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  An Unexpected Gratitude.... (kinda long)

  by BrendaCloutier in

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  i got married in june 1975 at 18-1/2 years old.

  this after being pulled out of h.s.

  (3.4gpa) to go into the ministry and regular pioneer, or eventually find a husband.

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  BrendaCloutier

  Thanx - a lot!
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  What EXACTLY Is The Society's View On Sex???????

  by minimus in

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  what would you say??

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  BrendaCloutier

  As a JW woman, sex was merely a responsibility to your husband to be a sperm recepticle to meet HIS needs. I was truly no more than a whore and a housekeeper to him - and I gave up housekeeping in about year 2 (was married 7). Sex for a man, in my opinion then, was a right with one's wife, and a necessary evil to keep the body comfortable. The only time he didn't demand sex at night to go to sleep was when I was menstruating. Thank gawd for that provision!
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  OFFICIAL WORLD CUP THREAD! "here we go, here we go, here we go"!

  by nicolaou in

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  less than 2 hours before it all starts and a quarter of the earth's population will be watching!

  - c'mon you americans, get on board.

  germany kick-off against costa rica at 5pm to be followed by poland v ecuador at 8pm (bst)

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  BrendaCloutier

  C'mon Mexico - pull it out... you can do it!
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  An Unexpected Gratitude.... (kinda long)

  by BrendaCloutier in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i got married in june 1975 at 18-1/2 years old.

  this after being pulled out of h.s.

  (3.4gpa) to go into the ministry and regular pioneer, or eventually find a husband.

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  BrendaCloutier

  I got married in June 1975 at 18-1/2 years old. This after being pulled out of H.S. (3.4gpa) to go into the ministry and regular pioneer, or eventually find a husband. Hated pioneering. Hate sales! But eventually found a husband.

  (dated 2 weeks, hormones flared, engaged 3-1/2 months, was a virgin on wedding night. typical JW process)

  I had doubts about a month or so before the wedding date, and because I knew how much "talk" always went around, and MOSTLY because the invitations were already sent (!), I didn't back out of the marriage. I saw things that weren't "right". Both with him, his family AND the congregation they were in.

  But I went thru with it and steeled myself to my decision.

  Beyond our leaving off going to meetings because of the way we were treated as a couple and as individuals (I had never been shunned! And now I was being shunned for one of the stoopidest reasons - the family I married into wasn't as "good" a JW family it could have been). Don's alcoholism developed, and so did mine. Our relationship became drunken and he became violent. Very violent. I still have a couple scars - gifts from 1) interfereing when he was yelling at a couple of pre-teens who he accused of steeling his beer when we were at the river one summer - he hit me in the face and broke my glasses - on my face. 2) one night when I wouldn't stay up and drink with him because I had work the next morning and it was already 1am - he threw me around, including into a doorknob. I have a fatty tumor on my back from that.

  I finally got sober in 1990 with seriousness. I worked my arse off in their program of recovery, working the steps with a sponsor et.al. ad nauseum. Coming to the 8th step - 'made a list of those we have harmed and make amends except when to do so would harm them or others' and 9th step - make amends where possible -- Don was on my list. Why? I'm not sure but there must be something i have to make amends for since I was involved - inspite of his treatment of me. The only thing I could come up with was going ahead and marrying him when I knew I shouldnt' ... and you don't go and tell someone that!

  I had an insight a couple months ago. If I had NOT married him.. I might well have staying in JWism, becoming an MS and eventually an Elder's wife, eventually having kids. My alcoholism would have been closeted. I may well have ended up dead. I certainly would have ended up dead if I had stayed with him.

  I owe my 1st husband a debt of gratitude; for helping me get out of the dubs early in my life. I was completly out by the time I was 20.

  For me, Armageddon came in 1975. At least for me the Great Tribulation began. The next few years were hell, and include suicide attempts by us both.

  Today I'm free. And at 49 yo, I'm gratefull that almost all of my adult life has been OUT of the bOrg.
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  Picture of Mouthy Granny Grace

  by mouthys_gdaughter in

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  i'm mouthy's grand daughter... she emailed me and said y'all wanna see a picture of what she looks like.

  in order to do that i had to sign up.

  i hope she doesn't mind ;)

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  BrendaCloutier

  I gotta chime in on this "Love Mouthy" fest! Mouthy - you are a beautiful woman. And i can certainly how/why you may have chosen the handle "Mouthy"... it's the glint in the eyes!!! And what a beautiful gr.grandaughter. She's a cutie.

  Welcome Mouthy's Granddaughter! So glad you're here. Thank you for the picture posting!

  Hugs (((( GrannyGrace )))

  Bren
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  Iron Maiden rumour

  by stapler99 in

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  i wonder if anyone has heard of this, or whether it is completely made up... the story is that iron maiden (the rock band) took pictures from the revelation book and put them on their album covers, and were therefore threatened by the wts lawyer dept., demanding that they sent them the covers to be destroyed.

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  i don't know why im would want to plagarize the smelly revelation book anyway ;-)

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  BrendaCloutier

  I heard that none of the members would get baptized unless the baptismal pool water was dyed blood red.
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  Hello!

  by Legolas in

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  first i have to say.... omg dial up sucks!

  well we are moved...thank god!..lol

  our house at the moment looks like a tornado hit it though

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  BrendaCloutier

  Leggy - nice to see you! Dialup sux. I had to use it for years until I was finally sick enough to price out DSL... We're paying 15 a month on Qwest (phone service) and $13 month for ISP service (paid annually) for 256k. Difficult to touch the price with 5x speed of 56k dialup. Hopefully you won't have to "dialup" much longer.

  Love ya

  Bren
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  UPDATE: Alive and Kicking... ASS

  by RichieRich in

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  i'm joining everyone from the bowels of the sun princess, a ship belonging to the princess cruise lines.

  about an hour and a half ago, we left the port of seattle for alaska.

  my grandmother sent me and my grandfather on this trip for a graduation present.

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  BrendaCloutier

  Richie you have a GREAT TRIP and enjoy the time with your Granddad.

  Hugs and the best to you.
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  Has anybody seen my pants?

  by Bookey in

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  hey folks, .

  i changed this topic and decided to write a more humorous question.

  i wasn't sure how much is allowed on the comical side, but after reading some other posts i see that i am not the only wise ass here.. well, tonight my nba team plays game 5 of catch up and get ahead of the dallas maverages!

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  BrendaCloutier

  No, but I do have public fart-o-phobia - fear of farting in public... so no, I've never wanted to say that. But I've left a few bombs in my time - SBD's in uncomfortable places...
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  Name a rock band that describes the JW's...

  by TresHappy in

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  real or not.... i say "twisted scripture"

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  BrendaCloutier

  Oh, BANDS... sorry, I was going for songs.

  New Light Orchestra