Im still so thick in the "muck" and "mire" that I am hoping to someday be able to rid myself of this "baggage." It is so incredible difficult when all I have ever know my entire life is this twisted life of hipocrosy. What is truth, I ask?
Posts by Eddie
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30Does Our Being A JW At One Time Mean That We Now Have "Baggage"?
by minimus indo you think we're "damaged goods" now?
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Is There ANYTHING That You Still Believe In From The JWs?
by minimus indo you believe in hell again?
the trinity?
the "slave"?
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Eddie
I didn't think that I was so brainwashed, but I still find myself watching the Discovery Channel and saying "Nuh-uh, that's not what the Bible says!"
It's hard to break free from all of it, because much of it is basic Christianity..... or maybe that is just what I think from trying to "find a common ground" with people at the door...
Eddie
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lonliness after leaving
by orbison11 injust wondering, did any of you become hermit like after leaving.
i see many of you are able to carry on.
maybe with the help of non-jw family, etc.. but for me, i lost all family and i am having a hard time with acquiring friends, although i have many many aquaintances.
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Eddie
I have been DF'd for a little over a year now, and I feel exactly the same way......I have completely isolated myself. I don't have any one who I could just call up and chat with without feeling like I was imposing. Its almosts like I don't want to make any "wordly" friends because I haven't yet completely broke free from the JW principles, although I am trying. I haven't disclosed any of my "past" to people I work with for fear of being misunderstood or weird. I guess that I've just wanted to fit in for so long (my entire life) with normal people that I am "pretending" to be just like them. I have found that it is hard to make intimate friendships with people when you are afraid of talking about yourself. Usually, I just listen to everyone else's life stories and be glad that they are not asking me about mine. It is not very healthy because I haven't really given anyone a chance to be a friend back to me. I just get this overwhelming feeling that NO ONE would understand anyway. I am seeing a therapist and he trying to help me work through it and let go, but it is very difficult. I miss my sister and my old friends and Ithere is definitely a part of me that does not want to replace them. I just found out that I am 7 weeks pregnant, first time, and I am so sad because I have no one to share my joy, except my husband of course. My family would just tell me that I need to hurry up and get reinstated because they want to see my baby. I guess my advice would be to get out there and let it all out (your feelings, that is) and just see how people respond. I need to follow my own advice.......
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A Million Questions
by ConcernedMom inhi, i have been lurking at this site and a few other jw or xjw sites in search of some clarity but i am just getting more confused...
my 15 year old daughter has been dating a 17 year old jw for about 2 1/2 months.
he seems like a very nice kid--very shy (he is just starting to talk around me now...still not too much to my husband).
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Eddie
The answer to this puzzling question is simple. As a teenage JW, I knew of or had several friends who were not baptized and they had boyfriend or girlfriends outside of "the truth." Your daughters boyfriend is not really considered a "true witness" and therefore he cannot get into trouble or be formally counseled by the elders of the congregation for dating outside of the truth. His family is being kind and accepting because they know that he is not going to find a "good little witness girl" anyway, since he is not baptized. I'm also sure that they are hoping that, eventually, their son and his new love (your daughter) are going to see how wonderful they are as a family and an organization and they will both come to the realization that they want to be happy, baptized JW's and make happy little baby JW's and everything will be perfect in the end. Trust me, they will not give up on this hope! They will constanly pressure her, however subtly that may be, to see how right that they are. It really depends on him because if he is torn at all on his beliefs or pleasing his family, then it will be difficult for your daughter to understand why he won't do certain things. The psychological effects that being raised in the JW org carry are not easily broken. It carries a lot of guilt with it. He is lucky that he was never baptized, so that they cannot disfellowship him someday. I was baptized when I was 12 years old and had no clue whatsoever what I was doing. My father was an elder and my mother was a pioneer. I lived for years under this rule until I finally married "outside of the truth" and was made to feel rebelious and ashamed of my choice. I did not stop attending the meetings until 8 years later when I was disfellowshiped. Now, for some reason, it all seems so clear!