- thanks for sharing your heartrending story
nic the emotional through line right down to this point in the thread has been eloquently & passionately played out by all prior posters
lets cut to a different scene now
the score so far here seems to be
WTBTS - 4 (u + wife + 2 kids) if i read right
Nic - 0
they say that perception is reality
what do you think happens in the mind of an outsider when you declare to them that you are a jw and remain a member of that organisation
do you think they are splitting hairs discriminating which of the jw policies you do and dont believe?
i think it would be fair to say that by declaring to an outsider that you are a jw - and by remaining as a member of the jw's - in their mind you are an adherent to the full gamut of jw policies
however limited that outsiders awareness of jw policy may be
in the minds of the masses declaring you are a jw
and remaining a member of the jw organisation
is tantamount to tacit agreement to all jw policies
i'll take this one step further and venture to say
remaining within the wtbts ranks is tantamount to tacit agreement to their policies
it also substantiates the effectivness of their policies
which as we all know amount to nothing more than cowardly fear tactics
right now, if you dont mind me being so frank, you are right where they want you
and what for?
contrary to popular wtbts opinion this is not about religion or god or jesus or the bible
when scrutinised all those sources serve to do is underscore the inconsequential irrelevancy of the wtbts in the light of what they claim to represent
the reality of the wtbtsocieties prime concern is the perpetuation/ maintainance of a very small group of mens power base and commercial enterprises
the secret to their success is simple
isolation and repitition
at the core of every one of their mentally/spiritually deadening sterile policies you will find one or the other or both of these forces at play
why are you desperate?
because you are in conflict
the longer you remain with the wtbts the worse this conflict within yourself will become
you can carry on rationalising this reality away -
but why do people have breakdowns?
i'll leave that one with you
(the thumbnail you've chosen is an alarm bell to me)
you are possibly living in more and more misery every day you remain a JW -
you may feel you care passionately for their cause
rallying to their defence when called upon
but reverse the situation for a moment
how much of your life have you devoted to them?
and now in your time of need how concerned are they with you?
lets face it - if i interpret what you've written correctly
in repayment for your devotion -
the boys are in the back room sharpening their knives
right now
to facilitate the most expedient insertion possible into your back
thats the kind of thanks they have in store for you and all the faithful
(i found the witchunt mentality - the natural by product of legalisms/policies - within the wtbts totally discouraging
nic the way i see it either
you win or they do
it's obvious to me whats at stake here and who has the most to lose
and right now it aint looking like the wtbts
you wont be over this today
you wont be over it tomorrow
you wont be over it in a year
you may not be over it in five ten fifteen twenty years
but whats the alternative option?
you can rationalise away the voice of your misery and desperation as being of no import
the cry for help we hear screaming for attention loud and clear between the lines of your post
but sooner or later your misery and desperation will let your rationalisations know who is the stronger
do you think the bro's will really care -
if your depression leads to a breakdown
bit hard to go selling watchtowers in that condition
and bro's who dont sell watchtowers - lets face it - deep down they're just spiritually weak
i had friends in a similar situation committ suicide
in consolation for all their years of devoted service to the wtbts all they got was their bro's and sisters coming out with stupidities like quotes from proverbs about how the deceased shouldn't have isolated themselves from "gods organization" and so forth
it's get even time for you now nic
but as all here agree you are not alone
practically every post on this site is confirmation of
all those secret doubts and fears you've been forced to keep isolated within for so long
imho it's time to let yourself feel
as angry as you are
it's time to let yourself feel as hurt as you are
it's time to let yourself feel all the grief stricken upset you can muster
it's time to let yourself feel the entire width length and breadth of the deception you've been dealt for so long
it's time to fight fire with fire
BADASSOCIATE