Well, for me...disfellowshipping was a blessing! Yeah, I could finally be left alone and really think on my own for once without the pressure of others, as far as the shunning.....I found there were a lot more quality and diverse and open-minded friends on the outside of the cult....it was no loss, I just wish my sister would wake up...we still talk, but she's still stuck inside without friends....it's too sad.
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DFed, more positive or negative?
by Sheepish injust musing.... from the vantage point of being "out", it seems to me that being dfed would be really, really painful, but ultimately a good thing.
(i was shunned by my family when i finally left though, so i know a little of what a dfed person goes through, although i didn't put myself through going back to meetings and being shunned) .
i was publicly reproved, and was not allowed to answer in meetings, but i was not shunned.
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SHOULD I PIONEER OR COLLEGE?
by stillAwitness indo you think the wt has become more lenient or stricter over the year?.
i am 21 and i remember just 4 years ago going to college was looked at as something negative.
girls my age, we had plans to be ft pioneers and become secretaries.
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do it now while you have no other responsibilities. I went to college after being df'd and then divorced, since I had a full-time job I attended evening classes, most of the people there were older anyway so that wasn't a big deal, the hard part was having a 4 year old daughter on top of it...I was able to complete part of my freshman year until I just burned out. Don't waste another moment, you will know in time what you want to study you're on the right path stay with it...and you are definetely not too old.
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Running??????
by vitty in.
im really interested in starting to jog or run.. what would be a good speed to start and how far would be a good goal?.
i know power walking is about 6k an hour, for 30 to 40 minutes but what about running??
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As long as I keep rolling regularly, I stay pretty healthy
Yeah, I have one....but I'm not using it as regularly as I should, actually, ummmm I never use it. I used to work for a PT office and learned a lot about different exercises to keep my hip strong and muscles flexible, it's so very important...but that foam roller, ouch! it's not the most comfy thing to use....I really need to be using it....how often do you use yours? daily? after a run? just want to know how often I'll need to torture myself to stay healthier
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Running??????
by vitty in.
im really interested in starting to jog or run.. what would be a good speed to start and how far would be a good goal?.
i know power walking is about 6k an hour, for 30 to 40 minutes but what about running??
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Dustin: I would really like to do the Chicago marathon one of these years.
You should, I did it back in 98 and would love to do it again. Unfortunately the joints do take a pounding...that's why I started to switch to cycling and have done 2 Century rides since and as wonderful as it was, there is nothing like a good long run, absolutely nothing. I have been running 4 - 5 miles now every other day, however, I'm sitting here typing this with ice on my leg....I've pulled my IT band, yes another vital injury not to be ignored and since I dance too, I have to be extra careful of any other injuries I acrue. But....I will do another marathon, it's worth all the injuries in the world.....good luck on your training...and if you decide to do one, let me know...maybe I'll start training too....
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Tom Cruise (Scientologist) vs. Brooke Shields (Postpartum Depression)
by Scully innot what they expected; moms with postpartum depression overwhelmed with feelings of guilt, worthlessness.
the ottawa sun .
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Contributing factors can include hormonal fluctuations, such as decreased serotonin levels after delivery, stress and, in some cases, major events coinciding with birth, according to the National Mental Health Association.
My husbands father died of prostate cancer exactly 1 week after Matt was born, I had a c-section so I was in the hospital 4 days, Matt came 3 weeks early (I think that was meant to be)....the day we drove home from the hospital we stopped at his father's condo so he could see the baby....the next day he went into hospice care and the following week he passed away....it was awful. However I didn't get medicated until 8 mos later when my baby boy was weaned.....another fluxuation in hormones.... I was also dealing with the fact that my parents (JW)made absolutely no effort in trying to see my boy....so all that coupled with the dreaded winter months....I finally broke down and went to see my doctor. It was absolutely a last resort, due to the fact that, I'm very holistic in taking care of myself, as a personal choice. It was an absolute life saver, it got to a point where I cared about nothing anymore....and apathy is truely the worst emotion. that February was also the month I joined JWD....it was difficult time for me personally. I know that dealing with things holistically is not what always helps, there are other options and for that I'm thankful.
I have since recently weaned myself off the drugs and am feeling great. Tom Cruise is just full of himself. I can respect people's opinions and religeon but when it starts to put down the choices and opinions of others, then they've just crossed the line....those type of people think more of themselves and respect no one else. If anything he's totally damaged his reputation as an actor....and I have a lot of respect for Brooke Shields because she's come out and shown herself to be someone real.....
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Another newbie
by karen96 ini've been reading the forum for a while and think it's great!
i've been out for almost 9 years, but recently have felt a need to connect with other exjw's and decided to post.
i think what you all are doing is wonderful, and i hope to be an active participant!.
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thank you! it's been wonderful!
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Another newbie
by karen96 ini've been reading the forum for a while and think it's great!
i've been out for almost 9 years, but recently have felt a need to connect with other exjw's and decided to post.
i think what you all are doing is wonderful, and i hope to be an active participant!.
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Welcome Karen,
I too waited until almost 9 years to re-connect.....I've been out now 10 years this July, I just celebrated my decade of freedom :)
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Running??????
by vitty in.
im really interested in starting to jog or run.. what would be a good speed to start and how far would be a good goal?.
i know power walking is about 6k an hour, for 30 to 40 minutes but what about running??
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Best if you can find a running store that will watch you run and analyze your gait.
This is very helpful...shoes are important. And, of course as was said before start slow, do the run/walk method to begin and work you're way up to running 30 minutes non-stop. Stretching is so very, very important to prevent injury....you may even experience some shin splints in the beginning until you get used to it, however don't push it with shin splints, they can lead to bigger injury, do some ice after a run on your shins, or even a cool bath if you can stand it for atleast 5 minutes....never take a hot bath or steamy shower until the next day.If you have any questions let me know I run a lot, you're starting PR should probably be around 10-12 (miles a min.)
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How is this "sweety" supposed to learn the deep truths that you have acquired if you refuse to debate them with you? And then you said "in many ways you remind me of 'me'" after reading his two or three posts, which is just another condescending remark. But it does fit into your motto of avoiding debates, I must admit.
"Good luck on your journey" anyway.
because so far it's proved futile, it's almost up to 6 pages now.
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it means I can't explain to you something that has to be learned and experienced....that's all...and if I tried, you'd still never get it, perhaps it's your age, but that's ok, because I thought I had all the answers back then....I never realized how very ignorant I really was. I guess in many ways you remind me of 'me'....so good luck on your journey to life's many questions and finding your very own answers.
with much love and respect...g'nite love.