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advice please!

by blondy in

i could really use some advice.

i have never been a witness, but my boyfriend is(3rd generation).

his father is an elder, and his whole family is really into it.

thank you all for sharing your thoughts on my situation. It is good to know that im not alone. I still don't know what is going to happen. I go back and forth in what I want to do. His parents are making this even harder. They took his cell phone cuz it was in his dads name so he can't call me (even tho he went to get another one to talk to me), and they don't let him drive anywhere...they even drive him to work!!! cuz they found out we were talking after work on a regular basis. I just wish he had enough money to move out like he wants so he can make his own decisions. I realize this is crazy . . nd people are prolly thinkin..omg! why wont she just let him go...i realize that it might come to that...but im not there yet....once again..thank you all!! ~blondy~

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advice please!

by blondy in

i could really use some advice.

i have never been a witness, but my boyfriend is(3rd generation).

his father is an elder, and his whole family is really into it.

blondy

Hello everyone! I could really use some advice. I have never been a witness, but my boyfriend is(3rd generation). His father is an elder, and his whole family is really into it. I attended a few meetings to try it out...but luckily it was NOT for me. However, this put a strain on the relationship as to where it was going. We have tried breaking up so many times, but always coming back to each other like an hour later. Its really hard to have all of these feelings and to have this religion come between us. He is so torn...he was questioning things and so close to leaving the org. so we could be together until the elders called a meeting with him. He came back with a completly new mindset! I just could NOT believe it. I was just like hmmmmm...its funny how much you change your mind about things after you talk to these people. he replied.."they just made me realize..." i cut him off by saying I bet they did!! It made me want to find answers. I started doing a lot of research and I have found out so much. Especially after reading Diane Wilson's book "Awakening of a Jehovahs Witness." It really helped me to see the mind games they play, and how they can control and minipulate these people from a first hand experience. They seem to be completely controlled by fear! My heart really goes out to them, especially my boyfriend. He is my best friend and means the world to me and I want to help him. Despite my heart being broken by him because of this religion..i continue to stick by his side. I will not turn my back on him or stop talking to him like the witnesses would do. I want to show him how much i really do love and care about him. It breaks my heart to see him so torn between being with me, and serving jehovah. He gets so upset when we talk about not being together in the future...seriously crying...throwing up...lying there not knowing what to do..what to think...fearing losing his life to be happy with me. It tears me to pieces because I know what HE WANTS. and I know what he is willing to do until the elders scare him out of it...has anyone had a similar experience or any good advice besides letting him go? I want to save his life...if we are together or not...