If the elders in this situation did not follow procedure then you have grounds to appeal the disfellowshipping. Write a letter to that body of elders saying just that, you want to appeal the disfellowshipping on the grounds that procedure was not followed in your case. Don't say anything else! Don't give them ANY explanations about your thoughts or your life. This is the time to keep silent!!!
No doubt they will be in contact with you. Keep EVERYTHING to yourself. Watch how you answer whatever they ask. Basically all you have to do now is speak enough answer them if they offer you a hearing. If they do there will be TWO sets of elders there. The first set will be the ones who DF'd you. The second set will be there NOT FOR YOU...remember that....they are there to see if the first set followed procedure or not.
Remember to keep silent. You don't need to defend yourself at all! The appeal has nothing to do with you, it's about the elders who DF'd you and whether they did it according to the book. Since you weren't there when they did it you have absolutely no need to talk. Don't tell them ANYTHING.
Be really careful. The call you made to Brooklyn is on record. The guy either recorded it or took notes. THAT MAKES HIM WITNESS NUMBER ONE. Dont' speak. Don't make anyone Witness Number Two....to anything!
Don't call Brooklyn again. Don't complain to your friends. Don't even say too much on this board. Keep all the words to yourself. We are all here and a lot of us know what kind of pain you are in, so we don't need to hear the all the personal details to help you through.
Tough it out, it looks from your post like you are in a good position to WIN.
I hope!!!
Nina
P.S. A lawsuit against the Society might be pointless....but a civil suit against the individual elders for slandering your name might work.