Great point siar2! You see people wake up, get excited, lose all tact, and get shunned real fast. We have to give others time to see things for themselves too.
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"They are so keen, they need to be locked up for the first 6 months!"
by stuckinarut2 indo we all remember that expression when we were jws?.
someone new would "come into the truth", and be so enthusiastic and keen, that we would all joke about "locking them up for the first 6 months because they would preach to everyone".
jws thought that the passion for "learning the truth" was the issue.
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Net site for ex-jw dating, any out there?
by jam ini was thinking about this because it appear that so many.
young ones are coming out.
person i would want to date was a ex-jw.. i look at the young lady my son is dating and they have.
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You joined the site, admitted that you may not be back much, bumped a 7 year old post, and made one post asking for someone to build you a website so that you can find an exjw lady. W-O-W.
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Navigating Sec.gov
by APieceOfShitNamedTate incan anyone explain exactly how to navigate sec.gov in order to find records of watchtower's investments?
i saw the video called why i left jehovah's witnesses from exjw analyzer where he talked about this.
i'm never able to find anything when i go there.
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dubstepped
There you go. I saw files and read through some but must have overlooked the Watchtower involvement. I see it there. Thanks. I'll pass it on.
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Navigating Sec.gov
by APieceOfShitNamedTate incan anyone explain exactly how to navigate sec.gov in order to find records of watchtower's investments?
i saw the video called why i left jehovah's witnesses from exjw analyzer where he talked about this.
i'm never able to find anything when i go there.
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dubstepped
I've tried finding similar information. I was once able to find Watchtower linked to Rand Cam but have been unable to recently as I was trying to help someone find it.
I think some of Watchtower ownership is more like stock ownership through donations when people die but I do remember seeing with my own eyes that they literally had ownership positions in some things. I looked just this week to help someone that brought it up on Reddit and couldn't locate it.
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Humourous DA letter
by besty inright- we've been thinking about this.. .
it seems that most da letters are: doctrinal, personal, emotional or or major issues such un etc .
and completely understandably so..but.. .
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Dammit! I want to disassociate again now. I guess I could always send in one that's humorous and sign someone else's name in the congregation just for fun.
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May 2019 Watchtower doubles down on the "Two Witness Rule" !
by stuckinarut2 inthis is simply disturbing and infuriating!.
the may 2019 wt has defiantly and arrogantly been released by the gb, and it is full of their disgusting excuses for not complying with authorities!.
(i have seen and read all the articles, but cant work out how to upload a link here - perhaps someone can assist?).
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I've always felt that there's nothing wrong with the 2 witness rule itself per se. The problem is that unqualified individuals are handling something that they shouldn't to begin with, and then if there aren't 2 witnesses they don't take it seriously. They should simply recuse themselves from hearing any such accusation and immediately ENCOURAGE (which isn't the same as "we do not discourage") people to take the matter to the proper authorities. This isn't even hard.
Instead, it is all about control with the cult. They need you to need them. They need you to bring everything to them to exert dominance. Then once you do they have standards above what could likely be met and history shows that over and over they actually have discouraged people from going to the proper authorities. The whole thing is a mess.
I do agree that you can't just run with and condemn people based on accusations, but the proper authorities have training on how to handle such matters and know what evidence to gather. Many elders are morons and should never be handling such matters. They certainly should never be handling them in the deplorable manner that many do, asking horrifically sensitive questions as people unqualified to deal with the answers.The whole thing is simply inappropriate. I do agree that a focus on the 2 witness rule itself is probably a focus in the wrong direction. However, it's also erroneous to simplify the 2 witness rule to the base rule itself and to ignore everything that its existence within the cult entails.
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Disfellowshipped/disassociated – How did your parents handle it?
by Richard_I into those who were disfellowshipped/disassociated – how did your still-in parents handle it?.
i don’t want to fade, so i am thinking about disassociating soon – i don’t care if i’m playing by the org’s rules, i just want out.. however, i am concerned about how my parents will react.
i don’t want them to become super depressed or whatever due to me leaving the org.. i don’t want them to be hurt by my decision to leave the org, but i feel like there is no way of avoiding this..
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dubstepped
It's up to you man. What is most important to you? For some it is taking a stand against the JWs. For others it is family, even if those relationships are toxic. Only you can weight the pros and cons. As to what kind of scrutiny your family ends up under, that's their problem unless you're trying to keep a relationship with them. Some relationships are worth keeping, others aren't. Everyone has to make their choices and live with the consequences. What choice will you make? Do the one that fits you. It's your life, not that of your parents or anyone else. I know one member here disassociated recently and it was good for them. I know that in a group I run a few have done so and felt good about it. Others continue playing the game and fade. It's your life. We can't make the decision for you. We can be happy that you're out, however you choose.
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"Caves" from this forum on the Shunned Podcast
by dubstepped in---------------new episode-----------------.
episode twenty four - silvers is shunned by jehovah's witnesses.
homeless at just 13 years of age, married at 16, raised by extended family that claimed him as their own to create the young jehovah’s witness that they wanted, silvers led a life that encompassed the whole toxic palette of cult life.
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I know that he's listening to it now. It's quite the journey. He's a strong guy that should be proud of just making it through all that he's experienced.
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"Caves" from this forum on the Shunned Podcast
by dubstepped in---------------new episode-----------------.
episode twenty four - silvers is shunned by jehovah's witnesses.
homeless at just 13 years of age, married at 16, raised by extended family that claimed him as their own to create the young jehovah’s witness that they wanted, silvers led a life that encompassed the whole toxic palette of cult life.
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---------------New Episode-----------------
Episode Twenty Four - Silvers is shunned by Jehovah's Witnesses
Homeless at just 13 years of age, married at 16, raised by extended family that claimed him as their own to create the young Jehovah’s Witness that they wanted, Silvers led a life that encompassed the whole toxic palette of cult life. His life was touched by abuse of every kind and he’s been as low as a human can get mentally and emotionally, but yet here he stands. Today he tells his story to the world. Today Silvers takes that stand for himself and not only will you hear his story but you will get an inspiring update afterward. That’s not to say that life is easy for him or that everything always turns up roses, but his story is a testament to the human spirit. He is one that keeps getting up over and over again and fights for something better.
You can download and listen on your podcast app of choice (iTunes, Apple Podcast, Google Play, Podcast Republic, Podbean, etc.). I personally use Podcast Republic.
You can also listen on my website at:
https://shunnedpodcast.com/episode-twenty-four-silvers-is-…/
Or, if you like you can use Youtube to listen at:
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Shunning Hath Begunith
by Solzhenitsyn inmy spouse assumed that being honest would feel liberating.
appointments were made with pimi parents to let them know of the decision to no longer be a jw.
before the tall nonfat latte at starbucks was half drunk and after her parents asked several direct questions, they stood up, hugged her and said "well this is goodbye, return to jehovah and we'll pick up right where we left off, we love you," and walked out the door.
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dubstepped
I'd say that shunning is pretty consistent, though nothing is 100%, and should always be expected. It's the rules for good JWs and is the baseline. Anything you receive beyond that is weakness in your JW relatives where their humanity hasn't been quite squashed out yet. It is both good and bad. Often JWs that make their own rules are more permissive but that also makes it all more bearable for them. Those that are more all or nothing tend to go more toward the nothing side if they can't do it all. But shunning is what they are supposed to do. The inconsistency comes from individuals doing their own thing despite the cult, but that still seems like the minority overall.