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  If They Weren't a Cult Before.....

  by AllTimeJeff in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i just wanted to officially change something on my viewpoint.

  i have thought about this for a few days.

  i used to think that while they were in some ways controlling, that jw's did not meet the criteria of a cult totally.

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  I totally agree. I wish I could send it to some of my family members. However, I don't think they would believe it as they are too deeply involved.

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  Confused!! Help!!

  by BigBloomerz in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  ok so here goes...ive fallen for a guy, who seems perfect for me, everything ive ever wanted in a man, kind, sensitive, caring and reliable.

  only problem is, he is not a jw and i sort of am, sort of meaning, i was brought up in the truth i have gone through rebelious stages and just passed them off as wanting to experience, i nearly married a jw but the night before the wedding he called it off and said he wasnt ready (we had sleot with each other beforehand, so he prob didnt see the point in going ahead anymore!

  got what he had wanted!

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  what next?

  Have you considered fading?

  I have to say I have found it interesting talking to worldly people about the future. More specifically, my husband. He is content with living life to the fullest and doing good towards others. He is not constantly worried about what will happen when he dies as he has no control over that. He hopes there is more, but does not push himself to the extreme to make sure he gets there. He is very happy and content with his way of thinking.

  It took me a while to grasp his way of thinking since I was raised I was never going to die. Now I know I will die eventually. I admit, it is very hard to come to terms with. However, it is much better than breaking my back trying to serve an organization in the hopes that I will make it into the new system. Once you get away from the JW way of thinking, you look back and wonder why you stuck with it so long. Or at least, that is what think now.

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  Confused!! Help!!

  by BigBloomerz in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  ok so here goes...ive fallen for a guy, who seems perfect for me, everything ive ever wanted in a man, kind, sensitive, caring and reliable.

  only problem is, he is not a jw and i sort of am, sort of meaning, i was brought up in the truth i have gone through rebelious stages and just passed them off as wanting to experience, i nearly married a jw but the night before the wedding he called it off and said he wasnt ready (we had sleot with each other beforehand, so he prob didnt see the point in going ahead anymore!

  got what he had wanted!

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  Oh, and about the family and friends. I have a few family members that speak with me, but I have basically been shunned by my parents and most of my extended family. I moved away from the area and slowly made contact with some of my old JW friends via email. I received positive responses and I see them from time to time. However, most have been lost to me. But if I really think about it -- were they really MY friends? You might have to move on and create new friendships outside of the JW world.

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  Confused!! Help!!

  by BigBloomerz in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  ok so here goes...ive fallen for a guy, who seems perfect for me, everything ive ever wanted in a man, kind, sensitive, caring and reliable.

  only problem is, he is not a jw and i sort of am, sort of meaning, i was brought up in the truth i have gone through rebelious stages and just passed them off as wanting to experience, i nearly married a jw but the night before the wedding he called it off and said he wasnt ready (we had sleot with each other beforehand, so he prob didnt see the point in going ahead anymore!

  got what he had wanted!

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  Dear BigBloomerz:

  Welcome! I was raised as a JW. My first husband was worldly and so is my second. I was DF's when I married my first, but was quickly reinstated. After my first marriage ended I tried for 10 years to find a JW to marry. Never happened. So when I met my future second husband I was ready. You need to do what your heart tells you to do. If you are only going through the motions as a JW and not going after what you want, then you are only hurting yourself.

  On another note, my best friend lost her mother 6 years ago as well. She thought that she would get back on board as an active JW and she just can't do it. Or doesn't want to do it. If she honestly believed it was the truth, then I think she would go. But deep down inside, she KNOWS it is not the truth and therefore everything she was taught is a moot point now. Why give up happiness right now, when the future really is not assured. Or well, it is as assured as what THEY tell you. Again, if you are just going through the motions. . .

  JMHO

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  What do you miss from yesteryear?

  by greendawn in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i met a childhood friend recently and he told me with nostalgia that he recalled the childhood days as being very pleasant.

  i told him they would be since we were living under the protection of our parents who took care of all our needs and we had no worries about anything.

  it would be like paradise.

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  Being able to play out late with the neighborhood kids in the summer.

  My parents and extended family (who are all dubs).

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  Someone died tonight...

  by zeroday in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i sit here in my lonely condo playing xbox live, surfing the net and thinking how much my life sucks... i also have a police scanner on my desk that is tuned into the local fire dept... there was an accident on the local bypass with one confirmed death... suddenly my life doesn't suck so much...were only a hairs breath away from death...

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  That is very sad. I know what you mean though about a "hairs breath away from death". I was standing by the ocean today on a very high cliff looking down in to a sea cave (or one in the making) and I thought that one false step and that could be it. Best to live life to the fullest every damn day.

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  Online Dating

  by FreeGirl2006 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  *sigh* i was seeing someone for several months, but it is not working out.

  so i went back to my only way of meeting men thus far--online dating sites.

  i have had some really cool experiences, but i think i am getting burnt out....if i read one more email from a guy that reads "u r booteful and i wud luv to chat with u and then maybe we go out and eat" (or my personal favorite today--"you are eye-popping"--i am busty and the current picture reveals that little fact) i think i will puke!

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  Purza--The majority of my dates from online have been very nice. Keep encouraging your friend. I just go into each date with the attitude that I am there to have fun & meet people. I never expect Mr. Gorgeous Sweep Me Off My Feet (although, I am perfectly willing to meet him).

  Thanks FreeGirl. I will let her know. However, I think she may get spooked if she gets some weirdo sending her messages.

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  What Do You Do for Work / Career?

  by BlackPearl in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i've been on the board for quite a while now and was wondering, what do my fellow jwdr's do for work, employment or career?

  me, i'm in probably one of the most hated careers in america right now.

  (not gonna tell you what it is either) but how about you, what do you do to earn a little coin?.

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  I work for the government and we're here to help you!

  I have a mid-management job and it is a very good job for someone without a college degree (although I am working on that).

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  How many elders did this?

  by Bumble Bee in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  5go had a thread here - the service overseer nearly cried from the podium that mentioned something i never realized, elders having to chip in from their own pockets to cover expenses.. how many elders here had to do that, and what was the average amount and frequency that you had to make up the shortfalls?.

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  My dad always gave something (I never knew the amount). Even when it was a lean month. My mother was (and probably still is) resentful of that. He would also help any "brothers" in need and on more than one occassion got burned.

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  Online Dating

  by FreeGirl2006 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  *sigh* i was seeing someone for several months, but it is not working out.

  so i went back to my only way of meeting men thus far--online dating sites.

  i have had some really cool experiences, but i think i am getting burnt out....if i read one more email from a guy that reads "u r booteful and i wud luv to chat with u and then maybe we go out and eat" (or my personal favorite today--"you are eye-popping"--i am busty and the current picture reveals that little fact) i think i will puke!

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  Oh dear lord -- I cannot believe some of these stories. And here i have been pushing my friend to join an online dating service as she is constantly complaining she can't meet anyone. I think I'd better change my tune.

  Are there any good dating stories out there?

  Purza