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  "Giving Your Wifely Due"

  by love2Bworldly in

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  did anyone hate that expression as much as i did?

  my husband and i are separated right now, and my jw sister reminded me on the phone the other day to make sure i gave him 'his wifely due'.

  that expression makes me want to barf.

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  Fleur

  
  LadyLee said:

  I know exactly what they were talking about - just one dirty job to do.

  Sure am glad I learned different later on

  Amen to that girl! Ain't it the truth?

  to paraphrase my favorite pirate: "The only rules that really matter are these: what a (wo)man can due, and what a (wo)man can't due." ;)

  I couldn't stand to due anything for the creep anymore, so I divorced him!!! I wanted to take a shower every time he looked at me before the end of the road. I can't believe I stood it all that long.

  Now I never even think about who is supposed to be getting what from whom just how much fun it is to try to figure it out! lol

  ~essie p.s. welcome enlightenedcynic, LOVE the avatar!
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  Song your listening to at the moment

  by KW13 in

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  do you have a favourite song your listening to right now?.

  usually, i admit i am a rap/hip hop fan but the song reflecting my mood today is 'the sound of silence - simon and garfunkel'.

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  Fleur

  The Frog Prince by Keane

  "You've wandered so far from the person you are,

  let go, brother, let go, cause now we all know."
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  Came out to my parents

  by jstalin in

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  just wanted to write about my experience in coming out to my parents in the last two weeks.

  it's a long story, but my sister and i are both gay, but we haven't come out to our parents until now.

  my sister and i have been debating with each other the best way to come out to them because we've known that it would be a serious blow to them.

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  Fleur

  Wow, glad it went so well with the priest..I hope that you are able to continue having a relationship with your parents and am glad that you and your sister are both free of secrets now. I say life is just too short to pretend to be someone you're not, or to pretend you're not who you are.

  Gay or straight, live life and be happy!

  hugs

  essie
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  Local JW elder can't be bothered to fill in the blanks

  by Jankyn in

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  i go through the press releases for a local media outlet.

  in this morning's batch was a "post-convention release" from a local jw re the "deliverance at hand" convention at the cow palace in sf last weekend.. .

  it's a template from the wts, but this bozo didn't fill in the right blanks!

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  Fleur

  Local Contact: [John A. Elder, telephone: (000) 000-0000]

  (Portions in brackets and underlined are to be adjusted for each district convention.)

  ROFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  Hey, I think that guy was the PO of one of my congregations. when I tried to call the elders for help at that number, no one ever picked up. They sure knew how to find ME though when the PO I was related to wagged his pinkie finger LOL.

  Unfreakinbeli....no wait. Totally, completely believable LOL.

  Thanks for the laugh Jankyn!!!

  essie
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  What Did You LOVE About Being a Jehovah's Witness?

  by Seeker4 in

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  ok. minimus had his 'what did you hate about being a jw' thread, so i want to take a different tack on this.

  i'll even start it.

  i loved some of the get-togethers we had.

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  My family recognizing that I was alive.

  essie
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  What outward signs of apostacy are evident in your house?

  by AK - Jeff in

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  if the elders came and inspected your home - what would they find?.

  a casual look around reveals a box of "narnia" tissues on my desk, 12 or 14 non-witness translations of bibles on my shelves, many non approved novels [wifey's] on the reading table, plenty of 'apostate literature', a book or two on meditation, a hypnosis cd for weight loss, prob many toys that are not witness approved in the g-kids room, a half eaten birthday cake, a birthday balloon, xmas wrapping paper in the closet , a couple of r rated movies, music that is not acceptable.. that is just at first blush.

  how is your house?

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  Standards have slipped....crumpet mentioned cock rings and vibrators as well as lesbian and gay porn....and all you are shocked about it some lousy uneaten old christmas pud!

  ROFLMAO!!!! Gawd is that the truth. Absolutely hilarious...actually I think it means that our standards have gone up! LOL

  My house looks very 'normal'. They'd probably notice a little angel sculpture I was given by a friend, other than that at this time of year not much worth mentioning.

  Of course, the agnostic hottie who likes to hang out on my couch is the biggest giveaway but I did marry him LOL. Years ago!

  boring, boring me...

  essie
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  Suggest Year Texts that you'd like to see

  by Scully in

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  i can think of a couple off the top of my head:"make it your aim to live quietly and to mind your own business.

  this is what jehovah of armies ... has said: "drink and get drunk and puke and fall so that you cannot get up.

  " ~ jeremiah 25:27. anyone else?

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  Fleur

  Ah, Scully. that scripture in 1Thes. was always my absolute favorite lol

  hugs

  essie
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  Patiently waiting for so long

  by KW13 in

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  mum and stepdad were watching the news, as i walked in mum cut short what she was saying.. "this could be the shout of peace and secur...".

  it frustrates me, whenever there is a conflict or war the witnesses are on the edge of their seat, hoping to see some huge disaster so they can rub their hands in glee and then all be saved and get to live in a paradise as god's chosen ones while everyone else dies a horrible death.. i asked her if she realised that "peace and security" had already been said several times in the past and still no end!!

  she said to me that the society teach, that this could either be a long-term shout of peace of security or a statement said and then the end.. so i suppose this gives them an excuse should it fail to happen after a huge announcement of peace of security or a lot of events happen.

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  omg KW13, I totally feel your frustration.

  Every single time I talk to my mother she's like "they're telling us to be ready at any moment!" literally, she says the same exact sentence. It's absolutely maddening. I have to hold the phone away from my ear to prevent myself screaming at her that they have been saying that for almost a hundred years!!!

  hang in there kiddo!

  hugs

  essie
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  Disposable People

  by MerryMagdalene in

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  since my mom decided she needed to put full shunning back into effect again (an unconscious new year's resolution to be a better jw?

  ), i've been ransacked by a whole bunch of emotions which have been gradually resolving into thoughts.

  the sense of being completely disposable, expendable, replaceable.

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  Fleur

  Merry, I'm so sorry for the way that the relative/PO acted. It's not a shock to me because it happened to me too over my grandmother's memorial service...which I ended up not going to (she was the mother of my heart). I am glad that you found your own place and way to finish the day...and that you have held on to the love in your heart.

  They try so hard to take it from us, we can't let them, can we?

  hugs

  essie
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  My dad died....

  by crazyblondeb in

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  since i consider most of you family, i guess i need to unload.

  my dad died.

  i found out by looking under the obituaries online.

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  Fleur

  I'm so sorry about your loss.

  This part really worries me:

  I'd rather slit my wrists than carry this guilt.

  You don't have to do either, dear heart. Guilt is, in my opinion, only useful if it stops you from doing something that you shouldn't in the moment. Or, if it helps to make amends with someone you have mistreated in some way. You tried to do that and your dad was not receptive, for whatever reason which I would bet had more to do with him than you...you should not carry guilt over what can not be altered.

  One of my all time favorite sayings is something that Maya Angelou said. It is this: "You did what you knew how to do. When you knew better, you did better."

  You did better, and you did the best that you could.

  I like to think that whatever happens to us when we die, if we're concious of anything or become part of anything larger than our mere corporeal existence, that we know, and understand, all the things we could not during our lifetime in this confined space. I hope that my grandmother understands now things she could not while she was alive (funny, I just typed "when I was alive," and had to go back and correct... wonder what that means?) and perhaps your father does too.

  As for interfering, manipulative sisters...you have also my complete understanding on that one. I have a set myself, and they make everything in life harder to deal with.

  hugs...

  essie