Well the way I see it if I took my soon to be wife to MY bed in MY house then according to the biblical tradition we were already married right? Take the girl to your house and then your married? Everything after that is just the formality?
Of course I figure that if you have to MARRY her afterwards then you've been punished enough!
My wife and I fooled around but never had sex... I don't remember this question but I would have said yes or no depending on what I thought was the funniest at the time... I think they asked my wife when I wasnt' there... Some of the elders really tried to talk her out of marrying me... Can't think why!