But...once you drop the filter of xianity, why is this even an issue?
There are lots of ceremonies you go to just observe but not participate in.
Inaugurations, weddings, baptisms, graduations, etc.
If you observe these events you actually see and observe something.
Weddings; vows made, rings exchanged,
baptisms; person gets water on themselves one way or another,
graduations; diplomas are handed out.
What exactly do you see and observe when attending the memorial?
With JW thinking shouldn't it actually be observing and seeing an annointed one drinking or eating the bread?