Posts by J-DUBBED

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How to wake up and reverse the trance???

by J-DUBBED in

how do you wake up someone taken from us by these screwed up people?.

our son was hooked by a jw at the age of 25. within 3 months they were married and we never even new about it.

he is now 29 and has nothing to do with his family(except his sister the odd time, when he needs something) of any freinds.. we are lost and have been for four years.. .

J-DUBBED

Hi J-DUBBED, It sounds like your son's weakness is his daughter. Have you contacted your son's ex-girl friend and told her about cult-exit counselors such as Steve Hassan's methods for helping someone to critically think for themselves as well as not going off on tangents when feeling cognitive dissonance. At least send your grand-daughter's mother the following video by Steven Hassan so that she can help her daughter to critically think for herself: Strategic Interactive Approach explained 2003 (1:23:23) .
Best of wishes helping your family members.
Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,
Robert

The problem is there are two Grandaughters. One four year old from the ex-gf and one two year old with his new bride. Just don't know how to approach him with these conversations. For a couple weeks talking to him was not a problem.......Because nothing was brought up about Religion or his wife.

I also can't open that link you posted.

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How to wake up and reverse the trance???

by J-DUBBED in

how do you wake up someone taken from us by these screwed up people?.

our son was hooked by a jw at the age of 25. within 3 months they were married and we never even new about it.

he is now 29 and has nothing to do with his family(except his sister the odd time, when he needs something) of any freinds.. we are lost and have been for four years.. .

J-DUBBED

Are these verses out of their own bible?

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How to wake up and reverse the trance???

by J-DUBBED in

how do you wake up someone taken from us by these screwed up people?.

our son was hooked by a jw at the age of 25. within 3 months they were married and we never even new about it.

he is now 29 and has nothing to do with his family(except his sister the odd time, when he needs something) of any freinds.. we are lost and have been for four years.. .

J-DUBBED

There are some scriptures about honoring your parents and older people. There are others about it being sinful to have no natural affection for your family. Those might help.

I wish I knew what those were.

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How to wake up and reverse the trance???

by J-DUBBED in

how do you wake up someone taken from us by these screwed up people?.

our son was hooked by a jw at the age of 25. within 3 months they were married and we never even new about it.

he is now 29 and has nothing to do with his family(except his sister the odd time, when he needs something) of any freinds.. we are lost and have been for four years.. .

J-DUBBED

Have been love-bombing our boy for a while and slowly talking to him. Just him but not his wife. Today in a conversation him and my wife and I, the question about Birthdays come up. My wife asked if it's alright to by his young 2 year old daughter a Birthday gift. He says no we don't believe in that. I said what if we wrap a gift in plain paper that doesn't say anything about birthday on it. He was kind of blank. I asked him how he enjoyed that stuff when he was 4 or 5 years old. He said it was fun. I said well why can't the kid's have fun too? Again kind of blank. He would keep bringing up how the Bible opened his eyes with life. How he will die and be resurrected into a new world. He was always saying he'll show us all kind of scriptures in the bible. I said why can't you people accept people the way they are but you expect us to accept you? Keeps going off on a tangent "I can't explain but I can show you in the bible".

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Dylan Boe - another dead miserable wretch

by Kent in

jw
friends

victim hung on to faith .

by mike o'brien.

dylan boe held on to his faith until the end.. the 19-year-old was the only one of four young friends who wasn't immediately killed in a two-vehicle crash near melville, saturday.. like preston presiloski, adam anderson and elisha stasiuk, boe was a jehovah's witness.

J-DUBBED

Well most assure it's still a "Cult" and obviously you got "Pulled" in and "Cultivated" somehow................Koolaid or not.

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Dylan Boe - another dead miserable wretch

by Kent in

jw
friends

victim hung on to faith .

by mike o'brien.

dylan boe held on to his faith until the end.. the 19-year-old was the only one of four young friends who wasn't immediately killed in a two-vehicle crash near melville, saturday.. like preston presiloski, adam anderson and elisha stasiuk, boe was a jehovah's witness.

J-DUBBED

You say "Is it a cult? No."

Well you're one of few.....................Most on here that are Ex J-Dubs say it's a cult.

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New layout feels very chaotic

by EndofMysteries in

i don't really know how to describe the feeling but i'll give examples, but the new layout to me makes it feel tiring being on for too long.

1. there is the top menu, then a big add between that and the next part, a big ad between the bottom and where you reply, then on the right column you either have 2 ads on top or some type of summary, then ad, then either related posts or other areas.

there are no borders, the adds have the same color and text type but larger font, and it all seems chaotically merged into one thing where you need to constantly sort out what you are viewing.

J-DUBBED

J-DUBBED, for that, you just have to select "none" in the "snippet" part at the top right of the list of topic

Wow that worked................Never new of such a thing. Now I sort of now what a "Snippet" is.

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New layout feels very chaotic

by EndofMysteries in

i don't really know how to describe the feeling but i'll give examples, but the new layout to me makes it feel tiring being on for too long.

1. there is the top menu, then a big add between that and the next part, a big ad between the bottom and where you reply, then on the right column you either have 2 ads on top or some type of summary, then ad, then either related posts or other areas.

there are no borders, the adds have the same color and text type but larger font, and it all seems chaotically merged into one thing where you need to constantly sort out what you are viewing.

J-DUBBED

Couldn't there just be the thread topic shown rather than the topic and lines of text??

It so congested because you have to view the content along with the topic.

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Contact me for forum issues

by Simon in

i am going to switch the site over in the next hour, if you have any problems then contact me ([email protected]) and include as much information as possible about what is wrong, what you were expecting, what browser and version you are using etc... i'll also be monitoring the logs to proactively spot issues.. please be patient - i may be working on issues in preference to replying so don't get antsy if you don't get an immediate reply :).

unless there is a catastrophic problem i'll probably try and work through any issues but if things do go pear shaped when i might switch back to the old site.

if this happens then anything posted on the new one *may* be lost so hold off posting anything important without keeping a copy just in case.. .

J-DUBBED

Also if want to "Quote" someones post it doesn't work right. If you do the quote first then you can't get out of it to type your post. So what I tried and it worked was, you have to type your post first. Then cursor to the beginning of the post and insert the quote.

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Contact me for forum issues

by Simon in

i am going to switch the site over in the next hour, if you have any problems then contact me ([email protected]) and include as much information as possible about what is wrong, what you were expecting, what browser and version you are using etc... i'll also be monitoring the logs to proactively spot issues.. please be patient - i may be working on issues in preference to replying so don't get antsy if you don't get an immediate reply :).

unless there is a catastrophic problem i'll probably try and work through any issues but if things do go pear shaped when i might switch back to the old site.

if this happens then anything posted on the new one *may* be lost so hold off posting anything important without keeping a copy just in case.. .

J-DUBBED

Hi, Simon,
I still have a -1 next to the message envelope. Not sure why. I opened all the messages that were sent to me just in case I hadn't read one. Thought I would mention it to you.

~LQ

Don't feel bad.......I have 24.