John Man I don't need a totalitarian dictator in the sky telling me how I should act. In fact the most effective method I have found with my children is the principle of empathy. Not hard. No god needed. It also has a clear evolutionary explanation unrelated to Cofty. If he is your reference point you really haven't done your research.
Look to see how many people have died of AIDS in Africa due to the Catholic position. It's disgusting. But it fits within the narrative of the cult of human sacrifice that all theists believe in. Truly disgusting.