There solution to EVERY problem is meeting attendance, field serve us, etc. They just don't get it. Once you know TTATT there is NO going back. They just can not get that!
It is a good thing that your marriage is more stable. You can control the Elders and your parents. YOU are in control. You DO NOT have to tell them ANYTHING.
We have been out for almost 3 years. Our family/friends still to this day do not know why. In fact, they do not really know that we are OUT. It actually is a fun game to play.
It was VERY loving of your husband to take you to a movie and dinner. If you play your cards right, you will have many more dinners, movies and most importantly FREEDOM! You may have to sacrifice your family and friends to get there but it is so worth it. Hopefully, your husband will remain on your side.