Posts by Lynnie

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Continuing story of relative's funeral

by Lynnie in

a couple of weeks ago i posted about how my uber witness cousin told me i wouldn't be welcome at my aunt's family gathering after the memorial service at the kingdom hall.

(i've been df'd for 35 year now).

he did invite me to the kingdom hall for the service but it was clear i wasn't welcome at the family gathering afterwards since i asked him flat out.

Lynnie

A couple of weeks ago I posted about how my uber witness cousin told me I wouldn't be welcome at my aunt's family gathering after the memorial service at the Kingdom Hall. (I've been DF'd for 35 year now). He did invite me to the Kingdom Hall for the service but it was clear I wasn't welcome at the family gathering afterwards since I asked him flat out. And half of my family are not witnesses, his sister was a JW but married a nonbeliever and was allowed to leave the JWs without any consequences. In fact at the time (36 years ago) she told be that you could leave the JW's anytime you like. Of course that didn't happen to me, I had elders stalking me 2 years after I left and then they finally had enough evidence to DF me. Anyway, I decided to write a letter to my uber witness cousin telling him how hurtful and cruel his treatment of me was on this sad occasion and why couldn't he find it in his heart to invite me to the family gathering when half the people there weren't even witnesses. His oldest daugther is married and working at Bethel and his youngest is a pioneer and the middle daughter won't have anything to do with the JW's. funny!

Well he actually replied to my letter but somehow turned the whole situation around on me saying "just for the record, I'm not the one that brought up the issue of you coming and it wasn't my judgement call since the gathering was at my dad's house (my uncle who is not a witness)" He also said "I recall you saying that it probably wouldn't be a good idea if I showed up to the gathering and I agreed with you." Well of course people hear what they want to hear and that's not what I said at all!! I asked a direct question to him after he so graciously invited me to the KH where no one would speak to me; " I would be much more interested in coming to the family gathering, would I be invited to that?" That's when he shrugged and held his hands up and said NOTHING, meaning NO you would not be welcome. then he went on to say in the letter that "I drew my own conclusion that I shoudn't come to the family gathering" and "we would love to have you come to a meeting anytime and we would welcome you with open arms and it would be a very happy occasion for us" WTF? Really? What a bunch of political double speak from my uber elder witness. Very frustrating for sure but in his mind he didn't tell me not to come and he can justify it anyway he wants to let himself off the hook! Next time there is a family gathering with my cousin's sister and her family around and his family too I'm not asking permission anymore I'm going to show up and see how that flies! HA HA! Wonder what he'll do then?

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Women and Pants

by Lynnie in

i'm still amazed that the wtbts still don't allow women to wear pants to meetings etc.

is this a disfellowshipping offense?.

Lynnie

Yes I remember when we couldn't wear them in Junior high but by the time I got to high school they had given up on that rule. I couldn't even wear jean to the movies according to my mother.

It's just such an annoying rule, especially when you are out in service in 20 degrees freezing your butt off! It boils down to what I hate the most about the JWs, that men have all the control and make sure the women know it. I've always had a problem with men in religious power since they tend to use it for their own agendas. I've always thought women were much more spiritual then men at any given time.

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Women and Pants

by Lynnie in

i'm still amazed that the wtbts still don't allow women to wear pants to meetings etc.

is this a disfellowshipping offense?.

Lynnie

Yes I am serious about it possibly being a DF offense, a new rule could have been put into place for all I know!

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Women and Pants

by Lynnie in

i'm still amazed that the wtbts still don't allow women to wear pants to meetings etc.

is this a disfellowshipping offense?.

Lynnie

I'm still amazed that the WTBTS still don't allow women to wear pants to meetings etc. Is this a disfellowshipping offense?

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Check this website out! Pretty pricey stuff for the JW

by Lynnie in

http://chbook.stores.yahoo.net/2006items.html.

Lynnie

This stuff they are selling is really expensive I think! So much for passing the savings on to your fellow witness. I've been out for 35 years and when I was in my family went for the embossed leather binding bibles big time but they were at least affordable! This stuff is outrageous if you ask me!! And yes how nice for the owners of the company to be raking in the $$ just in time for Armageddon!! HA!

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Check this website out! Pretty pricey stuff for the JW

by Lynnie in

http://chbook.stores.yahoo.net/2006items.html.

Lynnie

http://chbook.stores.yahoo.net/2006items.html

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This may sound kinda stupid to some...

by babygirl30 in

jw
friends

...but i miss my kitties and i miss my lil niece!

once i decided not to 'return' to the org, and let my parents know - they began to shun me.

broke my heart at first, but it is what it is.

Lynnie

No it doesn't sound stupid at all! I have been DF'd for 35 years and still feel the pain of being denied a normal family life. Especially when my cousin who was also a witness and decided to marry an unbeliever with absolutely no consequences whatsoever. She was baptized as well and was able to leave without being DF'd and of course I thought if she could do it (just leave the JW's) I could do it. WRONG! I've been treated as harshly as they possibly could and here my cousin is able to associate with all the witness family members just like a normal person. I've always thought the reason she didn't get DF'd is because her father was a rich non-witness but her mother was and I think the elders didn't want to loose out on any donations from the family.

I definitely feel your pain!

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WOW!!! Just found out from someone who went to the one day assembly....

by Lady Liberty in

hello friends... just found out that at the recent one day assembly they are now really discouraging people from getting married!!!!!

they will lose young ones like crazy if they start telling them that they cannot get married...what are these sexually frusterated young people to do??

you cannot masterbate, you cannot have sex outside of marriage (not that i would encourage it either, but...), now you cannot even get married?????

Lynnie

Interesting about who they want at Bethel these days! My second cousin married a Bethelite who has a higher up position in the society with purchasing or something and she had to go through this "approval" process in order to get to live there with her husband. Interesting enough, she was allowed to bring her car and the WTBTS actually pays for the monthly parking for it! she does have to work in the kitchen but they have their own apartment etc. Oh let's not forget with her background check I'm sure it was revealed that she has a rich non-witness grandfather and a somewhat rich father so I'm sure they found her acceptable enough to be allowed into the inner circle! Brother! He seems to have lots of privileges and they go on vacation often (I assume her daddy pays). Very interesting since the people I knew a million years ago that went to Bethel couldn't have hardly any time off and certainly weren't allowed to bring a car to Bethel. They even paid to have it shipped from the west coast! Amazing! I guess they won't be having children anytime soon either!

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WT printing

by startingover in

i was just visited with a memorial invite, and the inviter was accompanied by a bethelite.

i told her that i heard the printing was no longer done there, all moved to walkill.

she said the reason they did that was because the new presses would not fit in the building in brooklyn.

Lynnie

I was talking with my mother the other day (I'm disfellowshipped for 30 years now) and she's planning on giving the proceeds of her house to the WTBS when she dies instead of leaving it to me. I told the WTBS didn't need any money and of course she thinks they do! She used to full time pioneer for many years until her husband got sick and she had to take care of him (he recently passed away). She has never received any money from the Society for all her hard work throughout the years but that doesn't seem to matter. And the fact that she doesn't seem to care if I'm destitute in my old age is truly amazing! (I'm 50 now) I told her she could leave the house to me and she reacted like she never even thought about it!!!!! Of course she's always mentioned that she would be knocking on my door when SHE was destitute but I guess it doesn't work the other way around as usual with the fantastic JWs.

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New Member today

by Lynnie in

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friends

i was contacted earlier today by an old friend from my congregation in lynnwood, wa.

i was just thrilled that she contacted me.

i posted my name on an ex jw website about 2 years ago and kinda of forgot about it until today.

Lynnie

Hello there all. I was contacted earlier today by an old friend from my congregation in Lynnwood, WA. i was just thrilled that she contacted me. I posted my name on an ex JW website about 2 years ago and kinda of forgot about it until today. I was df'd about 25 years ago and it was really a big deal in my family. So I have endured the emotional blackmail that the witnesses do for this whole entire time. You don't know how good it was to hear from someone that I knew so long ago and actually wants to talk and see me! She said there are many of us now and I am so looking forward to getting reaquainted with old friends. Thanks so much for this website. I live in Seattle now and welcome any emails from anyone in that area.