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  questions

  by DanielC in

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  i've been dating a jw girl for about 4 years and we've recently had a lot of issues with the fact that her family doesn't like that i'm not a jw.

  i've been looking into the religion and am interested in it.

  but is it wrong to join just so i don't lose her?

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  out4good4

  That must be one spectacular piece of a$$ to make you want to go and change your whole life to suit the JW mood she's in.

  You might want to look up the posts by a member here SD7 and take what he did as an object lesson.
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  What bad habits have you picked up since leaving the Borg.

  by James Mixon in

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  i went back to smoking and gambling but the good habits out weigh.

  the bad ones, like lying to people.

  is't fraud against the law, the practice.

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  out4good4

  Well.....I got into the bad habit of going to college and finishing 4 college degrees, learning how to fly single engine aircraft, and more than quadrupling my income.......

  .....all the things that will take time away from ensuring my everlasting life by wasting valuable and precious time going door to door schlepping useless magazines.
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  Setback

  by EdenOne in

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  2. experiences

  i saw this coming since my mother-in-law's funeral .... the congregation's "love-bombing" over my wife had its impact.

  i watched her drawing closer and closer to her friends in the congregation.

  then she decided she would attend the memorial.

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  out4good4

  As was pointed out, some people just prefer the Watchtower religion and don't care if they are being manipulated and lied to, any more than black people as a group don't care that Obama has lied to them about his muslim, marxist and gay proclivities.

  Oh jeez..........
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  Active posters: What education have you had, what degrees do you possess?

  by EndofMysteries in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  from so many posts and conversations on here, you'd think over 1/2 the posters here possess doctorates in theology, physics, biology, etc.

  i'm curious aside from the books and research people have done here, what degrees they have.

  to start, i just got an aa and going straight through full time to an mba.

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  out4good4

  AAS Electronics

  AA General Studies

  BAAS Applied Administration (the equivalent of a general business degree)

  MS Technology Management

  I'd have to say that the most challenging and rewarding work I've done was the work to get my Masters Degree. Didn't really need it for the job I hold, but, I wanted it in my pocket just in case.
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  I have a serious problem

  by My Name is of No Consequence in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i have a serious problem that i cannot solve on my own.

  i was born-in but am only in by a thread at this point.

  i quit the tms a few weeks ago and wrote a post on it.

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  out4good4

  MNIONC: I texted this brother last night and said that we need to talk THIS WEEK. He texted that he would get back to me. We'll see what happens.

  
  

  Agreed with Oub.....

  This guy is just putting you off and laying claim to the superior position by making you wait for him.....probably for a time when it would be convenient for him to have another brother around so that they can tag team you with WT bullshit. He's wearing you down....making you play the waiting game because as long as you do and are willing to wait he can extract more concessions out of you.

  The son being your step son does put you in a somewhat sensitive and somewhat emasculating position even though you've been father to the boy for most of his life. Its a disheartening thing to see.

  From the looks of it, it doesn't matter what you do, there is going to be considerable and significant blowback. You seem to be waiting for the right time and sequence of things to do.......in the meantime you're losing sleep and worrying yourself sick over the way you are being treated. As Dr. Phil would say...."Hows that working out for you?"

  You probably need to take some kind.....any kind of concrete action if not for your son or your wife's sake, but for your own and fiure out a way once and for all to put this behind you.

  "if it's going down, let's get it over with".
  
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  Introducing my self

  by WasOnceBlind in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i stumbled upon this site about a week ago while googling a question.

  the question was "why can't jw's have beards?

  " i read the responses and realized the truth in them.

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  out4good4

  Yeah.....the old "sunk cost" fallacy rears its ugly head......
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  I have a serious problem

  by My Name is of No Consequence in

  1. jw
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  i have a serious problem that i cannot solve on my own.

  i was born-in but am only in by a thread at this point.

  i quit the tms a few weeks ago and wrote a post on it.

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  out4good4

  how is it that she does not "allow" a father to talk to his son alone......
  

  What is she, a helicopter mom hovering around him every minute of every day?
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  I have a serious problem

  by My Name is of No Consequence in

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  i have a serious problem that i cannot solve on my own.

  i was born-in but am only in by a thread at this point.

  i quit the tms a few weeks ago and wrote a post on it.

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  out4good4

  You definitely have some merit in the way you feel.

  Your wife, along with this "brother" is totally disrespecting and circumventing your authority,boundary, and space. They have, in effect dismissed you as the boys father.

  If it were me, I'd show up after one of their weekend meetings and demand to meet with the whole body of elders and point blank them on what is going on and ask if they would tolerate such disrespect in their own home.

  Play the headship card.

  Barring that, I would withdraw my "ble$$ings" and start proceedings for kicking her ass to the curb for disrespecting me in such a way. If she and the brothers want to go there, I'd make damn sure they would be holding the bag for paying for it.
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  memorial campaing experience

  by antes8080 in

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  so a friend from work had a get togather to watch ncaa basketball this pass weekend and i went on saturday morning as we wer watching the game some one rings the doorbell and my friend gos to the door he is there maybe a minute or so, he walks back into the room and screams outloud !!!

  "yes i got invited" and starts laughing as other see what he was talking about .

  someone sais " i hate those door knockers".

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  out4good4

  I was wondering why my wife is always making it a point to give me a personal invitation to that wastefest.......as if I didn't see that stack of litter-ature lying on the bar.
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  Devouring the Forbidden Fruit - Higher Education

  by cappytan in

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  well, i told my wife over the weekend i was going to go back school to finish my degree.

  she is 100% supportive of it!

  apparently she doesn't think higher education is so evil either.. since my former major was computer programming and that was in the late 1990's, i was told i'd have to retake a bunch of classes since times have changed.

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  out4good4

  ou can do pretty much anything related to education as long as you don't promote education to the congregation. I was an elder going to graduate school. I never told anyone and if anyone asked I simply said that my employer required me to go to school

  
  

  Ahh.......the self-deprecation required to remain in good standing as a JW rears its ugly head again........