Posts by dubstepped

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How do you overcome SHUNNING after leaving the organization and move on?

by suavojr in

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it amazes me how many of you have left it all behind, including family, brothers and sisters, friends and a full network of people.

i for one cannot find the courage to breakaway, and this causes me great anxiety and stress.

it eats me alive to think that if i open my mouth everyone i know will simply turn their back on me.

dubstepped

I focus on the freedom I have and the life I'm building with infinite possibilities. I focus on new relationships with people that actually choose me, not just people that I'm stuck in some group with. I focus on what I've got, not what I don't. Gratitude and appreciation every day for the beautiful new life that's opened up to me. I have my moments where I miss my parents of my siblings that are still in, but it is brief because I then realize that they have the cult contagion on them and that in their presence I would be exposed to toxicity. I'd love to sit with my family like old times and to shoot the breeze and laugh at life, but I have new people to do that with that care about me regardless of religious affiliation and without manipulation.

With that said, we just DA'd in September, and we were shunned since May entirely, with our last meaningful contact with family being probably over a year ago. I do think it gets easier with time in my limited experience.

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Survey: How long were you in the cult vs what year you were baptized

by ILoveTTATT2 in

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friends

hi people,.

i want as much data as possible on the effect of the internet on the time captured by the cult.. please answer the three following questions about yourself or about someone you know (for example, if your parents or grandparents were jw's and left).

1) were you raised as a jw, or did you convert?.

dubstepped

1. Raised in

2. Baptized 1992

3. DA'd 2015

Total: 23 years

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Why designated hotels?

by punkofnice in

does anyone know why the congregations are urged to use only recommended hotels for a$$mbies?

dubstepped

The Borg probably gets a cut of the action. Someone here once told me they get comped rooms for special delegates and such. The organization profits by controlling the rest of the people. I would get my own room and find better prices without having to watch my brothers and sisters steal food or be rude at breakfast to one another.

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Kid has Xbox stolen, police buy him a new one

by Simon in

it's easy to get down and disheartened about depressing world events.. it's important to remember that the good guys outnumber the bad guys, they just don't make the headlines as often.. so here's a nice story:.

on sunday, 11-year-old tontrevion campbell went to church with his mom.. at the same time, police say, burglars entered his home and broke one of the commandments.. as the memphis police department describes it on its facebook page: "the thief or thieves stole several of his mom's items, but they also stole the young man's xbox game system and every single game that this 11-year-old owned.".

there are quite a few adults who'd be upset.

dubstepped

Wow, that's awesome. Good for them!

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CEDARS (Again) Is it really about religious beliefs?

by Listener in

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john cedars has posted his latest blog "the trouble with apostates (and why it shouldn't put you off becoming one)".

i acknowledge that he is entitled to his opionin just as we are ours but i am disappointed in some of his comments.. at this stage i'll try to be objective about it.

he is defending his own position after all.. what bothers me most is his comments about athiests and christians which he seems to identify as being in conflict with each other.

dubstepped

@Cofty - I sent you a pm in lieu of derailing this thread. TTYL

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CEDARS (Again) Is it really about religious beliefs?

by Listener in

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friends

john cedars has posted his latest blog "the trouble with apostates (and why it shouldn't put you off becoming one)".

i acknowledge that he is entitled to his opionin just as we are ours but i am disappointed in some of his comments.. at this stage i'll try to be objective about it.

he is defending his own position after all.. what bothers me most is his comments about athiests and christians which he seems to identify as being in conflict with each other.

dubstepped

Lol Cofty, you're one of the foremost that comes to mind. Your post above mine is exactly what I'm talking about with you talking down about people's "delusions". To think any one of us knows it all is the height of delusion. You can no more prove the existence of God than that God does not exist. It ends up being divisive because instead of trying to have two sides trying to learn and grow from one another they tend to sit as polar opposites and look down upon the other's views as mere rubbish, as you clearly do. I believe in God but question it. I find it hard to find many athiests that will question their athiesm. As long as anyone goes into a conversation with an I'm right and you're wrong mentality, little is ever learned and the tone is condescending and off putting. Sadly that's what most devolves into.

I have a topic I've thought about starting. If I do you're free to reply and I'm open to real open minded discussion if you are.

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CEDARS (Again) Is it really about religious beliefs?

by Listener in

jw
friends

john cedars has posted his latest blog "the trouble with apostates (and why it shouldn't put you off becoming one)".

i acknowledge that he is entitled to his opionin just as we are ours but i am disappointed in some of his comments.. at this stage i'll try to be objective about it.

he is defending his own position after all.. what bothers me most is his comments about athiests and christians which he seems to identify as being in conflict with each other.

dubstepped

I avoid talking much about the Bible or God on here because from what I see too many ex-JWs still believe that wherever they land in life is "truth" and everyone else is dead wrong. It is tiring and I have no desire to open a thread about the Bible to have it derailed by pompous atheists anymore than I desire to be pompous and go into athoestic threads and tell them they're dead wrong. I see a large divide even on here and see that divide as a lack of respect for the opinions of others reminiscent of my days as a dub. I'd love to have open, respectful conversations but it isn't possible, and I'm open to Bible criticism. I'm just not open to a-holes, which many ex-Witnesses become for their newfound beliefs.

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Merry Pantsmas Everyone!

by Billy the Ex-Bethelite in

okay, i posted this in a thread that got locked and buried.

since then i've been really busy and have overdosed on christmas music in the past week.

so, i'm resurrecting this "holy day" holiday that most people will unknowingly be celebrating tomorrow.

dubstepped

Why, oh WHYYYYY, have I never heard of this before?! This is a great holiday.

Also, why, oh WHYYYYY, did I watch that stupid Jimmy Fallon video from SNL? I will never get that "tight pants" song out of my head!

Oh, and this site owes Billy an apology for not having the rating system back in the day when he made the original post. That thing is worthy of infinite up-votes. Hilarious.

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The Elders are Coming Help!

by LaurenM in

so the elders keep bugging me and pestering me about having a meeting with them to "introduce me to my new congregation" for some reason (do any ex elders know what that even means??).

i keep postponing and making excuses and they are getting more and more aggressive.

i finally agreed for them to come over today, but really don't want to..should i hide from them again?

dubstepped

I'm with LisaRose, why do you feel obliged to let them come over and give in to them. You asked "How can I make them go away?". Well, how do you avoid doing anything else you don't want to do? A simple no will do. No is a complete sentence. They say they want to come over, and you say no. They say why, and you don't have to explain yourself. No, I don't want you to. I so hate the JW entitlement to cross boundaries and push themselves into your life. I like the good old, "don't call me, I'll call you". Or just DA like I did and don't have to ever worry about them intruding again.

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HAPPY THANKSGIVING ERRRRRRRRRR BODY.!!!

by brandnew in

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friends

just wanna say.....im thankfull for y'all....n stuff

dubstepped

We just got back from our first Thanksgiving and it was fantastic. A nice worldly family that we clean for invited us to their family's celebration. Good food, good people, and lots of fun. Well, we did rob a gas station, bow to Satan's altar, kill a homeless person, and by the end of the night it turned into an orgy at the house because we all know that's what "worldly" people do all the time as the Borg told us, but it was a good time.