Nope. I don't miss the panic attacks and feeling like I was going to throw up when I had to give talks or go out in field service. I used to miss a few friends I had grown up with, but I have since realized that they were never really friends as they won't talk to me when they see me.They were conditional friends based on me following the brain-numbing dogma of the GB.
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What Happened?
by hibiscusfire inyou know everyday something goes on around you - at home, at work, when you are travelling, on holidays.. .
are people concerned about you today?
is there a way when things happen and you are not sure what to do that others who have been in a similar situation be able to help you?
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lilybird
Its true that in our society today, ppl don't always help others or want to get involved . A neighbour of ours works as cab driver. She was called to pick up a fare in the parking lot of a plaza. The teenage girl waiting for the ride asked the cabbie to put her small bag in the trunk, which she found a strange request as it was just a small plastic grocery bag. As she was putting the bag in the trunk, a teenage boy started beating on her. As he was beating her, there were many ppl coming and going as it was a busy plaza. NO one tried to help her or even called 911. After they both robbed her of the little cash she had, the cabby managed to crawl to her cab and called for help.... She couldn't believe no one even cared enough to call 911. She has recovered from her numerous injuries and the two people who attacked her have been caught.
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Did I call on you?
by ackack inwhen i was a dub, i called on someone who identified themselves as an "apostate".
it was on barrington, in toronto canada.
at any rate, if it was you, let me know.
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lilybird
I live just east of Toronto, but no one has called at my house in over 15 years as we are "marked " as apostates. Too bad really because I would like to share why I am "apostate" to a JW at my door,,,, Anyways.. Welcome to the forum.....
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Yet another "My Story"
by mapleaf18 inmy story: and i apologize in advance for the long post.. i was born to special pio parents and i attended my first meeting when i was 6 days old, which was unusual in the 50s and 60s because babies were usually quarantined for the first month or so.
my mother had a poor childhood and was often placed with uncaring relatives which served as foster homes.
my father was raised in a single parent home by his divorced mother who was looking for answers.
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Hi Maple,,, you had a very troubled childhood but the happy ending is you have found a wonderful new life away from the prisonwalls of the society. My parents were not abusive but my mother struggled with mental illness throughout my childhood and was in hospital for shock treatments several times. It is not easy dealing with a mentally ill mother and then dealing with a tyrannical father..Sometimes a hard life makes us stronger ppl as you seem to have become... Thanks for sharing your story..... there are always lots of people here to listen to you and help you along in your new life...
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Who all here was personally helped by JWD
by Ticker ini was and i am ever thankful to this board and all the wonderful members on it that have contributed to my freedom.
thankyou all so much and i think i might be becoming a jwd addict.
i love this board it is so helpful.
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lilybird
Even though I have been disassociated for about 18 years, and I knew I made the right decision, every once in a while little nagging doubts would come up as to "what if Armaggedon really did come, what if they were right after all". Finding this board made me aware of the total hypocrisy of the organization and the brainwashing and wasted lives. Case in point,,, U.N. involvement as one of many...... With all the research and time so many posters put into keeping others informed of the false teachings of the society, I really know I made the right decision in escaping...... Not to mention,, so many funny and at times heartwarming postings that are so enjoyable, informative and/or thought provoking...Thanks to everyone who posts here , whether they are debating , arguing or encouraging,,,,, Its always great to meet here.
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An End To Shunning
by Sunspot inwell, in my case anyway.
for those of you that may recall my posts about my family and that after i left the wts, how i wrote long (and painful) letters to my nonjw children among others.
i had tried to explain why i had shunned them and how very sorry i was, and for all the mistakes i had made throughout their childhoods as a jw mother.
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Sunspot, Mending the scars that we carry from our lives as Dubs sometimes takes a while, but how wonderful when they finally are!! So happy for you and your son and now you can build more happy memories in your new life , free to be a loving family....
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witnoid weddings
by katiekitten inwhen i was a kid weddings in the troof were a big deal.
probably because they were the main if not only excuse for a knees up.
if someone was getting married they were not in control of the decisions about the reception.
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We had the typical "everyone in the congregation" is invited wedding. We had wanted just a small garden weddding , no fuss, but when the sisters heard about that, they insisted on a big wedding, They hadn't had a big wedding in a long time and its the only time it seems you can actually drink , dance and just enjoy yourself. The sisters all brought dishes, my mom cooked turkeys and baked desserts and they all cleaned up afterward... Well it was their decision..lol.. It turned out to be a lot of fun actually,, everyone actually talked about it for months after,,,,,,, sad isn't it.. how little fun they have in their lives that a wedding is such a big deal....... I also had the "personal" showers where where the sisters all loved trying to outshook each other with the lingerie they bought for me........One shocking outcome from our wedding... one sister who wasn't getting any action from her Dub hubby ended up going home and getting some from a single brother in the congregation..Guess they had a bit to drink and one thing lead to another................ turns out...her husband was actually gay and so wasn't interested in her sexually.... their marriage ended pretty quick after all that...
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Letting thier actions give a thorough witness (a co-workers thoughts)....
by riotgirlpeeps inlate last week i got a chance to give a good "anti-witness".
there is a co-worker of mine who was raised around the org but never became one.
she recently has studied off and on.. she knows a little about my situation, ie divorce finalized in the beginning of the year, actual process started last june.
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lilybird
It was the opposite with an elder who worked with my husband. No one at work knew he was a witness, He never even admitted to having any religious beliefs at all. Even though my husband was disassociated, he never asked him why or tried to convince my husband to come back. When this elder retired a few years back, he and his other coworkers rented a room in the Skydome downtown Toronto and had a big bash... porn movies and all... He even invited his son,, who by the way was no longer a witness after having a lengthy affair with an elder's wife..........I think it was a case of this elder having all his family as Dubs... mother, brothers, sisters and he played the game of being good elder and Dub when needed and at work enjoyed just being regular "worldly" guy...
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What quenches your thirst the most?
by JH inwhat do you like to drink, other than water, that quenches your thirst, when you're extrememely thirsty?.
beer?.
gatorade?.
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lilybird
Ice cold water with ice works best for me... but a corona with lime is great too!!!
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Would you go to a funeral at the Kingdom Hall?
by Dustin inso my brother and i have been having talks about what will happen when our dad passes away eventually.
most of his brothers and sisters have died in their 50's or early 60's.
i flat out refuse to attend any part of the service that would be done at the kingdom hall.
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lilybird
My husband and I went the Kingdom Hall for his father's funeral. I was worried about how we would be treated, An old couple I had known since I was little, came to tallk to us. They were very sweet and asked us to come visit them. Most others were friendly ,,but seem to look at us like horns would grow out of our heads at any moment..... The funeral talk was very annoying.. having to listen to the hope for the resurrection...blah..blah..blah..... but I enjoyed going back in the fact that they could see we were still a very happy normal family,,, 3 kids and all.... and our lives were going on just fine without the help of the society ..thank you very much...I just tried to view it as an outsider... not think about the bad crap that made we want to leave....We figured it was the last thing we ever had to do for his Dad as regards the witnesses...It was difficult,,, sometimes nauseating... but we did it for his parents...