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  Anger!

  by Aztec in

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  what makes you angry?

  i have so many things!

  life, in general, pisses me off!

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  lovinlife

  I was angry that my parents raised me to be a submissive wimp.

  I was angry that being a submissive wimp lead me to marry an abusive a**hole.

  I was angry that I turned to the congregation for help...and they didn't.

  I was angry that they implied it was all my fault. I wasn't submissive enough. (oh yeah, I forgot, I love to be beaten by my elder husband!)

  I was angry that I became a non-entity for 1/3 of my life.

  I was angry that my daughter was ingrained with her father's abusive personality-by him.

  Now I am just angry that I wasted all that time being angry!!!
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  Right or Well?

  by startingover in

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  i don't know who wrote this but i found it interesting.

  i heard a funny story about a cowboy who ambled into the local blacksmith shop and picked up a horseshoe, not realizing it had just come from the forge.

  he immediately dropped the hot shoe, shoved his seared hand into his pocket and tried to act nonchalant.

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  You are so right......"The only solution, of course, is to let it go. " I had a lot of pain...from injustice at the way my ex treated me, from the way the elders mishandled the entire situation, the way the society handled the situation, from my now ex friends, and even my (ex)parents. But, until you let go of the hurt...even if the hurt is not imagined, but very real, you will not be able to move on to mental or physical health. It took years for me to do that, and I still have twinges of the feeling of "IT'S NOT FAIR!". But when I finally started to let go, it was like the weight of the world left my shoulders. No wonder people get sick carrying that load around for a long time! Great post!
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  How Many Hats Do You Wear?

  by Guest 77 in

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  coming from a large family and professionals in their field, i've come to wear many hats.

  the great majority of my family are and were not jw's, this served as a schooling for me.

  let me include the people in my personal life, how about you?.

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  lovinlife

  I wear many hats. I am courier....boyfriend got DWI (uugh) after a few beers with guys after work...took his license away. So I have to drive him to work and pick him up. Tutor for daughter in Math, run my 2 businesses from home, chief cook and bottle washer....

  Is that what you are looking for?
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  It's My Boyfriends Birthday Today - Happy B Day Chris!!

  by m0nk3y in

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  mmmm we are getting chinese tonight for dinner *throws a spring roll into the crowd*.

  i luff celebrating birthdays guys !!!.

  today i miss being a jw even less .

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  lovinlife

  Happy Birthday Chris!

  (I just loving being free to say that! Soooo much fun!)
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  "Worldy" girfriend or JW girlfriend... Help me choose...

  by Confucious in

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  hey guys,.

  alrighty.

  enjoying being single.. right now i have a "worldy" girlfriend (note the quotes " ").. but there's this incredibly beautiful jw girl that has shown interest in me.. (i'm not df or da, just not going to meetings.

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  lovinlife

  Hey confucious, nice to meet you. As a woman that used to be that beautiful girl as a 21 yr old JW (now an old "worldly", df'd, 41 year old), I can tell you that from what you are saying you are considered a catch! Money, older ("he can take care of me"), great bod, and good looks! And even though you might have pulled away from the dubs for awhile, that just makes you more enticing. I would be careful if I were you. If she is a sheltered jw, no "fun" in wicked ways, she may find you very appealing, thinking that she will be able to have freedoms she does not have now. She may be a very different person after she gets a taste of that freedom... someone you may not even like. And, since she does not have any other experiences to compare these to, she may eventually want to experiment even further...away from you. I don't mean to be pessimistic here. But, I would just say...make sure you really know this girl before you even hint to her what you are talking about here. Find out what her intentions are regarding the JWs, how strong into it is she?

  I wish you the best! Listen to your heart and head for sure....be careful what the "bad boy" below tells you. Run it past your head first! Good Luck!
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  Hello all

  by lovinlife in

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  just came back with a new name, but it's not likely you remember me....it's been a long time and alot of new faces.

  but i just got a new computer and now i can be back and join in the fun again!

  so many new names....just thought i would say a quick "hi"!.

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  It's amazing that when you are going through it all, you think you are the only one.... then I opened my eyes and found out how rampant the abusiveness is! Phew...it's good to be away from all that!
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  From heavy-handed morality to no morality

  by logansrun in

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  it is an almost knee-jerk reaction for someone coming out of a high-control group like the jws to automatically throw all caution to the wind and act in a self-destructive manner.

  (unless one goes from one hc group to another, that is).

  i'm all too curious...for those that have been out a while, did you go through this anomie?

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  lovinlife

  I can't say that I went off the deep end, but I did try all the stuff I wanted to....smoked...a few other drug related nasties...but never off the deep end. I did these things once, or twice, but then went on being myself. But it was a good education. I found myself in some ways. I realized that some of the people that make choices that I normally wouldn't were not "bad people", but most were basically "good people" making bad choices. I really became less judgemental during this time.
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  Where are the liars now?

  by spiritwalker in

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  when i was a child, and being raised a jehovah's witness, i remember a lot of key members of the local congregation.

  there were the elders who always seemed to be there for my family.

  there were the families that were the central figures of the congregation and even the local witness community.

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  Wow, do I know what you all mean. There was a couple that studied with my parents, George and Dottie, and "brought them into the truth". They were old even then, I was 8 and now I am 41! Recently, George passed away. They were one of those couples that truly loved each other. They still held hands at the hall etc. They were convinced that they had to survive together since according to the dubs death breaks the marriage bond. So Dottie became a health nut and George died anyway. She was so distraught when he died, at least that is what I heard, because she knew she would never be married to him again in the new system. It just seems that even more heartache was upon her because of the lies!

  When I was 8, they were also the ones that got my parents in because of the "urgency" of 1975. My dad so believed it that he did not even want to get the braces on my teeth when the Dentist told him I would have to have the braces or lose my teeth. Years later, at age 16, I did get the braces so that I would not loose my teeth--it was a crisis by then!

  How sad it is that I was blinded that way....and my parents still are!
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  Hello all

  by lovinlife in

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  just came back with a new name, but it's not likely you remember me....it's been a long time and alot of new faces.

  but i just got a new computer and now i can be back and join in the fun again!

  so many new names....just thought i would say a quick "hi"!.

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  lovinlife

  Thank you guys! I am so glad to be back!
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  Hello all

  by lovinlife in

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  just came back with a new name, but it's not likely you remember me....it's been a long time and alot of new faces.

  but i just got a new computer and now i can be back and join in the fun again!

  so many new names....just thought i would say a quick "hi"!.

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  lovinlife

  Just came back with a new name, but it's not likely you remember me....it's been a long time and alot of new faces. But I just got a new computer and now I can be back and join in the fun again! So many new names....Just thought I would say a quick "hi"!

  Some background:

  I became a witness age 8 (parents..you know how that is), pioneered, married bethelite, went to WT Farms, pioneered w/ baby. All the while married to JW elder who was physically and emotionally abusive and after no one helped me...I was outa there! Believe me, it is a really long story! Now I am "lovin life"! I am DFd now and will never go back. You guys all helped me alot back then...especially all the UN stuff! Thanks... I am so glad to be back!