok for WT to sell a dedicated KH to a church? You just can't make this sh*t up!!!!
