Your writing really touched me. I can relate to the part of having the non-JW husband being so wonderful, as I have truly experienced that myself. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Posts by Alana
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18Slaying the Demons in My Basement, Part Two
by Fleur incontinued from part one: .
the envelope was thick and so i knew that it had to contain pictures.
when i opened it, faded snapshots .
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Back From Our Honeymoon!
by Yizuman inwell, we're back guys!
we really miss our hotel, wished we could stay 1 week longer!
we had a great time together, despite of a few design flaws in our handicapped designed room (my wife is a double amputee).
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Alana
Yiz,
{{{{{{CONGRATULATIONS!!}}}}}}
I didn't even know you were engaged. I wish you and your wife the best in your life together!
~Alana
ps....is it the Indiana State Fair you are going to? We always went there when I lived in Indy....it's a great fair....actually better than our Illinois State Fair. My favorite things: the food.....don't miss the grilled cheese sandwiches and the chocolate milk at the Dairy Barn....I know it sounds like something for kids, but they are really good!!
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Ever wonder if an old friend turned apostate?
by beautifulisfree ini often wonder if my old witness friends from my past are still in the 'truth' (god i hope not)?
i know this site is pretty popular amongst ex-witnesses.
and since most of us have 'fake names'...we could be talking to someone that we already know.
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Alana
I knew a few JW's who were considered weak when I left in 1988. I suspect that half of them have faded out of the Org. (my ex-wife included) They weren't too weak to remember to shun me though, at the time. I doubt any JW's from the Lutz,Fl , Danville , Watseca, Georgetown or Rossville,Illinois Congs. are posters here. But if so, Howdy.
Moshe,
You have a PM. IL Circuit 3 was my home circuit as I was growing up and I attended more than one of those congregations. Maybe we know each other????
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Had to put my Cat to sleep last night - very sad!
by lovelylil ini am really sad today and miss my cat already.
he would have been 16 in november.
i found him out on the street when he was a year old.
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Alana
{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}
I feel for you and am sorry for your loss. I just had to put my beagle to sleep two weeks ago yesterday. Our pets are truly part of our families and show us how to love unconditionally. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
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will be gone for awhile.
by purplesofa in.
i cant email everyone ....dont have time.
my brother committed suicide.... have to be out of town for awhile.. purps
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Alana
{{{{{{purplesofa}}}}}}
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You will be in my thoughts.
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Disaster Preparedness Announcement
by daniel-p intonight would have been my long meeting but i didn't attend.
however, my wife attended and she just came back and told me about an announcement they made in the form of a "letter to all congregations..." aparently they (wts) want everyone to be prepared for disasters and measures will be taken to make sure congregations and their members are prepared.
each member will provide their number, cell numbers, and numbers of close relatives.
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Alana
In the past, I thought they were discouraged from keeping records to that degree on people...you know.....just in case the government turns against them.
I was wondering the exact same thing. I remember when I was a kid (about 10 or so) my dad told me that there will come a time when the police will come to get me and will torcher me so I will tell them where everyone lives. Now all of the sudden they want to compile a list. Won't that just give the expected gestapo police what they want?
You all beat me to it. I also remember how we used to have a congregation listing with names, addresses, and phone numbers. This was distributed to anyone in the congregation who wanted it. My dad (meaning, of course, ME) took care of updating it. Then after some meeting with the CO or something, this was suddenly wrong and we were to destroy all copies and not keep any kind of personal list of our own at home, in case of persecution. That way the authorities would not be able to track down the entire congregation and throw us all in prison (like in Nazi times), etc..... So, I wonder why no concern for that now? (I used to also update the listing of all the elders for each congregation in the circuit......wouldn't that be fun to have? )
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Spent time in the ER this weekend with my husband........seizures.......
by Alana inmy husband has epilepsy, but only nocturnal seizures and he has had it very much under control.
in fact, in the 5 years that we've been together, i've only witnessed about 5 or so seizures....and they have been mild ones.
however, due to the side effects of his meds (weight gain, etc.
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Alana
My husband has epilepsy, but only nocturnal seizures and he has had it very much under control. In fact, in the 5 years that we've been together, I've only witnessed about 5 or so seizures....and they have been mild ones.
However, due to the side effects of his meds (weight gain, etc.) his neurologist has been transitioning him to a new medication. Well, last week he had a seizure...on the day that my mom had surgery and our dog had to be put to sleep after a sudden illness and we buried him that evening. He was very upset and thought that the stress contributed to his seizure. But this Friday night started out cool and ended up a nightmare. We went out to eat and picked out cool costumes for a 60's birthday surprize party that we were planning to go to on Saturday night. We dressed up and surprized his grandma and parents with our cool costumes and had so much fun. But, he zoned out as we went to sleep and couldn't speak, so I knew he might have a seizure. But, I had no idea that he'd have several in a row....he woke me up about 2:45 with the first. I couldn't control him and he fell out of bed and bit his tongue...so he was bleeding.....when it stopped he was able to go to the bathroom and got sick. He still couldn't communicate and just as things calmed down, he started into another longer one and then into a third. By that time it had been almost 45 minutes straight and I barely was able to get away to call the ambulance. He fought the EMTs and was combative.....which is soooooooo unlike him. I have never seen anything like this in my life and I was scared to death. We spent several hours at the hospital while they got him calmed and coherent again. He spent all day Saturday very sick and couldn't keep anything down (except, thank God, for his upped up dosage of meds). I was awake for over 24 hours in a row and was exhausted. He's better today and has been sleeping alot, but thankfully no more seizures.
I'm just glad things are calming down. Does anyone here have seizures or a family member who has them? Have you ever experienced such major episodes? My mother-in-law said that this happened this bad two other times....both during transitions to new medications. I was afraid to sleep in case he had another when we got home....thus my being up so long in a row.
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Use the Elder's own rules against them......
by AK - Jeff inthe elder's handbook gives specific areas in which tactics might be developed by some to avoid unwanted disfellowshippings - .
the following appears in that manual - .
baptized persons who have not associated for some time .. if you learn of serious wrongdoing on the part of such a. person, the matter should be investigated if it poses a. threat to the congregation's cleanness and welfare or causes.
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Alana
I used this section of the Flock book in a letter I sent several years ago to my former BOE, in which I also incorporated 'cease & desist' language, stated that I would pursue legal action if they made any announcements about me from the stage or spread around anything to the congregation, etc. I can't even remember now what I said, but in my case it appeared to work. However, I don't think it was so much what I said or threatened as it was that my father was well known in the circuit and at that time was elderly and not in good health. So, I think they just chose to not pursue anything (especially after popping in at our house unexpectedly on Christmas day and saw our tree and daughter opening gifts) primarily because of my dad. So, in my case it worked, but like already mentioned, each BOE will handle things the way they want and if they get a burr up their butt to 'get someone' they will do it no matter the circumstances.
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Aspergers syndrom
by avengers in.
does anyone here have any knowledge about how to get along with someone who has been diagnosed with the asperger syndrom?.
andy
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Alana
If I remember correctly, I believe that one of our own JWD posters has this condition and has talked about it in some of his posts. However, I can't remember the name right now, but perhaps he will see this post and can give you some insight from the perspective of a person with this condition.
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District Overseer put out to pasture with no $$$ - sad
by Dogpatch inanyone know this poor soul?
randy
a brother who served as a curcuit and district.
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Alana
Oh yes, I remember Bro. Emshoff. He was our CO in central IL.....I don't remember when, but it was probably about 20+ years ago. He was definitely single and I didn't think he held a high impression of women. Some of the first posts from people who knew him talked about him being so kind and likeable. He must have been jaded by the time he got to us, because while he wasn't really rude, he wasn't personable. He liked the good life & good things and had his expensive watches and pinky rings, and the brothers who would treat him to these things. He usually stayed at our house when he was at our congregation and my dad, who always kissed CO a$$, would buy him his favorite Regal Chivas and he liked to be taken out to nice places to eat.....usually in the city. However, since our circuit was in the middle of corn land, he made it clear once that he didn't really like this assignment and preferred the big city life. He liked to spend time in Chicago. I mentioned something once about being on Rush Street and he knew what that was like. I freaked out thinking that he was going to get together a meeting to discuss my 'wild ways' or something, but he was cool in that he said to me later that he liked it there, too, and that he'd never tell if I got too wild up there or something to that affect. So, someone said he ought to find a rich sister, well, if his tastes are still the same, he'll need a rich one. :-) Anyway, my impression of him was that he expected the best and demanded it from others. He didn't like the backward rural circuit and treated us like we weren't up to his level, unless of course, one had the money and means to make his life more enjoyable.