They cant pull you back in unless you want them to. They cant make you do anything. Only you can make you do something.
Purple
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"Just When I Thought I Was Out....."
by undercover in"....they pull me back in".
anybody ever felt like that?
not leaving the mafia but that you think you have completed a fade-away from the wts only to have elders and family start hounding you all over again?.
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What would you say to Gods' answering machine?
by Sirius Dogma in.
thank you for calling god, please leave a message at the beep or press 5 to leave a fax.
<beep>
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Purple
God you know who this is, I've left you enough messages over the years. Anyway to cut a 39 year story short I am going to imitate you and ignore you now for the rest of your life. You can call me as much as you like and try to answer as many of my messages as you want but its too late now. You ignored me when I prayed for years on end to help my mum and stop the cancer. You ignored that and she died anyway like you have ignored everything else I have asked you for. SO do the world a favour and get to writing a book that makes sense and cant be interpreted in 15 billion trillion different ways. Oh and by the way, tell your son's organisation to go f*&K themselves and leave me alone. I gave at the office.
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The Bible: The most interpreted piece of literature ever!
by Nosferatu in.
i find it absolutely amazing how people will spend hours upon hours interpreting one book.
the second most interpreted is probably the beatles' white album.. what else have people interpreted?
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Purple
Whi stuck up their middle finger and decided to interpret it as giving someone the bird, an insult?? Who interpreted it as an insult and gave it significance and meaning and how did it spread. Answer me that oh man with bow in hair and I might concieve that the bible is not the biggest scam ever concieved of!
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Wow sometimes when it rain it pours....good things WHOOO HOOOOO
by SheilaM inthunder and i are about to be published in an anthology called "under the telling tree" it features writers from kansas city and chicago, it will be released this spring.
many have studied with john schultz who is one of the best writing instructors in the country.
then today i was asked to join phi theta kappa....from my college
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Purple
Hey Sheila congrats, you are an inspiration to me. I am just about to turn 39 and started life again as a single gal april last year. Its good to know that osmething good is happening for you! Gives me hope things might turn around one day for me!
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When I was a dub I was one bad mo-fo...
by logansrun injust to show you the depths of how incredibly brainwashed and anal i was as a jw super-youth, i had the last part on the service meeting the night my dad da'd himself.
yes, i actually called the elder up who was about to make the announcement.
damn.
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Purple
What's mofo mean and why is it bad???????????? Gosh I wish there was an australian american translator sometimes attached to this board!
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Has Anyone Ever Met Any Celebrities?
by imallgrowedup inthis is a spin-off of another thread where my *mild and chaste* friend, mouthy, admitted to wanting to meet her dream man, tom jones, and that she would even go so far as to throw her bloomers at him, if that is what it would take to get his attention!
well, the mental picture this painted was far too much for me to bear, so i encouraged her to save her red polka-dotted "unmentionables", not only because she might need them in the future, but because i didn't think she'd have to go that far to get his attention.
and i said that - because of a personal experience with him.
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Purple
Ive met a few australian celebrities and they were pretty much people! However one I would love to meet is Robbie Williams..boy would I leave an impression on him!!!!!!!!! He did say he wanted an australian wife........oh robbiee I'm free...call on me.......... sex me up Robbie!!!!!!!!!!
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Letter to Mom and Dad opinions wanted
by freelife inhello friends, i wanted to post this here and get some opinions on it before i take the big step of sending it to my parental units.
dear mom and dad,
dad i was surprised to hear from you the other day.
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Purple
Goodluck freelife. Having a worldy family I also have to concur with what someone else said about the regularity of contact. I think familes can sometimes fall into the category of using each other but what are families for? I feel for you I really do and I can see in their a son making a heart wrenching decision. However having lost most of my family to death, I can tell you the world is a lonely place and family, even bad ones make it a little easier.
Gosh I wouldnt like to say to you one way or the other about whether to rewrite the letter. I know from experience that this is something you have agonised over and given many hours of thought. Having said that it seems a bit JW's either or style. You have given them the ultimatum of accept you and your family as you are, involve yourself more in our lives on our terms or we say goodbye. Seems a bit harsh but I can see that emotions are involved. If you feel this is what you need to do to get on with your life apart from the truth then go ahead and do what you need to do. However, you have to live with the consequences and it will not be easy.
Its up to you totally and know that we will be here for you to try to help you as much as we can. Hugs to you freelife and I hope you can work your way through this and resolve it with dignity and to help yourself start to heal.
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A lurker no more! I have a question about exit counseling for ex-JWs
by True North ini've been lurking on this board for a couple of months now, taking it all in.
i've really appreciated and enjoyed reading your postings and it's all been very helpful.
i have now a question i'd like to ask.
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Purple
Welcome and its great that you have come out of hiding. I really don't have any experience about exit counselling but do with counselling in general. In my offline life I am a qualified social worker in Australia (but dont tell everyone its a secret!) With counselling in general it usually is of more benefit if the person themselves seeks the help. They have to want it to help. Basically counselling does not give you the answers but helps an individual explore the answers that they already have in their possesion but just don't realise it. Its an independent, non-judgemental ear for the person to bounce their thoughts, ideas and explore their own answers.
I think time is going to help heal your children and yourself. They sound old enough to be able to seek help for themselves. Is this something they have asked you to help with or is this something you feel you need to do for them? That's a rehtorical (sp?) question for you to answer to yourself. If you feel you need to do this for them but they have not requested it, it might not be overly helpful. They sound like adults so let them make thier own minds up and you be guided by their decision. If they ask for help, then seek it. Of course its up to you!
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Remembering my Dad...
by Sentinel intoday marks the third anniversary of the passing of my dad.
age 79. heart problems, stroke, and then burst artery in his heart.
one of the most painful ways for a human being to die.. despite our disfunctional life, i remember the good and let go of the stuff that brings me sadness.
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Purple
Hey Sentinel
Touching and very honest. Coming up in a few days is my mum's 10th anniversary of her death at aged 52 from cancer of the everything. She died on my 29th birthday so its an especially hard day. Your words touched me more than you know. My mum died without meeting most of her grandchildren, not seeing her daughters blossom and grow and make something of themselves. She died not knowing how much I loved her and needed her. You are so lucky to have had your parent for so many years, good or bad! I got a bueatiful tatoo in December last year to mark the 10th year. Its a goodess with wings with her nick name of "joybells" underneath. She's wearing a purple dress of course and at last I have a nice memory to mark the day. Sorry didnt mean to steal the thread. But it touched me and I needed to say something.
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Self Esteem
by larc ini have heard some people say that they have low self esteem.
i don't understand that.
why did you choose to have low self esteem?
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Purple
Mine comes from several areas. Firstly from my father who told me from as long as I can remember that because I was born a useless female that I was worthless and a waste of his Spe*m. Worse than that I was very overweight and did not like sport that much. In his eyes this made me less than dirt. SO after you hear that for most of your young, impressionable life then you do believe it. You can argue I chose to buy into it. Let me just say to you that once you have spent 20 years being told that every day of your life then you can tell me I chose to believe it.
You obviously dont have self esteem issues or at least you dont think you do. Making others feel bad about hang ups etc and belittling people for it is a way of making yourself feel bigger and better about yourself. So yes you do have self esteem issues. If I am being harsh here and upsetting you well that was not my intention.
My point is that people who dont suffer from depression and image problems often belittle others who do without realising it. depression is triggered by many things, chemical imbalance is one issue only. My advice to you is once you have experienced it, and you will, then you may be in a better position to ask and judge. Statistics clearly show that everyone will suffer from depression at some stage in their life. SO dont think it wont happen to you, it will. Then you will understand better how you can self esteem problems. Boy will you understand!