Tami - Forgive me for asking, but your mother never abused you? It just seems odd that a person would not molest their children, but would willingly do so to their grandchildren. In all the cases I've ever heard of, they may favor certain kids, but not just suddenly become molesters when their children have children. I am not saying it doesn't happen; I've heard of those who harm their nieces and nephews, or other people's children, but never their own. Were there any signs when you were growing up that your mother was or would become abusive in any way? It's sickening and unfathomable that she would treat you well, but not your children. :(