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  Aftermath of being Reinstated

  by TxNVSue2023 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i'm in the process of being reinstated ( my df'ing story is on here).

  because i've never been in this position before, i don't know how i will be treated once i'm reinstated.

  i moved to a new city/state and i don't know a single person here or in my new congregation i am attending.

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  If you were a male, you would be more likely to be accepted back after reinstatement, particularly if you claim and display a desire to advance within the hierarchy (ministerial servant > elder etc).

  As a female, particularly as you are a stranger to your new congregation, you will most likely have a much more difficult time in being accepted.

  In the JW religion, records are kept on each member's performance, attitudes and sins throughout their life since becoming a JW, and your 'FILE' will follow you to each congregation you become a member of. Certain elders within each congregation you regularly attend, will likely review your file and will know your past record. Unfortunately, past sins can be thrown back in your face if you commit a further transgression, even if it has been 25+ years after your last known transgression.

  Your new congregation's elders will not decide whether you will be reinstated, but will communicate with the elders from your previous congregation who made the decision to df you, to obtain their advice and direction.

  While it is claimed Jehovah forgives, it seems his 'earthly organization' and its representatives, are not so forgiving and always seek to keep a record of account.
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  Update: Its been awhile.. Sorta a long post but i'll have a TLTR at the bottom.

  by Jayk in

  1. social
  2. family

  last time i was really active on here i just found out ttbtt.. i was 28 at the time and now im 33. a lot has gone on but im finally able to live my life.

  have my own apartment, steady job, a dog.

  a big event that recently happened was a little of a year and a half ago my jw mom passed away.. i hadn't talked to her in over a year prior and i almost didn't go see her before she did.

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  Is there any way to salvage or save our relationship?

  There is nothing to save as there is no relationship.

  A relationship involves the effort & cooperation of at least two people. If only you desire to build a relationship, but your sibling(s) do not, then you will continue to be disappointed, frustrated and probably depressed over the situation. You can only control your own actions, not the actions of others.

  As already mentioned by others, move on and create a good life for yourself, involving people who like, respect and love you for who you are now.

  If your siblings later have a change of heart and attitude and pursue a relationship with you, you may then choose to agree, but that relationship will be based on terms that are agreeable to both/all parties.
  
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  Been years since Ive gone - should I bother with a letter?

  by BeaverEater in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  sig other is half assed still in, one family member is in... its been years... wondering if i should just let it be or just call up hq and say i resign... i will be pissed if they announce shit at the kh, though i dont even remember the last one i went to... lol.

  for me, its none of anyone elses business... thoughts?.

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  Although it seems you successfully faded, providing a resignation letter implies they continue to have some authority over you as a member.

  If you truly consider yourself as no longer a member and therefore don't need to answer to them, do not communicate anything.
  
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  For Born-Ins - If You Were 18 Again, What 7 Things Would You do Differently?

  by Sea Breeze in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  here's mine:.

  1. go immediately to college and study construction management.

  2. set up an ira and start contributing every year.

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  Who we are today, is a result of the life experiences we have gained up to this stage in life.

  Too many dwell on what could have been if their situation had been different than it was but in actuality, hindsight is 20/20 and no one really knows at the time what the future will bring. Most 18-year olds typically want to party and chase the opposite sex and think there is lots of time ahead of them.

  You can't change what is in the past. Better to utilize your gained knowledge and experience to recognize what not to do so as to focus on changes to make over the rest of your life.
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  Unmarried couple staying at my house

  by suavojr in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i need your help with this topic.

  i’m trying to find an elder’s letter or wt article that frown upon a good standing jw allowing an unmarried couple to stay over their house for the night.. my wife claims this is a conscience matter and i say that’s bs, this leadership does not allow it.

  would like to find this info..

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  The way I understand the OP is this couple would be staying for one night only.

  The chances are zero to none that they’d be doing the nasty in someone else’s bed as a guest. - Solomon

  :-)

  A close relative uses a basement room as an Air B&B for short term stays. They had a couple stay for one night to attend a friend's wedding. After returning from the wedding reception during the night, this couple proceeded to wake-up everyone in the house while performing an extended sex session which included unrestrained moaning and banging against the headboard and against the walls within the shower.
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  Privacy commissioner orders North Okanagan Jehovah's Witnesses to hand over private records

  by yalbmert99 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  in b.c.

  , canada, a victory for ex-jws.

  https://infotel.ca/newsitem/privacy-commissioner-orders-north-okanagan-jehovahs-witnesses-to-hand-over-private-records/it92596.

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  Currently, the link fails to open.

  If there was no files collected and retained for each congregant, there would be nothing for the Privacy Commissioner to demand from Elders or WT.

  Do other religions retain files detailing the past behaviour history of each of their congregants?
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  I'm Back--Blondie

  by blondie in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  yes, i am posting again.

  i could not for awhile technologically and it is now fixed thanks to simon.

  thanks, simon!

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  Welcome back!

  There was a topic of concern regarding your sudden disappearance.

  Hope everyone is doing well.
  

  Incase you are not already aware, Minimus is no longer with us.
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  100+ Of The Great Canadian Rock Artists Of All Time!

  by Atlantis in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i find it refreshing to step away from all that tower crap from time to time!.

  100+ of the greatest canadian rock artists of all time!.

  it is no surprise to see the name "neil young" listed as number 1.. .

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  As with some of the preceeding, the genre may not necessarily always fit within ROCK, other Canadian notables include: (in no particular order)

  Michael Bublé

  Shawn Mendes

  Carly Rae Jepsen

  Glass Tiger

  Alessia Cara

  Serena Ryder

  Kim Mitchell

  David Wilcox
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  Not invited to congregation “get togethers”. They finally said it

  by solomon in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  we don’t get many invitations to congregational social gatherings.

  we don’t attend midweek meetings and miss about 1/3 of sunday meetings.

  we go in service at least once a month.

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  More than 2 decades ago while attending a circuit assembly as they were still called then, the doofus Elder delivering the part, bragged that he and his family ONLY associate with others that are stronger "In The Truth" than they are.

  He was promoting that as the attitude all JWs should have.
  

  I commented to my SO, that Elder should be relieved everyone does not have that attitude as the people he associates with, wouldn't associate with he and his family.

  One benefit to being treated as an outsider or unworthy, with no close friends, it makes it easier to leave when realizing it is all BS.
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  Who is the SEXIST MAN ALIVE in 2021?

  by pistolpete in

  1. social
  2. current

  anthony fauci.

  https://nypost.com/2021/09/15/the-guardian-proclaims-dr-anthony-fauci-sexiest-man-alive/.

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  Fauci is finally receiving much critism so the left is trying to over compensate to elevate his image.

  Who else did they attempt do that for? The now ex-governor of NY state.