it was asked of me in chat to post my story here.
i had plans to do so.. but wanted to meet everyone in real chat first.. first off... any info i post about myslef will put me at a great disadvantage on these boards.. so if you could please relpy.. tell me your story as well.
ok where to start.... i grew up, like most jw's, in a troubled home.
Lauralisa,
I can't seem to get into the chat room because I have a macintosh, which is of course superior in all ways to a pc, but that is another discussion
Oh dear, a MAC user! You people think you are just sooooo much better than us PC users!
My postings usually go completely unnoticed
Oh, so do mine. Just wanted to let you know...I noticed
Andee
it was asked of me in chat to post my story here.
i had plans to do so.. but wanted to meet everyone in real chat first.. first off... any info i post about myslef will put me at a great disadvantage on these boards.. so if you could please relpy.. tell me your story as well.
ok where to start.... i grew up, like most jw's, in a troubled home.
Hi Stash,
Thank you for posting your story.
I will try to give the Reader's Digest condensed version of my story.
My material grandmother became a JW when my Mom was 5. My Mom married another JW at 14. He, my Father, was 19. My Father, a cruel alcoholic, was disfellowedship a few years later for reasons I am not clear on. My Mom's family, which was almost all JW's, abandoned her because of my Dads DFing. She was a teenager, had a baby, and a alcoholic husband. What a loving family! gag!
Five years or so later, Dad gets reinstated. However, only goes to a few meetings because all his friends in the Cong are gone. Things are still very stressful in my home. JW grandmother lives with us now. Tries to convert anyone that steps into her sphere of influence. We are the joke of the neighborhood. I'm miserable most of the time. Beaten a lot of just doing normal kids stuff. Dad drinks and gambles. Mom feels helpless. I actually go to meetings and out in service with my grandmother to get out of the house. Desperate for a place to get some peace and the little old ladies at the KH and book studies are nice to me. However, I want to be normal (b-days, holidays, etc, just fun in general) and I feel guilty for this. I am about 8 or 9 at this time. I know I'm dead meat in Armageddeon and I have nightmares about this for years!
When I was 10 we did "christmas". No tree, but we got presents. My mom always hated the WTS and I think was the force behind starting
Christmas in our house. I was thrilled. Dad rationalized it. Even though he had faded, he still believed in the teachings and "the end". Geez! If I had a dollar for every gloom and doom story I had to hear! So, I always had in the back of my mind, if the JW's were right, I sealed my fate by getting presents on christmas day. Now, it seems such an absurd idea!
Spent most of my late adolesence depressed. I was a good kid, didn't get into trouble, but always felt so helpless and powerless.
To grow up in a JW home is bad enough, but then to have a lunatic alcoholic parent is a double whammy. I had an eating disorder and spent 6 weeks in hospital treatment for it when I was 25.
I spent most of my 20's just trying to shed my JW past. I just wanted to forget about it all. I married a dear, sweet man at 25. Been happily married 14 years now with two kids.
How I got HERE. After years of shunning some of my Mom's JW contacted me. It just got me thinking about my upbringing and I did a search on the internet. I found Freeminds, which then, brought me here.
This place can get pretty wild sometimes. However, most are kind and compassionate people. The things I have learned about the Org. Enlightening, yet appalling. Take your time trying to soak it all in.
Andee
*** g74 11/8 ***9 is this the time to have children?there has always been a positive attitude about childbearing.
*** g74 11/8 10 is this the time to have children?
what does imminent mean?
Hey JT,
I agree with those that say it's not too late to start. However, make sure everything is in working order with you also and well as your wife. I'm almost 40 with two kids. Physically, I could probably have another.
My JW father made a comment to my at-the-time step-mother when I became pregnant with my second child (at age 34 BTW). To paraphrase:
"I don't understand why she keeps having kids, they're just going to die". The coward didn't have the nerve to say it directly to me.
Of course, he has never shown much interest in them.
Thanks for your post. All of the material put together is sicking.
Makes me want to go and kick some GB ass!
Andee
as this un issue has unfolded we have been working very hard to expose the hypocrisy and deceit of the society to our friends and family and also the public.. we continue to be shocked and amazed at the crazy stunts the wtbs pulls.. when i heard that dutch bethel had something to say about this i started thinking about the uninted we stand, divided we fall concept.. i am wondering if we could put more effort into getting this important information to all wt branches all over the world.. as these issues crop up it would be great if we could publicize all of the branches, their addresses, phone#, fax #, e-mails etc.. i noticed that even within brooklyn they dont always know what is going on.. i was thinking that if i were in one of the other branches around the world i would be enraged that brooklyn got us into this mess and brought reproach on jahs name they are also screwing up with the child abuse issue and many others.. is it possible to cause these other branches to question and turn on brooklyn?.
any thoughts on this out there?.
ranchette
Hello all,
I wanted to comment on the WTS and the UN association. For most of my life I have been a "worldly" person. To be completely upfront, I just don't think the mainstream press is going find the WTS disassociating themselves from the UN as a NGO, big news. Some newspapers might print something in their religion section, but with everything else going on (War, etc), I doubt the this latest information will get little more than a shrug from mainstream media. They did not have the years of indoctrination about the evilness of the UN. They also don't realize the hypocracy of WTS's membership as a NGO and how shocking this news is to many witnesses. In short, they just won't get it.
Anyway, I think many of the loyal rank and file, if they did read about it in a the newpaper, would just brush it off as the world attempting to discredit their beloved org, again. Anyone not having any kind of exposure to the witnesses, other than having them knock on their door, is just going to think "yeah? so?".
So, I really think the only way to get the word out to witnesses is the way it is being done now. Person to person, through CofC and via the internet. Slowly and gently.
Time, itself, is going to dig the WTS's grave.
Andee
tr.
the only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.
edmund burke
I often wonder WHERE places like Pakistan, etc. get an American flag to burn. Does the local merchant have a supply for just such an occasion?
The flag in that pic definitely looks homemade, however. Check out the stars.
Regarding the dude on fire: Burn you SOB!
Andee
i guess i've been inspired by stephen's quote threads, so i'm going to start one myself.. not one particular author here, just whatever i can find:.
q: why do you think that people are so protective of their egos?
why is it so hard to let go of one's ego?.
I love this thread! Some great stuff.
Here's one of my own. It was a response to someone that says she "does EVERYTHING in moderation", including her smoking cigarettes.
My response: "Everything in moderation??? Does that include cyanide??"
Andee
good news everyone i am engaged.
mickey67214 (jessica) and i are getting married next spring.
a date has not been set yet, but i will let you know later.
Congratulations to the both of you!!
Andee
i'm amazed if nobody suggested we do the are you a sex god/goddess?
test before.
look at http://www.emode.com/emode/tests/god_switch.jsp ,do the test, and try to be honest .
Hey there, PLH
First Brad Pitt, now this!
I got me a twin out there!
BTW I don't think poor Brad could handle us, however, I sure would be willing to take THAT chance!
Andee
i'm amazed if nobody suggested we do the are you a sex god/goddess?
test before.
look at http://www.emode.com/emode/tests/god_switch.jsp ,do the test, and try to be honest .
A brilliant bolt of lightning descends! SHAZAAM! The oracle has spoken!
The smoke clears to reveal that inside you is a divine being,
PERSEPHONE, Goddess of the Night,
a woman in touch with her deepest inner desires.
As the most sexual of all the female deities, you are very comfortable in the bedroom. Your skill at pleasing a man is unmatched, and you know exactly what you need for your own pleasure. As a woman of passion, you're very comfortable with expressing your desires to anyone. You are a proud and confident woman who exudes sensuality. You cherish the intimacy of physical attraction and know what it takes to win a man. As a woman deeply in touch with your sexuality, you definitely know how to thoroughly enjoy yourself! Your polished bedroom performance always keeps them coming back for more. When everything is going right, a light shines down from the heavens. Behold, the skies proclaim, here lies a goddess!
Damn Straight!!
Andee
any ex dubs in the so cal area?
i am in the desert near palm springs.
just had two families over last night (ex dubs all) and we had a great time.
jterfehr,
Howdy Neighbor!
I am also "near" Palm Springs. Us in the Coachella valley always say that! Otherwise, if we were to say we are from Cathedral City or La Quinta people would say "huh? where?"
Andee
Born and raised in So Cali (and I'm blonde too! Thanks Ms. Clairol!)
