You are 2 brave and courageous women. I am so sorry and sad to hear your story.
It doesn't surprise me to hear the congregation turned there back on you. Like you told your daughter, it is what they do. We are born ins and we have observed this unloving/inhumane behavior all of our lives.
It's incredible that this man turned and blew a kiss. True evil!
We will keep you both in our thoughts.