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  JWs at Hearst Castle

  by concerned mama in

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  my family and i just got home from our summer road trip.

  we drove 6815 km from our home in alberta down the western coast of the us to disneyland, then back home through utah (mormon country), idaho and montana.

  great trip!!!!

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  Wow! I was just there at Hearst's Castle in July with my boyfriend and believe me I would have noticed them if they'd have been there that day!

  I left the Borg two years ago and for the previous two years or so this was how the "preaching work" was being "set up." In fact, (confession time....) I even planted myself in front of a Walmart with literature with another sister and all we had to do was let the people going in and out of the store come up to us....we were not to approach them. Frankly, it was "easy time" and I prefered it whenever I got to do it (It became one of those things where pretty much the "priviledged and favored" in the congregation got to do it more than the rest of the mere publishers! Figures!). Anyway, it was set up by one brother in charge and done all day long in two hour shifts. The last shift was from 8 p.m to 10 p.m....can you imagine? Well they're still sitting out in front of that particular Walmart here in my town....obviously I choose to shop elsewhere!

  Cheryl/anewlife
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  MS Rat,My Dad , Elder and Betrayal

  by LyinEyes in

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  most of you know about the story of the ms who ratted on wildturkey and me for smoking at the club, he smoked one of my cigs and was there with his girlfriend (he is married).

  well, i ran into him last night at the club and confronted him,, i asked him why he told on us, i just wanted to know, he said he didnt know why, he just felt pressured..i asked if he told on himself he said no!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  i wanted to slap him right there.

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  Lying: I understand your pain completely!!! I had a similar situation happen to me.

  I had been "reproved", but was "trying to do the right thing" according to the WTBTS (but was having some difficulties and doubts). My mother's sister (my aunt) came into town and we spent a little time together. In our "chatting," some of my frustrations and feelings, apparently, came across pretty loud to her. I was VERY careful in what I DID disclose, however. Well, needless to say, she ran (I believe literally!) back to my parents house where my grandmother, my sister and her MS husband happened to be visiting. My aunt then tells them that I "was seeing someone." I NEVER SAID THIS, NEVER ALLUDED TO ANY SUCH THING! This was just her "interpretation" as I was grumbling about my husband, whom I had already filed for divorce from. NOT 10 MINUTES LATER, my MS brother-in-law (whom I dearly loved, btw) immediately gets on the phone and calls one of the elders who met with me for my "reproving" and tells him I'm "doing things." I was so incredibly hurt, and pissed off that my brother-in-law didn't at least come to me first to "get the real scoop" as it were, that the next day I called this elder myself and went over to see him and told him, "I'm done!" I will say anything you want me to say, do anything you want me to do...I just want out! Disfellowship me!" Admittedly now I wish I would have just lied and walked away. (I have always had a tendency to "punish myself" before someone else felt they had to....stems from childhood garbage!) Anyway, I completely understand your feelings of betrayal by your dad...by your "friends" in the congregation is terrible enough, but when a family member does it because they are "following the Borg" then it really cuts to the core!

  So, girl, rant and rave all you need to....I don't blame you at all. It actually helps to vent it!

  anewlife/Cheryl
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  My Therapist Must Think I'm Absolutely Nuts!

  by Swan in

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  every week i go in and tell my therapist these fantastic stories about the religion i was raised in!

  i think he believes me, but then when i think about it, it sounds too fantastic to be true.

  he must think i'm absolutely insane.

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  Hi Tammy:

  Anyway, I too am seeing a counselor and it's quite interesting to me as well hearing the words come out of my mouth as to what I USED to believe! My counselor just shakes her head and the only thing she does allow herself to say about it is, "I have a real problem with this 'JW Program'." I thought it interesting that she refers to it as a "program" as if it is a way of life that is followed, mapped out and dictated to you as to what is right and wrong and what you can't do and what you can do......OH, wait a minute.....that's EXACTLY what it is! The way I'm treated as a DF'd person is really hard for her to understand...it's so unreasonably harsh, unloving and unforgiving.

  I find talking with my counselor validates my feelings that this organization has done nothing but bring about harm and pain to me and it is in my best interests for a successful life to be rid of the "JW Program."

  anewlife
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  I'd like to introduce myself.......

  by DJ in

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  my name is donna.

  i was directed to this forum through freeminds.org by randy watters.

  i found his site to be very helpful to me and i highly recommend it to other newbies.

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  WELCOME TO THE BOARD Donna!

  Your story was heartwarming! I admire your strong determination to show love for your family no matter what they may throw your way....what strength!!! I could learn from you as I am in a position now deciding what to do with my parents and siblings....Do I completely walk away as I am DF'd and they will not speak to me or do I insist on calling them periodically and even seeing them occasionally (especially since my younger sister is having a baby in October). The "holding my tongue" part is what will be hard for me as I have been so unbelievably hurt.

  Again, thank you for sharing your story!

  Cheryl/anewlife
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  WHAT DO YOU THINK WILL BE THE LATEST NEW LIGHT?

  by minimus in

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  since the lite gets brighter and brighter and jehovah always reveals his confidential matters to his servants, what new light will we next learn?

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  I have to agree with Mulan....there MUST be a change in the way people are disfellowshipped, especially since they've changed this before. This time I think they will acknowledge them IF they come to the KH for meetings...greetings will be exchanged and words of "spiritual" encouragement. However, they will not be invited to any of the "friend's get-togethers" until AFTER they are reinstated.

  By changing policy and doing things this way they can quash those of us who have been shunned to the severist extent and accused the WTBTS of not having any "brotherly love". After all, this is the basis of the "true religion" and they must show this to the apostates and the "worldlies" that we are the ones that are wrong...not the Organization. Just my opinion.

  anewlife
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  Reunion with brother Part 2

  by Bendrr in

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  thanks to all who responded to my post about reuniting with my brother.

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.asp?id=34827&site=3.

  nice to see that simon took an interest, thanks buddy!

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  I read your story yesterday Mike and was happy to hear you have family who wants to be in touch with you as much as you do them.

  Sounds like you had a wonderful time! Cherish every moment!

  anewlife/Cheryl
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  Tiring of Anti-JW causes?

  by ashitaka in

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  i'm kind of burnt out from being pissed off at jws.

  tonight, while talking to a friend who left at the same time i did (several years ago), we both spoke of our apathy towards the whole anti-witness movement.

  recently i helped in several anti-jw actions, and i thought i made a difference, although it was a pittens compared to others who have come before.

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  Ash: I understand what you are saying and how you are feeling. Some days I question myself and ask, "When am I going to be able to let it all go? When will I no longer feel like a JW or an exJW?" I've decided that as long as I'm "fighting against being a JW" I will always be trapped in a sense. I need to learn how to just be me, whoever that is. I've only been out for two years and I think the hardest part is family and some former friends who I considered family. I guess I truly NEVER really thought I'd be an outcast...that when it came right down to it, they'd still love me as family....I was wrong. I'm getting better about it all and am moving forward into making a complete stand such as, "If you can't accept that I am and will no longer be a JW anymore, then there is absolutely no need to even call me to try and see my kids. If you choose to follow the JW rules then our family ties must be completely severed as I cannot keep getting my hopes up every few months when you call to 'just ask me something' that perhaps it's a start of a relationship again. It's just not fair to me and I deserve more."

  In the meantime this board helps me to see I'm not alone in my "battle"....that someday I WILL move on and have a normal life. For now, this is where I choose to be.

  anewlife
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  Reunion With Long-Lost Brother Tonight!!!

  by Bendrr in

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  first a little background.

  i've mentioned before that my dad is actually my step-dad.

  though i call him my dad, and he really is "dad" sometimes i do refer to him as my step-dad.

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  Bendrr: I'm so happy for you!!!!! Family is so very important and if you have family that wants to be a part of your life, I say go for it and soak it all in! I recently reconnected with a part of my family in another state that was happy to see me after 10+ years. It was wonderful, so I know the excitement you feel! I'll be thinking about you and looking for your post tomorrow.

  Have a GREAT TIME!

  anewlife
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  Why did you join JW's?

  by happysunshine in

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  why did you join jw's?

  i was raised a witness, so i had no choice till i could live on my own.

  but why would you actually choose such a thing!

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  (((((((((Valis))))))))) I understand!
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  Why did you join JW's?

  by happysunshine in

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  why did you join jw's?

  i was raised a witness, so i had no choice till i could live on my own.

  but why would you actually choose such a thing!

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  Bay64me: The fact that you're dealing with it means you're on your way out of a dysfunctional life!!! You refuse to stay trapped!!! I applaud you! Hang in there!

  Farkel: You're so funny!

  anewlife