Next week is my one year Shunniversary. I identify with your OP but can tell you that there's a magic point where all of that goes away fast. You have to give it time. Decades of cult indoctrination don't just disappear overnight. You need to develop friendships. That will help. You need to tell your story to people and feel seen and heard. It will happen for you. Do not give in to the cult and go back. I know the pull is strong now, but it will dissipate as one life replaces the other. Stay strong and you'll ultimately be happy like never before.
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Help Please - Finding It Hard Adjusting To The Real World
by pale.emperor inim asking for you guys help in a phase im going through right now.
im sure it’ll pass but id appreciate your advice..
born in, my family consists of mum, dad, two brothers and two sisters.
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Why A Divine Being is Possible
by looter innow we all have heard how the universe is composed of matter and space.
and we always here of how it had a beginning.
but really what could have begun it?
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dubstepped
Of course it's possible. To assert that you know anything about that divine being though is the height of arrogance, as would be insisting on a divine being when you don't know. Possibility is a beautiful thing. Absolute belief without proof is delusion.
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Jw's and beards
by wannaexit inwithout going into details.
it appears that new light might be coming down the pipes that beards are acceptable.
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dubstepped
@konceptual: It has always been my understanding that what it says in that article is how it was. I don't really see anything new. They usually stayed away from making a direct rule, deferring to local culture, but here in the United States it has been frowned upon based on the feelings about beards from generations ago. Then again, maybe it is an overlapping frown on beards because they just can't make progress and change with the times but always lag behind.
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Shunning the Shunning
by Tallon infound this very interesting article on another site.
looks like there people, and at an assembly too, who are not afraid to show their displeasure to the inhumane policies of the org.. http://avoidjw.org/2016/08/shunning-the-shunning/.
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dubstepped
@Landy, you misread it. The disfellowshipping announcement was in the video where the young lady was disfellowshipped.
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Mega-Church buys JW Assembly Hall property in Indianapolis
by OrphanCrow inand yet another sale of watchtower property.... http://www.ibj.com/articles/59973-suburban-mega-church-expanding-into-downtown-with-big-purchase.
suburban megachurch expanding into downtown with big purchasea historic church building at the corner of 12th and delaware streets has been purchased by a large congregation expanding into the downtown area.. traders point christian church in whitestown is spending $2 million to renovate the 35,300-square-foot structure and should have it ready for worship early next year, rev.
james stanley said.. the neoclassical, limestone building has been used as a place of worship since it was built in 1912 and had been owned by the jehovah’s witnesses since 1978.. the location at 1201 n. delaware st., across from the benjamin harrison presidential site, will be the third for traders point.
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They were supposed to sell it, along with another one, to build one in or near Cincinnati. Last I heard that deal was off, but they're still selling what they have.
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Off On A Trip - But Little Enthusiam
by Joe Grundy innever was a jw, but been here a long time.. off on a trip in a week or so, uk to andorra to stay with a friend for 10 days or so (beautiful place) then a week or so wending through france back home.. did the same trip the last couple of years -it was wonderful.
met some lovely people, including an ex-polce woman over coffees and calvados after dinner.. but ... i don't feel so enthusiastic about this trip.
i'll visit the cathar sites and other places.. maybe- just maybe - i've come to the conclusion that these trips are not as much fun if you don't have a companion to share it with..
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Oops, I meant to like your generous offer and apparently hit dislike. My bad. Who could dislike such a cool opportunity. -
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Mega-Church buys JW Assembly Hall property in Indianapolis
by OrphanCrow inand yet another sale of watchtower property.... http://www.ibj.com/articles/59973-suburban-mega-church-expanding-into-downtown-with-big-purchase.
suburban megachurch expanding into downtown with big purchasea historic church building at the corner of 12th and delaware streets has been purchased by a large congregation expanding into the downtown area.. traders point christian church in whitestown is spending $2 million to renovate the 35,300-square-foot structure and should have it ready for worship early next year, rev.
james stanley said.. the neoclassical, limestone building has been used as a place of worship since it was built in 1912 and had been owned by the jehovah’s witnesses since 1978.. the location at 1201 n. delaware st., across from the benjamin harrison presidential site, will be the third for traders point.
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dubstepped
I went to that assembly hall. Why not sell it to a church? After all, it was a church before the dubs got it. I thought they bought it from a church. I used to feel so weird in there. It had the balcony and stained glass and felt like a church. Nice building though.
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Elders Advice Backfired And Now Im The Happiest I've Ever Been
by pale.emperor injust wanted to update you guys of the amazing couple of weeks i've had in recovering from the cult.. i was attending the meetings still just so i could see my daughter in the kingdom hall and have her sit we me half the time.
i had no intention of ever becoming a jw again but was hoping to be re-instated and just not turn up ever again so i could at least see my family.
but then an elder said something to me that changed all that.
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dubstepped
Such a disgusting yet beautiful post P.E. I'm so happy for your happiness, and seriously that elder is a piece of human trash.
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Hello all
by WhiskeySix ini am new to this site and wanted to say hi.
my wife and i are recently disassociated.
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dubstepped
Welcome to the DA club! September 2 will be our first shunniversary since my wife and I disassociated last year.
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Jehovah in New Testament
by truthwillsetyoufree inhi guys.
conscienceguy started a topic regarding what to say to the elders about the name jehovah being in the new testament.
i wrote him a private message with my comments on the matter.
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dubstepped
Isn't all of this to say, in short, that clearly the Bible is of no importance? I mean, if God cared about it and endorsed it, shouldn't he have seen the confusion it would cause? If it was to be a holy book, revered and lived by thousands of years later, shouldn't he have made sure it made sense? Or does he like playing games with humanity, separating us through riddles and inconsistencies? Stuff like this is just another reason to not care about the Bible, for me. I don't like playing games with things that are important. From the very beginning (creative days aren't literal but talking snakes are) the book loses credibility.