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  Have you noticed an oddity at indoor conventions?

  by truth_about_the_truth in

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  every time i've attended a dc in an indoor arena, i 've noticed a u.s. flag hanging on the rafters or somewhere prominently displayed.

  of course it is a permanent fixture of the arena.

  anyways, since national flags are symbols of idolatry.

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  baysixforme

  If you notice this notice you wil notice that this notice has been noticed (or something to that effect)

  Apologies for incorrectness, (did anybody notice)?

  Bay64me
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  A Degree....... I can't do this.... HELP!!!

  by ScoobySnax in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  having had my 1-2-1 with my boss yesterday on my performance in managing an acute surgical ward, she informs me that she expects me to commence a course in critical care at degree level commencing september.

  the reason being our surgical ward is being converted into a high dependancy unit (like an itu) and she wants me to manage it and gain the necessary skills.

  i already have a diploma in higher ed.

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  Just go for it!

  There will be a thousand reasons for you opting out and it will not be easy. My course has caused me to have serious doubts about why I started it in the first place. I have met challenges and obstacles and moments when I have thought fuck, I just can't do it! but I have! (I'm half way through my degree)

  I am a single parent, four children, work 16 hours per week and do voluntary work also.......I manage. I am doing fine, my grades are good. I still maintain a good relationship with my children, they support me wholeheartedly and I don't hold back on showing the love I have for them. I do what I do not only for me but for them. I want this qualification so much and I work really hard.

  There is always support, I always ask if I'm stuck, it's not easy, don't believe anyone that tells you it is. But if you're prepared to work and you really want it, you will succeed.

  I have met friends on my course that I now consider to be potentially life-long. We speak regularly on the phone and keep in touch via email. We help each other out and there is always a brain to pick and sometimes someone will pick yours!

  I liken my present quest to my attitude to driving. I never thought I'd be able to do it but then replaced that thought with......if 'they' can do it......so can I.

  I wish you well,

  Bay64me
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  WAS YOUR CONGREGATION A GOSSIP MILL?

  by badboy in

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  2. friends

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  must dash,got a seat booked at the minibus cafe!.

  my driver will be coming for me any moment now!.

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  Gossip was rife in my congregation but I suppose that with all of the rules we were meant to adhere to, merely by being human some if not all were bound to fail at some point.

  We did have the really prolific gossipers though. These types were particularly eschewed by the upright, those "at the centre of the congregation".

  The funny thing was though that although many talks delivered from the platform condemned such practices, gossip in many ways brought a welcome relief to the usual adherence to rules.

  My view is that gossip per se can be damaging and 'not right' but in my experience the gossip I was privvy to gave me a valuable insight and the realisation that people are only human.........It helped me to break away!

  Bay64me
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  Why Bad Beliefs Don't Die

  by garybuss in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  here is an a short article i liked a lot.

  it explains the dynamics we often see in our former groups.

  why bad beliefs don't die.

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  I enjoyed reading this post.

  By sheer coincidence I have just had an exam today where one of the questions was to outline the processes that underpin false beliefs. During my research one of the main conclusions that I drew was the misperception of randomness: e.g Carl jung and how his theory of synchronicity that he attributes to an unknown force accounts for the many coincidences that occur far more frequently than one might expect and its many similarities to how religous adherents claim that coincidences are acts of god.

  According to sociocognitive theory, false beliefs are maintained quite often and especially if the individual has invested vast amounts of time, money, energy etc, usually in an attempt to save 'face'. This is known as cognitive dissonance whereby the individual desiring to alleviate discord, will elevate or extoll the virtues of said practice and downplay the weaknesses.

  Facinating subject.

  Bay64me
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  Were your parents control freaks?

  by Dustin in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  growing up in the jw religion and having a dad who was an elder, i remember how controlling they were.

  i find it amazing now just how much of my childhood i missed out on.

  i couldn't watch alot of t.v.

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  Yes my parents were control freaks.

  I was not brought up as a JW. I became a JW to escape the life that I inherited from my disfunctional 'worldly' family.

  My parents didn't allow me to think for myself. If I laughed I was being silly, if I cried I was being a baby. If I spoke of an acheivment I was being boastful, if I looked sad I was ungrateful. I was not allowed to own my own feelings and emotions. I had to be what they wanted me to be. My childhood was damaged severely with abuse and neglect.

  I was always dressed well and from the outside my family and our home looked just fine and 'normal'.

  Jehovahs witnesses are guilty of many things but are in no way unique in the bad parenting styles that they adopt. There are probably better JW parents around than my 'worldly parents and vice versa. I don't neccessarily think that bad parenting is pertinent to JWs.
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  CHRISTMAS DAY FIELD SERVICE

  by vitty in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  did you ever go out on the service christmas day.

  i always refused to, i mean even sinners deserved a day off from us calling.lol seriously i was too embarressed to.

  my husband got "forced" one year and said never again.

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  Oh dear, bad memories!

  We did the xmas day thing a couple of times.......Once in the lovely seaside town of Whitby and another in Ireland. I must say thoght the Irish dealt us a better response and were probably amazed thet we would go to the effort of going out to them in such bleak weather conditions. However I have it on good authority that the territory was rarely covered, consequently the respose was probably down to surprise rather than annoyance.

  Bay64me
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  I CONFRONTED THE ENTIRE CONGREGATION TODAY

  by Corvin in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  today, i was on the scene of the local congregation of jw's where my ex-wife and her husband attend.

  physical, emotional and mental abuse has been purpetrated upon my kids for eight years now.

  they have been victims of alcoholism, verbal bashings and they have been made to watch their stepfather beat the hell out of their mother and then be halled off to jail without saying a word to anyone for fear fo reprisal from him and their mother.

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  Well done Corvin, hope all turns out well for you and the children.

  Bay64me
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  Why am I being haunted by JWs??????????

  by little1 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  in my 46 years i have known a lot of people.

  only one time did i become involved with a jw-and that for 3 years.

  since we broke up i find myself constantly confronted with them in both my personal and professional life and i can't figure out why.

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  baysixforme

  I can relate what you are saying with regards to different things that have occured in my own life.

  When I was pregnant...I saw pregnant women everywhere...in other words, I was mildly obsessed with pregnancy and consequently searched out others that displayed the traits of pregnancy.

  Similarly when I got a pup, my interest was with other pets/pet owners, breeds, peculiarities, etc.

  You have a curiosity presently with the J.W's, therefore you are keen to discover more about the type of person that adheres to such an unusual life-code.

  Enjoy your journey,dicover much on the way and follow your heart.

  Bay64me
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  So How Does a Place Become A City In England?

  by Englishman in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  well, it has to have a cathedral in order to have city status.. the nearest city to weston s mare is the city of wells, about 35 minutes drive from here.. but, wells has a population of only 10,000 or so, one seventh that of wsm which is still rated as just a town.. wells is also the smallest city in england.

  we've taken a few people there to visit, the last was joy and steve who both post here.

  we visited there today with our nieces, here's some pics.

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  I was always under the impression that a City had to have a Cathedral or vice versa. However there is a place not a million miles away from where I am and at that place is a Cathedral, albeit ugly and modern, built in the eighty's (need I say more), but no way does it's location have City status!

  

  Bay64me
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  big brother

  by lurk in

  1. social
  2. entertainment

  years a go i used peak at big brother with some sisters we all felt a tiny bit guilty but did it anyway cause it was fun and the objectors were always older people who thought that watching tv soaps was a sin.. anyway i was watching this year and just wanted to say .now i watch with out condeming or slating the individuals i feel for the first time in years im feeling empathy with and for poeple i would previously have looked down my nose at.. im actually able to look at them and say .thats who jesus came for not for ..not christians who are to good to eat with them and speak about these falible humans as dirt.. i can dislike what the bb contestants do or say and it not be about how they are to disgusting to understand about the truth.

  or how they are knowingly siding with satan.

  now there just people try to live thier lives making mistakes like the rest fo us ,messing up or trying to be true to themselves etc.

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  I remember watching the first B.B. with similar feelings as yourself. I was coming away from the organisation bit by bit. It was sort of wrong but compelling. It may have been that I had the desire to know how real people experience real life? Perhaps B.B. was not the lessons in life that were totally appropriate for me, or even authentic or honest, nontheless, I enjoyed the freedom that the contestants were afforded.

  Now I watch B.B. from a "psychological" perspective. I do and always have been the sort that loves to observe all aspects of humanity. I am a people watcher and find others quirks and foibles interesting, educational and sometimes entertaining.

  I know B.B. has it's critics, but apart from a good documentary, it is probably the only programme that I currently tune in to.

  Bay64me