I loved your story and can only imagine what it must have meant to her. So glad you didn't just think about it too long and changed your mind about writing it. I'm sure she will always remember your kindness.
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23Random Act of Kindness
by cruzanheart inlast year, as many of you know, my dad committed suicide.
a couple of months after his death, i was in our local petsmart and started talking to a really cool dog trainer.
he was bright, loved animals, and had one of his dogs with him (who obviously adored him and did everything he asked).
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J.W. Relatives Coming to Visit
by Agnes ini'm fairly new here and don't post often, but enjoy reading your posts.
thank you all for sharing your life experiences.
my husband, children and i are not j.w.
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"Since you mentioned that you already say grace yourselves on occasion, and since a the best defense is a good offense, tell them you say grace before they mention anything about their prayers."
Ascot: I like this idea of not allowing them to try and take control, but my husband is concerned that it could backfire and open the door to discussing religion.
Xjw: Hope your'e right about this. It would be nice to just have a great visit.
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J.W. Relatives Coming to Visit
by Agnes ini'm fairly new here and don't post often, but enjoy reading your posts.
thank you all for sharing your life experiences.
my husband, children and i are not j.w.
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Thank you all for your responses and the great advice. You all are such fine people and are always so willing to offer support and I feel better just having asked for it.
The relatives that will be visiting for the week are two of my husbands siblings and their spouses, and a friend that we have never met. We did invite them to visit since we knew they were going to be close by and we do want to see them. Guess we are a little curious as to what this visit will bring.
Elsewhere, Maya, Valis, you made me laugh, but I think I'll have to pass on that squirt bottle and wooden cross, and the widescreen TV idea too. Might change my mind before the week is up.
Maya, I need to remember your advice to shut them down immediately. I think you're right.
Valis, I like your idea about not giving them a platform to preach on. Guess I'll have to keep my complaining about government, etc to myself. Don't care if they pray before a meal (we sometimes say Grace), and have no problem turning down their invtiation to attend a meeting. I must admit, I wouldn't find it as easy to decline an offer to say a prayer with them, but I will! Thanks for welcoming me.
Maya & Willyloman, I will remember your advice "We respect your beliefs, but while you're in my home, you must respect ours."
Country Girl, we're not intimidated, really. It's just that there always seems to be a new tactic to try and sway us into letting them have control.
Calamity Jane, my husband already suggested retaliating with politics. I'll bet that would work!
95, you are absolutely right, they know we aren't interested already and I don't mind telling them again. We have always been honest about this, so it wouldn't be a surprise.
Somebody, I'll try to be as polite as your suggestion. Thanks
Garybuss, you sound like my husband "Interesting!" Hope you're right about them not bringing it all up, that would be a surprise!
Sassy, I'm aware of this tactic, but impressing us with what wonderful folks they are hasn't worked for them so far! he he
Mulan, I have read so many of your posts and you always give such wonderful insight and advice. Thank you again.
Don't know if you realize how powerful your advice and support is. Now I feel like I can handle any situation that comes up. Thanks again!
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J.W. Relatives Coming to Visit
by Agnes ini'm fairly new here and don't post often, but enjoy reading your posts.
thank you all for sharing your life experiences.
my husband, children and i are not j.w.
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Hello everyone. I'm fairly new here and don't post often, but enjoy reading your posts. Thank you all for sharing your life experiences.
My husband, children and I are not J.W.'s and never have been, but we do have family that are. We're going to have a house full for about a week and just want your wisdom on how to deal with the inevitable attempts of them broaching the subject of religion. It always comes up and we would like to find a peaceful way of making it very clear that we aren't interested without being too harsh. We want to have a nice visit. Your advice please. Agnes
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Are JW's embarrassed about being JW's?
by Elsewhere ingrowing up one of my greatest embarrassments was that i was a jw.
i hated it when others found out or i had to do some kind of "jw" thing like not stand for the national anthem.
do you know any jws like this?
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I can understand a child being embarrassed, because kids just want to fit in and not be made fun of by other children, kids can be so cruel to someone who seems different.
I have a hard time understanding why an adult would make such an important choice and then be embarrassed about it. Know some folks that are J.W.?s and they seem embarrassed when someone finds out about it. Don?t understand why it matters to them since they aren?t allowed to associate with ?evil worldly types? anyway. I wouldn?t stop talking to someone because they were of a different faith, but sometimes it seem fruitless to waste too much time on someone that has such boundaries. Having learned so much about all of their rules, makes it hard to communicate in a normal fashion, sure that the next thing you say is going to surely offend them. I guess the bottom line is that I?m offended by their low opinion of us ?worldly types? and so I distance myself.
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JW cannots........
by Nan ini couldn't believe this list of cannots that jws have to adhere to!
i already knew about the holidays, blood tranfusions, the pledge, etc.
there's maybe one or two that i would agree are for your own good, but the rest are ridiculous!!
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It is such a joke. I know JW's that celebrate the holidays as much as the next person, don't want anyone to think they aren't main stream. I know a JW that wears her red sweaters the day before Christmas and Valentine's Day. Not a coincedence I tell you as long as they aren't doing it with "Worldly People" they find a way to celebrate while pretending that they aren't.
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Were You Ever "Marked" or Shunned?
by minimus inhow many here either were "marked" or "shunned" in some way?
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Even though my husband & I have never ben JW's we are shunned to a degree by family members who are in. They are only fooling themselves if they think it will change our minds and make us consider joing! NEVER!
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SOME PEOPLE CONSIDER JWS A NUISANCE
by badboy in.
i understand from 1 of mum's friends that in a certain road near the kh that people have put notices saying they don't want jws knocking on their door etc.. also 1 persons has put on (their door?
) asking them`y r u persecuting me by knocking on my door' sort of things etc with newspaper cuttings on her door.. did something similiar happen in your area?
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Had a notice on my front door several years ago to discourage solicitors and anyone pushing a cause. Didn't work, they still came until my husband gave them a piece of his mind. No visits for several years now.
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Mom came to visit, tried sticking the elders on me!
by Eyebrow2 inwell, my mom came down for a visit...she was her for about 9 days.
she mostly got to spend time with my kids, since i had to work, and was away for 4 of those days (she came down at this time partly so i could go away with my husband for a short trip).. now, my mom is one of the sweetest people in the world, but a die hard jw.
there is a hall about 1/2 mile away from me, so i made sure she was able to make her meetings while she was down here.
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Could relate to your frustration. Never been a JW but have relatives that are and even though they don't live close it never ceases to amaze me at how irritatingly persistent they can be!
You trust and welcome them only to be sorry you did.
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My first post
by Agnes inthis is my first post and i just wanted to say hi.
i have been a long time lurker (confession time) and decided to finally take the big step.. not much to say for now, but i would like to say thanks for all of your sharing.
i've learned so much.. please read my profile for more information.. .
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This is my first post and I just wanted to say hi. I have been a long time lurker (confession time) and decided to finally take the big step.
Not much to say for now, but I would like to say thanks for all of your sharing. I've learned so much.
Please read my profile for more information.