Posts by dubstepped

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Had a weird love-bombing throwback today......

by dubstepped in

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my wife is having her first birthday party in july, and we're looking for a place to hold it.

we found an episcopal church online that offered their fellowship hall for such occasions, and we went to check it out this morning.

when we arrived they were having something in the hall and were setting up for it.

dubstepped

SafeAtHome: What a sweet thought: "Most people never remember their first birthday", but your wife will get to remember hers! 🎂 Happy early birthday to her.

Thanks! I passed on the good wishes to my wife. She never had any friends as a JW as she grew up in a KH with no young people her age. She had 4 younger sisters and that was it. I love my wife and want the best for her and feel bad that she has always lacked confidence because of what her messed up parents and the organization did to her. She is the type of person that loves to be the center of attention and never has had that opportunity (other than parts on the TMS/assemblies and being bullied in school). She would have been in theater and plays if she had a fighting chance as a kid. We're doing our best to come up with fun ideas for her party so that she gets what she wants. We aren't likely to do a big party every year, but I want her to have fun and be herself and to realize that is okay.

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Had a weird love-bombing throwback today......

by dubstepped in

jw
friends

my wife is having her first birthday party in july, and we're looking for a place to hold it.

we found an episcopal church online that offered their fellowship hall for such occasions, and we went to check it out this morning.

when we arrived they were having something in the hall and were setting up for it.

dubstepped

Let me make it clear here that I have NO intention of going to any church and am not looking. The trip to the Episcopalian Church was only to see about renting their detached fellowship hall for the birthday party. I'm glad to hear that at other religious entities they are maybe more genuine than the love bombing at Kingdom Halls, but it still gave me serious flashbacks.

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Had a weird love-bombing throwback today......

by dubstepped in

jw
friends

my wife is having her first birthday party in july, and we're looking for a place to hold it.

we found an episcopal church online that offered their fellowship hall for such occasions, and we went to check it out this morning.

when we arrived they were having something in the hall and were setting up for it.

dubstepped

My wife is having her first birthday party in July, and we're looking for a place to hold it. We found an Episcopal Church online that offered their fellowship hall for such occasions, and we went to check it out this morning. When we arrived they were having something in the hall and were setting up for it. I'm guessing a Mother's Day event, small and for the church members. My wife and I walked in and it started, just like the days of yore with the J-dubs. People were asking if we were new to the church, very friendly, but very friendly with that desperate look in their eyes like you would get when visiting a rural Kingdom Hall where they desperately wanted new blood. They offered us cupcakes and other snacks that they had out and were very welcoming, to be sure, but we both got thrown back to the old experience of walking into a new congregation.

I do think we'll end up renting their place. My wife likes it, and she admittedly likes the thought of throwing a birthday party in a church hall just as a way of throwing it in the face of what her whole life has been like. It feels so wrong and so right at the same time. You only get one shot at your first birthday, and most people never remember theirs, but my wife wants one day to be just about her and to have fun and I want to make sure that she has it, even if renting places isn't cheap.

I hope we don't have to agree to a Bible Study to use their rental hall, lol. That would be awkward.

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Special Day for our family today!

by Captain Schmideo2 in

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my son graduates with his bachelors degree, cum laude!.

he is the first in my family to graduate with a four year degree.

and he is already in talks for a teaching job.. so, gerrit lush....up your nose with a rubber hose!

dubstepped

Better watch out for angry she-bears with those words, lol.

Seriously though, congratulations!!!

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When Disaster Strikes

by NeverAllowestobeMyself in

jehovah's witnesses repeatedly report that when disaster strikes they are the quickest to respond, the most organized relief agency and they provide superior support to their members and the affected community.. they make it sound like organizations such as the red cross are completely in disarray every disaster until jehovah's witnesses show up and show everyone how it's done!.

in the wake of recent disasters around the globe i would like to encourage everyone to share experiences of people showing genuine love to their neighbors, communities going the extra mile and organizations doing brilliant work..

dubstepped

We had a tornado that ripped through a town near us and destroyed everything. I will never forget sitting in a meeting during the circuit overseer's visit and listening to that douchebag tell us from the platform how our brothers acted out of the right motivation and helped so many while other organizations did it for random unspoken nefarious reasons and selfish gain. I was in the front row, and it took everything I had not to flip him off and walk out. Why? Because I knew people firsthand that my wife and I worked for, evil "worldly" people that we worked for that donated their personal trucks to volunteers and that went up and helped out of the goodness of their hearts, and here this circuit overseer, a man that only swings by occasionally for a visit, was running those good people down to promote the Witnesses. And I also know for a fact that the JW's were among the LAST to arrive. In fact, one brother justified it to me by telling me that being first isn't always prudent, sometimes the Borganization sits back and watches patiently so that they can come in and help the right way instead of just rushing in and making a bigger mess out of the situation. Just talking about this makes my blood boil because they're so full of it. When they do go to help, we all know who they go to first, not the ones that need it most, but their own. Jehovah's Witnesses are awful even when helping.

A lesson to Jehovah's Witnesses. You don't have to put others down to celebrate your own efforts. Do what you do, be happy and/or proud of whatever help you can bring, but when you try to run others down you might just be waking somebody up. Not everything has to be a contest, trying to figure out who is the most righteous.

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Understanding The Bible ... The "Linchpin" Effect

by Littleleslie in

understanding the holy bible.. .

after many years of study of scripture, our bible study group has discovered something very important that needs to be realized or absorbed, before one can come to a correct understanding of the bible.

we call it, the "linchpin" effect... .

dubstepped

Why would God have a book put together where the truth of it is hidden? Just to confuse people for centuries?

The more I learn about the Bible the less I believe in it. I mean come on, if God is supposed to be a loving heavenly father why ate his instructions so cryptic. Would a loving father give his kids riddles and then kill them if they can't figure them out? The Bible is a collection of stories, some with good lessons, some reflecting wisdom (like Proverbs), and some just batsh!t crazy. If it is something God wants me to devote my life to he needs to make it more clear and maybe preserve evidence for some of the history it claims.

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New ANTI-GAY video for Kids on jw.org

by ttdtt in

https://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/family/children/become-jehovahs-friend/videos/one-man-one-woman-marriage/.

disgusting!.

dubstepped

M*A*S*H - A better video would be the little girl coming home and saying she might be gay... I would like to see the reaction to that.

Great point. My wife and I had a family that we were close with from a rural area about an hour away. Their little girl said constantly since the time she was well, a little girl, that she wanted to be a boy. She always kept her hair short and wore boy clothes except at meetings and in service. We found out later in life that as a teen she was asking other girls if they would find her attractive if she was a boy. Her parents were hard core, very rigid in their dubdom. We lost contact once they moved away and now that we've disassociated I'm sure they'd never in a million years talk to us, but I wonder what happened to their daughter. She clearly had issues from early on, and her parents would NOT accept any alternative anything. I hope she found peace despite all of the hateful messages that she heard and what her family would say.

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New ANTI-GAY video for Kids on jw.org

by ttdtt in

https://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/family/children/become-jehovahs-friend/videos/one-man-one-woman-marriage/.

disgusting!.

dubstepped

Cofty: dubstepped - Did you read Steve2's comments?
He self-identifies as a gay man.
"It's clearly NOT a hateful video. The adjective "hateful" has become an over-used word to describe anyone who dares disagree with you on a sensitive issue." - Steve2
Taking offense doesn't count. It is a cowardly way to shut down conversation.

I looked it up and hate speech is speech that offends, insults, or threatens groups, based on things such as sexual orientation. I'm pretty sure that most gay people would be offended at that video.

So now Steve2 not only speaks for all gay humanity but also sets definitions of words. Gotcha. We're all wrong because 1. Cofty says so folks, end of thread. Or, just maybe you feel one way and we feel the other. It's cool with me. Clearly it never is with you.

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New ANTI-GAY video for Kids on jw.org

by ttdtt in

https://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/family/children/become-jehovahs-friend/videos/one-man-one-woman-marriage/.

disgusting!.

dubstepped

Cofty: The worse part of the video is that the little girl is being taught how to go back to school and make judgemental comments about her school friend's parents.

That doesn't sound at least a little hateful to you? A quick definition of hateful would mean "very unpleasant" or "very bad or evil". I think you're reasonable enough to see that it at least ticks those boxes. Maybe it doesn't fit your definition of hatred which I could see one seeing as more intense than what was shown, but it certainly meets some definitions, maybe just not yours.

I looked it up and hate speech is speech that offends, insults, or threatens groups, based on things such as sexual orientation. I'm pretty sure that most gay people would be offended at that video.

I really wouldn't keep arguing that it isn't hateful. It is, even if not as intensely as some might view the word "hate".

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Letter # 1 to the Governing Body of Jehovah's witnesses

by WITNESS-FOR-WATCHTOWER-REFORM in

here is my first letter i posted to the governing body.

i also hope that brothers on the writing committee who may be lurking on this site (and have some clout) read my letter and bring in change to this very flawed policy around confession of sins.. enjoy.

the governing body of jehovah’s witnesses.

dubstepped

I hate to be discouraging, but nobody will care. If you're doing this to get things off your chest, fire away. If you think the writing committee comes here for ideas, I'm not sure where you get that. If you send it to HQ it will never reach the GB.