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  My 17 year old daughter has so many problems

  by Jez in

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  well, my 17 year old has left home in a horribly negative way.

  she has had many problems for many years.

  she ran away a year ago, we dragged her home, took her to the hospital for bulimia and suicidal tendencies.

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  the one thing you haven't tried, time. You will have to wait until she is low enough to ask for help.

  Jgnat, this is my only option at this point. I have told her in the hospital that all of her family is here for her, waiting, when she is ready. Told her how good it was to see her, even though she was growling at me. Told her how much everyone cares. I did not cry in front of her, just stood strong through her vicious words. I told her I loved her and that yesterday is done, the only thing she has control over is tomorrow. I told her to stop freaking out, that SHE IS in control of her path. Told her that i have faith in her, that she can pull herself out of this and make the life for herself that she has always wanted.

  Now, I wait. and try to not let my mind go to that dark place of 'what could be or could happen'. I raised her strong, I know what is in there and I am just hoping it does not get sooo buried that it is lost forever.

  Jez
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  My 17 year old daughter has so many problems

  by Jez in

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  well, my 17 year old has left home in a horribly negative way.

  she has had many problems for many years.

  she ran away a year ago, we dragged her home, took her to the hospital for bulimia and suicidal tendencies.

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  I am exhausted.

  I have cried and thought of nothing but her, I want to say days, but in reality, it is years.

  I have a very supportive family. All of them say to give her what she has so desperately fought for. Time and 100% independence. Mental health has been involved and they just keep saying that they can't help her if she won't even step forward a bit.

  Everyone I love that loves her, says that this can't all be my battle, that I can't care more than she does. Let her hit whatever place she needs to hit. Then it is her decision, not mom carrying her all the time.

  I appreciate everyone's comments, it is why I posted. I filter through the ones that apply to my daughter as I could not possibly provide all the details. However, she has led a charmed life. We are professionals, she has travelled to many places in the world, she has been pushed to volunteer, part time jobs to try to 'plug' her into the world, counselling since she was 13, staying with family that loves her like grandpa and auntie in the summers, etc etc etc.

  The only thing I feel guilty about is that she left JWs when she was 10 and sometimes I wonder if I ripped her world apart by pulling her out of everything and everyone she knew. It shattered her belief system. Although I have always justified it by stating that MY personal morals and values never changed. I never changed as a mom and a person. Just the religion I belonged to. However, we all know, that it is not a religion. It is a way of life. I cultured shocked her. The younger girl was never as indoctrinated as the older, so got over it almost right away.

  Purps, I will call you. Thank you. Jez
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  My 17 year old daughter has so many problems

  by Jez in

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  well, my 17 year old has left home in a horribly negative way.

  she has had many problems for many years.

  she ran away a year ago, we dragged her home, took her to the hospital for bulimia and suicidal tendencies.

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  I don't know how to 'not give up on her' anymore.

  I feel like I have tried for years to stablize her. She was committed in Oct of 2006, the assessment was borderline personality disorder. They handed her back to me with some pamphlets.

  She WAS committed again just this week, but they released her. Said they can't help someone that won't help themselves. I said, BUT what if she is a danger to herself. The doctor said that they can't lock her up.

  The system has failed me everywhere I turn. The hospital, the cops. She is a minor, but how do I force her to stay at home? The cops even say I can't.

  I feel no joy in my life. I am due with a baby boy in 4 weeks and I am shocked at my stupidity for bringing another child into my life. We were so thrilled about this. Now, I can't feel anything but misery, longing for her, and desperation.

  I sit here bawling at 10am in the morning. I just want to hold her. I miss her so much.

  Last night I left the house at 9 and just drove for 2 hours. I don't care if my husband is mad at me. I don't care about any other relationship right now. Just her. And I don't know what to do anymore.

  She is incredibly ignorant. Tells me to f off all the time at the hospital, to get lost, to NOT find her, to leave her alone, that she hates me. She has been that way for a long time. Her moods are black and white.

  I don't know how to save someone that is so adamantly refuses any help. Where would I take her? If I barge into where she is staying, will that drive her further away? Will she run to a bigger city? She has threatened to do that. Do I let her try to save herself for once and step forward a little? She can't do it for me, she has to do it for herself. I have done all of the above and nothing has worked.

  Jez
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  My 17 year old daughter has so many problems

  by Jez in

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  well, my 17 year old has left home in a horribly negative way.

  she has had many problems for many years.

  she ran away a year ago, we dragged her home, took her to the hospital for bulimia and suicidal tendencies.

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  Well, my 17 year old has left home in a horribly negative way. She has had many problems for many years. She ran away a year ago, we dragged her home, took her to the hospital for bulimia and suicidal tendencies. She was committed and spend a couple of weeks there. She seemed to do better, and then she turned 17,

  "Don't tell me what to do" "I am 17 now" "I don't need to tell you where I am staying"

  She started failing school, eventually quit, but got a job she loved. But started spending more and more time away from home.

  She went missing about a week ago, had not heard from her for 3 days. Finally we heard from her and the place she was staying at, a Youth Home, phoned the police to take her up to the hospital bec they were worried about her. Said she had disclosed paranoia feelings like hearing voices in the alley, wanting the bath water running to drown out the voices, jumping from her room to the bathroom to not activate the voices. Bruises, grab marks on her arms, she could or would not account for where she had been for 3 days. and possible drug use.

  She lied to everyone, as I found out eventually, about being a homeless kid, not able to go home, living on the streets, needing help, etc etc. Spun a huge lie and used a different name even.

  She was taken to the hospital where she was committed, but she escaped. (They let her go unattended to the washroom, f'ing idiots) I found her via her cell phone numbers and a massive investigation on my part. Cops have been crap.

  Back she went, only to be released the next day, because they can't help someone that refuses help. She won't accept anything from anyone.

  She is with someone named Keith, a horrible 40 year old, that she calls a friend. When I talked to her at the hospital, she swears she is not using drugs, that she is fine, etc etc. But even her friends all call her a compulsive liar.

  She is out there, without anything from home, all her stuff is here. She needs help, but refuses. I miss her so much, I heave with pain and crying. I don't believe in God, but I have been talking to her every night and every morning, telling her to save herself, that she is loved, that she has hundreds of supportive family waiting for her, to be strong, to remember everything she was taught and experienced.

  How did this happen?

  Jez
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  Anyone Else from Canada?

  by Miss 8572 in

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  i'm really intrigued by that fact that i may know some of you and yet not know that i know you.

  i just want to know how many people from canada are here.

  if you don't mind and don't care about posting your province (cause i'm too timid to) we could all get an idea of just how many canucks are really out there.

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  (Raises hand) British Columbia
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  Has there been a thread on the District Convention yet?

  by Jez in

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  please direct me to it.

  tired of going through every page looking.. thanks jez.

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  Please direct me to it. Tired of going through every page looking.

  Thanks Jez
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  Has there been a thread on District Convention yet?

  by Jez in

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  1933 Letter from JW's to Hitler and Nazi Party

  by kwr in

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  i was watching one of the extras on the knocking dvd and a woman commentator talked about a scandalous letter from the jw's to hitler and the nazi party in 1933. does anyone know where i can read this letter at?.

  tia.

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  KWR, you are right when you say:While you can find fault with this document none of the governments and churches in that era have unclean hands when it comes to anti-semtism and prejudice.

  However, JWs are taught that their organization is above all others, they make fun of other churches and other insitutions. They allow their members to make unsubstantiated and biased comments during the meetings about "worldly" institutions. When the whole time, they are no different and no better than the ones they scoff at and rub their hands in glee thinking about their coming destruction. They NEVER admit their wrongs. That makes them worse. That makes them standers in a 'place they ought not'. It makes them fullfill their own prophesies.

  I can't believe I once nodded my head, and automatically believed, because surrounding every comment made from the platform or the publications was the all powerful statement, "inspired by God". It blanketed and smothered every doubt I had because "if they say it, it is as if God himself is saying it."

  Jez
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  Need a name for a love bird.

  by purplesofa in

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  i am terrible at names for animals.

  i had a dog once and named him pup.

  our female cats name is kitty.. i had a parrotlet once and never named it.. just said hey bird or birdie!.

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  Flame

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  Your View On BREASTFEEDING In Public

  by minimus in

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  last night on the news a woman was told by a store manager that she could not in public breastfeed her child.

  she and her husband were quite offended and complained to the company's main offices.

  they are now looking into this situation.. what's your opinion?

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  an insulin dependent diabetic (usually) needs to inject themselves by exposing their butt.

  That's stretching it. My diabetic friend just quickly shoves a needle in her stomach after eating and does so quickly, even in a resturant . Butt? Um, get your facts straight.

  Jez