So far, thank you everyon for your kind words.
Balsam, you mom sounds like she was a hoot! I'm so glad you got the time with her. You're a better person for it.
Ruth, I plan on visiting my parents often just for those reasons. I'm sure you can see from my first post that I value them. And from my visit, I found that they value me, too, as much as they are able.
The biggest thing that pissed me off over the years is that my folks had no idea who I was, or am. They'd talk about how smart Markie is (raised non-jw, went to college) and how he works with computers and travels all over the place, yet I had to tell her that I did the same thing, and taught all over the US and Canada. She was shocked. "How did you do this, did you go to school?" "No, I learned on my own, on the job, from some very intelligent mentors."
We can, and I do, carry these resentments for years. We all know we've enough resentments with the WBTS, JW's and any family that are still there. But sometimes it's necessary in one's life to put these resentments aside and do the right thing. For me, it was time to try again, inspite of them. For me, it worked this time. Time was right.
I'm set that if they bring up why I don't.... that I will tell them "... that is not why I'm here. I'm here to see you and not to discuss the WBTS doctrine." If they continue, I will leave. I found out 15 years ago they have no more power over me. I've even managed to give a couple "right on" answers to see my dad speechless - and my dad is NEVER speechless! (My dad, Saggitarius, as am I, an elder all my life and many times a PO and many years on the JC.)
There will be more to come.
Hugs, and thanx for the love and support
Brenda