I got 105.35
Like my fiance says, I must have spent too much time listening to the radio.....ha ha ha I had all those songs playing in my head as I was completing the quiz......la la la
Posts by Alana
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Blood family vs. adopted family
by jws inmy wife and i are trying to decide where our children should go in the event of our deaths and have narrowed it down to either my brother and his wife or my wife's sister and her husband.
there are pros and cons for each, but one thing in particular seems important to me.
my wife is adopted.
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Alana
As an adopted child myself, I have to admit that I do take offense at your reasoning. However, not being adopted, you apparently do not understand the dynamics of what truly equals 'family'. I know both my birth parents and I love them and have discovered many 'genetic' similarities, etc. But does that make them more tied to me than the parents who raised me, loved me, nursed me through thick and thin? No, there is more of a bond with whomever raises the child, even if there is love for all. Do I think genetics will make better parenting? No way! It's the bond, the love, how well they can provide for the children, etc. Your wife's family are not outsiders and I'm sad that you feel like they are not as much family as your genetic family. There are people in my family--genetic and adopted that I would consider ok to take over parenting of my daughter and some in both that I wouldn't let take care of her for a day! Genetics have nothing to do with it. This is a topic on which I'm very vocal about, being adopted.....I love all my family and do not think less of those who are not 'blood', or think more of my daughter's father's family because they are related by blood to her......in fact, that grandma is a fanatical JW, as well as having some mental problems, so I wouldn't want my daughter raised by her primarily for those reasons....even if she was the only 'genetic' relative left. Just my two cents. :-)
~"Alana"
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He totally blew smoke up my a$$!!
by LovesDubs ini hope you all remember me...a few months back i wrote and said that my husband who is a jw...a very passive agressive jw...told me i was satan's minion and that my literature on the shelf had demons that were attacking his jw literature and he moved all of his literature to our bedroom floor.
he also said that my activities online were going directly against jehovah and that it was destroying our marriage.
being as we have three young kids, and he wasnt going to meetings much anyway...i decided it would be a small thing for me to give up my online persona and remove my literature to save the marriage.
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Alana
((((((LUVS)))))))
Dawn,
I remember you from AOL....not sure if you remember little o'le me or not.... when you were still up here in cold Illinois! I have to say that it was some of your posts online and in chat rooms which helped me along in my exiting the JWs, handling JW relatives or ones from the KH, etc....you were one of the first ones who I met online. When I read your post a while back stating you were deleting your AOL persona and no longer posting I was saddened by it, but understood your reasons. I'm so glad that you are back online, although I'm not so glad at what you are going through. That "theocratic warfare" can be a real bitch.....and I truly feel like that is what this is....in his mind, he/JWs are right and that can justify just about any treatment, whether 'Christian-like' or not. Keep your spirits up and you can always look to us for support!
~Alana
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Country Quizzzzzz
by Xena inwhat country are you...gonna lmao if simon takes this and is the us
http://bluepyramid.org/ia/cquiz.htm
you're thailand!.
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Alana
You're Malta!
With a strange attraction to crosses and falcons, you are one of the most mysterious and unknown people in your group of friends, your community, or pretty much any category you want to mention. You keep to yourself, but see yourself as a knight in shining armor, ready to rescue people if they weren't so far away. Still, people are fascinated by you if they've heard of you, which most of them haven't. -
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Alana
In our area, at least, AWANA is associated with the Baptist Church. In several of the local cities/towns, it seems to be held at and I thought was part of the Baptist Church.
~"Alana"
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Just curious...
by kj inhow many of you were actually brought into the jws by someone at your door?
how many were born in or brought in by family?.
kj
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Alana
I was adopted into a JW family at age 2.
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Medical question re: immune system, viruses, etc.
by cruzanheart inalright, all you smart people out there, help me out with this one: jackson (our 7-year-old) has tons of allergies, eczema, and occasional asthma.
in the past year or two it appears that he has become very susceptible to viruses.
a year and a half ago he got what the doctor diagnosed as a sinus infection and he was put on antibiotics.
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Alana
This may not be applicable, but I've had similar problems in my life. Now, as an adult, I have finally been diagnosed with an autoimmune disorder....that is where I actually have an overactive immune system and my body doesn't always differentiate between my own cells and foreign cells, so it sometimes fights itself. When it flares up, I run low-grade fevers, that sometimes go higher, in the evenings, have joint pain and swelling, and just feel rotten. I sometimes seem to have one viral thing after another. One year I have strep throat for 6-months in a row and had to have heavy duty antibiotic shots to finally get through that....and I have been tested and have many allergies and had asthma as a kid. I had all those wonderful allergy tests and was also allergic to most things grown up here in IL. It was frustrating growing up, as I was sick alot and they'd give me antibiotics or just say it was viral and would work it's way out. They also then treated me for rheumatoid arthritis, because of the joint problems. I'm somewhat better as an adult, and thankful that at least they found a reason why, in my case, even if they still say it is 'ill-defined' or non-specific autoimmune disorder. Like I said, it may not be applicable in your case, but if it goes on and on, perhaps they could run an ANA test, to see if there is any autoimmunity problem. Wish you all the best!
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My father passed away....
by Alana ini know that i don't post often, but i read this board daily.
anyway, i just wanted to pass on the information that my father passed away last week.
he was 81 and in semi-poor health.
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Alana
Thank you all very much for your kind responses. It really means alot to me.
Someone wondered if I read the posts here daily, and yes, I do. I know that you all are a compassionate (and quite entertaining at times!) bunch. Even though I'm a quiet one here, there have been other times when posted items have been very helpful to me, and sometimes even to know that there are others out there who have felt as I have or gone through similar experiences....it really does help people. I am so thankful to all your condolences and, in general, for just being here each day!
Thank you very much, my cyber-friends!
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My father passed away....
by Alana ini know that i don't post often, but i read this board daily.
anyway, i just wanted to pass on the information that my father passed away last week.
he was 81 and in semi-poor health.
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Alana
I know that I don't post often, but I read this board daily. Anyway, I just wanted to pass on the information that my father passed away last week. He was 81 and in semi-poor health. He has fallen several times, had to be admitted and then be in the nursing home for therapy. He had just been out of the nursing home this time less than 1 week when he fell again. Only this time he hit his head and got an internal bleed. He went into a coma and there was nothing they could do for him. It was very sad to just sit there for hours, periodically talking with him while he was in the coma, and wait for him to die.
I am just so very glad that just a couple of weeks before this my fiance and I announced our engagement to him. He was so happy. Even though I am no longer a JW and my fiance never has been, he truly liked him and I think that in his mind he felt more at ease knowing I'd found such a nice man.
Anyway, I was dreading the Memorial Service (he was cremated and there was no funeral home thing) at the KH that I grew up in. My dad was PO was many years and also the Circuit Assembly Overseer for many years, so everyone seemed to know him in this and surrounding Circuits. The main thing I dreaded was expecting the usual 'JW Propaganda Talk' and all those people wondering where I have been the past 8 years....but, I was pleasantly surprised. Unlike the normal talks, which hardly spoke about the deceased and just preached to people, the brother who did the talk did an excellent job. He spoke alot about my dad, his likes, events in his life, and the talk was not too "JW-like". That meant alot to me, as well as to my worldly relatives.
People were not snotty to me, as I expected. I am not DF'd or DA'd, but some in the past have chosen to shun me or cut me off from communications. But even those spoke to me and were kind.
However, my fiance and I have recently moved to a new area, so, now that that was stated in the obituary, I'm just waiting to see if I get a sheparding call or something. Oh well....if they do, they do. I just wanted to relate an actual good experience at the service, rather than what I had expected.
Thanks for listening......
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What's the most hypocritical thing(s) you've ever seen a JW do?
by Steve Lowry inup high on my list has to be when a jw co-worker named john fitzgerald tore into me one morning (when i was coming in late for work) for grabbing a quick piece of cake from the lunch room.
turns out, someone in this small little office had brought in the remainder of their birthday cake for folks at work to finish up eating.
john was older than i and a ministerial servant (ooh) and felt it his responsibility to keep me on the straight and narrow.
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Alana
I don't know if this would necessarily be the MOST hypocritical, as I'm sure there are other acts to choose from, but I know that one year I got really tweaked at a local MS. You see, we were going to celebrate my ex's parent's anniversary with a picnic out on the farm we lived on at the time (his dad was not a JW)....it happened to be July 3rd. We had some bring some cool fireworks to shoot off....just because we could in the country. Well, the MS heard about this and called to say that he didn't feel this was appropriate, because it could give the impression to 'neighbors' that we were celebrating the 4th of July....even if it was just the 3rd. He even said that we still planned to do this, that he and his wife would not be able to attend the picnic, as it would bother their consciences. I just said that we'd miss them.
What makes this hypocritical is that this same MS and all his family would always be sure to go to this one smorgasbord restaurant every year on their birthdays, to get a free meal! They would all go together and the 'birthday person' would get a free meal. I told him that the supposed impression we might make to neighbors miles away, wasn't as bad as the impression they would give to all in the restaurant, especially the cashier, that they were celebrating their birthdays. He got quiet....didn't say much, but that it wasn't the same, they knew they weren't celebrating, it was just a free meal. Yeah, right......well, we weren't celebrating either...it was just free fireworks. That shut him up, but it still was a "thing" in the congregation for a while......and how we were just so 'rebellious'. ha ha
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