Hey Lisa-baby.. you know I have big shoulders for ya.
Men and women deal with problems differently. I, and most men, handle it immedietly. No muss, no fuss, problem solved... or at least tackled. Women will tend to bottle it all up till an explosion point is met, days or weeks or months later. Am I right, generally speaking?
What I will do, if I have an issue about something, is ask people questions, people that I trust. I have one guy out here that I work with and hang with and we discuss all sorts of issues, even imaginary ones. We solve the worlds problems daily, and maybe our own inadvertantly.
I dont let on that anything is bothering me with the wife.... no need to burden her with my shit. If she has probs, she tells me and I tell her to quit being a baby (hahahaha... kidding). I ask her questions when she has something going on, so she finds her own answers. It works pretty good.
The kids are kids.... but SO FAR, they take my advice and have few problems that they tell me about. Key words are "tell me about".
I get lots of messages on the net asking my opinion... I shoot from the hip generally and keep the secrets that need kept. This keeps me on "retainer" for a few.
Animal