Incidentally, you might like to visit the site 'beyond jehovahs witnesses'. Their list of topics also deals with being inlove with a witness. The link is often at the top of these pages. Hope this can help.
Fifi
Posts by fifi
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45Please help! ( I have a question?)
by bsylva inmy question is this,.
and she loves me as well.
however i was baptised as a catholic as a child.
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Please help! ( I have a question?)
by bsylva inmy question is this,.
and she loves me as well.
however i was baptised as a catholic as a child.
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fifi
I am curious about why she even started to date a 'worldy person' as this is not allowed?? Have you kept this secret from her parents this whole time?? Aren't you afraid that she is so attracted to you in part because you are 'the forbidden fruit'? You fall in love with each other and SHE knows the whole time that she is not suppose to marry an 'unbeliever'?
Hi there,
These are some good points brought out by Jez. In my own case, I had already moved away from home because I had doubts about the teachings of the organisation. I was lucky enough to meet someone (now my husband) who was able to help me through the whole thing with his gentle manner of reasoning/questioning. He really helped me to think for myself for the first time in my life.
If your relationship works out, be prepared ... it WILL be rough. It could be that she (knowing that 'wordly' relationships are foridden) is looking for a way out. If this is the case you should BOTH be aware that if she chooses you over her faith and family, it won't be easy for either of you. She will have a lot of sacrifices to make and you will have to be really understanding and supportive. If she is a baptized witness, things will be hell for her. I know, I've been there. From one day to the next, I was completely cut off from everything/everyone I had ever known (including my own family), no two ways about it. The people I had once called 'brothers' and 'sisters', 'aunties' or 'uncles' since I was a baby, just ignored me. All the people I called friends, weren't there for me and I had to make a new life from scratch.
In my opinion, the one who has to choose is her, not you. Be warned, you have too much to lose and she has everything to gain from freedom, but like I said, if it works out you will have to be strong many times and very often enough for the two of you. I don't know what I would do without my husband being there for me. Even now, 17 years later, it is still hard. I don't regret leaving, but I do miss my family. I can only hope that one day they will be able to see through the hipocrisy and have a change of heart.
Good luck and keep us posted.
Best Wishes,
Fifi
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Help Please!!!!
by sandy inmy niece announced to the entire family she is disfellowshipped and i got t cornered.. i was in the room when she told the family (dumb me being nosey) and my family started asking me questions about going back to the meetings.. i told them i do not believe in organized religion and some days i doubt the biblical existance of god.
i told them about the un scandal and they do not believe it.. they think it is a plot by satan somehow to mislead people away from the organization.
after being cornered by five of them i went into my shell and didn't defend my thoughts very well.
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fifi
Hi Sandy,
I feel so bad for you. I know what you must feel like, and it is true that it would be nice to feel free enough to give your opinions, but I agree with Blues Brother when he says about it 'not being the right time'. These things can be really hard. The emotional ties can be so painful.
I hope everything turns out OK for you (and your niece).
Keep smiling
Fifi
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JWs and materialism
by YellowLab inbeen out of the "truth" for nine years now, with many family members and relatives still in.
while i was in, we were taught to be humble and put jehovah first in your life.
meetings, study and service were the most essential parts of being a jw.
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fifi
As far as I have been able to judge, I must admit that there seems to be an increase of interest for material things amongst JWs, but not all of them. It seems more acceptable for those with positions in the congregation to get themselves "better off". It is also true that they don't seem to get any"grief" about their situation as opposed to "lesser" JWs.
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Another thread on Disfellowshipping
by sandy inmy poor niece may be disfellowshipped soon.
she is worried how the family will treat her if she does get df'd.. i told he not to worry about my hipocritical family.
the will get over it in a few weeks and everything will be back to normal.. she went to the elders on her own, she said she was feeling guilty about all the things she was doing and couldn't take it anymore.
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fifi
if she does indeed get disfellowshipped, and she could let you know ahead of time, maybe you could go to that meeting with her (if she chooses to go) and sit with her for comfort and support. that will stay with her, that you were there for her, when others (maybe even family) were not.
my 2 cents.
I really feel that this is an excellent piece of advice. I also agree with what was said about it maybe being the best thing fo her, although I appreciate that she may not be able to cope with the reality of life outside the org. She can be really thankful to have someone so supportive as yourself. Keep us posted.
Hugs,
Fifi
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MONEY!
by in a new york bethel minute ini dont know if this has been discussed in forum before... but i have heard that in some places, the society still asks for money for their "life-saving products.
" two countries in particular have been pointed as being pay-per-mag operated.
australia and (of all places) africa.
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fifi
What beats me is that people are still willing to pay for that trash!!!
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Bonjour from the South of France
by Ros Boeuf injust a quick hello from a uk expat in sunny france.
i have been watching this board for the past couple of weeks and i have enjoyed what i have seen so far, i will post my story over the next couple of weeks or so.
also i am looking to make some new friends with you all.
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Hi RB,
I'm an ex-pat Brit (exJW) too but living in the East. Welcome to the board! I haven't been on here long, but like you, find it interesting. Looking forward to reading your story.
Fifi
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I Have Finally Sent My DA-Letter
by GermanXJW ini finally did it!
after 3-4 years of being inactive i wrote a da-letter and faxed it to the headquarters of the "christian congregation".
i am planning to be more active in helping ex-jw and i have become a member of the newly founded "netzwerk sektenausstieg" (cult exit network) in germany.
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Congratulations!! German EXJW.
Thanks for your post. Keep us informed on the developments.
Take care,
Fifi
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Thanks for sharing your story (albeit too common amongst former JWs). This "religion" really is responsible for a lot of heartache. Every time I read another experience from former WT members, it makes me stronger and more determined and comforts me to realise that leaving the org was the best decision I ever made. The truth set me free.
Thanks again,
Hugs,
Fifi
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Did You Think That You Would Be In Paradise By 2004?
by minimus ini never did.
i hoped it could be true but i never took any stock in dates....what about you?
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fifi
I was brought up "in the truth" and when I was a kid I can remember hearing my Mum saying that my little brother (born in 1972) would never have to go to school. He's now in his 30s with kids of his own.
I also have the distinct memory of my Dad's foreboding "...Armageddon will be here before this generation comes to pass..." style comments. This made for some pretty amazing nightmares.