((( cordielia )))) I've been in your situation, except w/out children. I chose to live my own life as I saw fit. I was 25 and just out of a violent relationship. But I had also had enought of the Truth(tm) and their wonderful hypocrasy (not necessarily from my parents). I was not df'd but would likely have been had I returned. My parents helped move me into an apartment, then had mostly nothing more to do with me. For 24 years! Yes, it hurt them deeply. But they did what they felt they had to do to be responsible JW's. (Dad was an elder).
My dad is now deep in alzheimers and dying a slow death from kidney failure brought on by 40 years of diabetes. My mom is beside herself because she just can't understand how "this system can last much longer". They are 88 years old, and I feel so deeply for their lost hope. But it has been as much their choice to live their beliefs as it has been my choice to live my life.
I do not regret my life's path one iota. My biggest regrets are that I allowed myself to be pulled outta HS to go into the ministry in 1973 before A came in 1975. And that I married that "good JW man" in 1975, who turned into a violent abusive alcoholic. Both choices because of JWism.
I trust you will do the best thing for you and your daughter.
Hugs and love
Brenda