Posts by babygrl4903

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I could REALLY use some help right now....

by babygrl4903 in

hey all,.

ok...i know for a fact that you have all probably heard this before but i am new here so i don't really know all the topics that have been discussed.

so, at the risk of repeating past topics.....here i go.... i am 16 years old and have a boyfriend who is a jw.

babygrl4903

thanks....I don't know if it'd be akward talking to him after so long. I just need someone to talk to on a one on one basis you know?

Ideally though i think what I really need is a middle person to talk to one on one. I usually go to my b/f to help me with everything but I can't this time. I have people who think its in my best intrest to become a JW and then I have others who think its in my best intrest not to. I need someone who is in the middle.....neutral. Someone that is not for either side or against it but that could help me through the pros and cons so I can make my decision. I know i need to make my own decision in the end after gathering all the facts, but to have someone i could talk to helps. You guys are doing a great deal and I appreciate it. I just wish I had someone I actually knew personally that could be with me one on one help comfort me too. Its hard to explain and I am sorry if it is coming off as me not being grateful for your help coz I definatly am. I am really glad I started posting here.

74

I could REALLY use some help right now....

by babygrl4903 in

hey all,.

ok...i know for a fact that you have all probably heard this before but i am new here so i don't really know all the topics that have been discussed.

so, at the risk of repeating past topics.....here i go.... i am 16 years old and have a boyfriend who is a jw.

babygrl4903

I am considering go back to my church and talking to the priest. Its been a long time but maybe it'll help me in my decision. The only thing I am thinking is that of course more than likely the priest is going to want me to stay catholic so of course he is going to be saying things to keep me in my current religion. What do ya'll think? Is it worth it or do you think it wouldn't really help me much? ....

74

I could REALLY use some help right now....

by babygrl4903 in

hey all,.

ok...i know for a fact that you have all probably heard this before but i am new here so i don't really know all the topics that have been discussed.

so, at the risk of repeating past topics.....here i go.... i am 16 years old and have a boyfriend who is a jw.

babygrl4903

oh yeah and kls,

I have already talked to him about that. he said that, no....they are not for blood transfussions but he said thats coz there are other, safer ways of saving someone when it comes down to that. he said they wouldn't let the person die but use the alternate solution thats safer than blood transfussions. i dunno what the alternate is. I want to find out but thats what he said. if anyone else here knows what it could be...please share. thanks

74

I could REALLY use some help right now....

by babygrl4903 in

hey all,.

ok...i know for a fact that you have all probably heard this before but i am new here so i don't really know all the topics that have been discussed.

so, at the risk of repeating past topics.....here i go.... i am 16 years old and have a boyfriend who is a jw.

babygrl4903

and sirona makes a good point too. a happy marriage doesn't mean they have to be the same religion. just in this case.....it would really help.

74

I could REALLY use some help right now....

by babygrl4903 in

hey all,.

ok...i know for a fact that you have all probably heard this before but i am new here so i don't really know all the topics that have been discussed.

so, at the risk of repeating past topics.....here i go.... i am 16 years old and have a boyfriend who is a jw.

babygrl4903

I know, i wish we were both starting out on the same path (religion) too but unfortunatly we are not. And neither of us is too keen on changing religions right now. He would be a huge "disgrace" to family and friends if he did and I would also hurt my family (even though they wouldn't completely disown me) and from the sounds of it, probably wouldn't be happy. I still need to follow the advice many have given me though and try to research all I can.

Thanks everybody for your help. I appreciate it SOOO much. Keep it coming...

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I could REALLY use some help right now....

by babygrl4903 in

hey all,.

ok...i know for a fact that you have all probably heard this before but i am new here so i don't really know all the topics that have been discussed.

so, at the risk of repeating past topics.....here i go.... i am 16 years old and have a boyfriend who is a jw.

babygrl4903

elsewhere,

he hasn't threatened to leave me if I do not change religions....

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I could REALLY use some help right now....

by babygrl4903 in

hey all,.

ok...i know for a fact that you have all probably heard this before but i am new here so i don't really know all the topics that have been discussed.

so, at the risk of repeating past topics.....here i go.... i am 16 years old and have a boyfriend who is a jw.

babygrl4903

Sara Annie,

that I can understand coz I noticed that when I started talking to my b/f about these things that all of a sudden, my view of god was different. like, for once in my life, I didn't view him as someone nice. I am not trying to offend anyone or say god is bad coz thats not at all what I mean. but like you said with your question...loving someone and serving someone who threatens to kill you if you dont....after talking to my boyfriend, at times I felt pressured to convert coz I felt like if I didn't I would be punished and I even developed a sort of fear of god. I haven't told anyone that coz I would never want to say that I sort of fear him. It just doesn't make since though coz supposedly its the same god right? ... Then how come I was rased to think he accepts everyone and my b/f was raised to think something else? its things like this that confuse me coz he makes good points and then other people (all of you included) make good points. its like one minute i think one thing and the next, i think another.

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I could REALLY use some help right now....

by babygrl4903 in

hey all,.

ok...i know for a fact that you have all probably heard this before but i am new here so i don't really know all the topics that have been discussed.

so, at the risk of repeating past topics.....here i go.... i am 16 years old and have a boyfriend who is a jw.

babygrl4903

Celia,

I would love to invite him to a mass at my church but that would never happen. It may not have been a big deal for me to go with him to a meeting of his but if he went to a mass with me....well, that would be a HUGE no-no. Correct me if I am wrong, but I don't see that being as acceptable as me going with him was. Not from what I have heard so far anyways.

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I could REALLY use some help right now....

by babygrl4903 in

hey all,.

ok...i know for a fact that you have all probably heard this before but i am new here so i don't really know all the topics that have been discussed.

so, at the risk of repeating past topics.....here i go.... i am 16 years old and have a boyfriend who is a jw.

babygrl4903

I know Shamus, I agree. It doesn't sound reasonable. The way I see it is that we are all looking up to the same god. Just coz they follow the bible more closely than other religions (in regards to doing everything it says to do) doesn't mean that people of other religions do not have as much faith in him. I don't think that any religon should be considered the "right" religion coz at the end of the day we all believe in the same god. I said that to my b/f. He said that the reason why is coz in the bible it says to do all the things that they do and if you are not doing that then you are not serving god like he wants and thats the least we can do since he gave up his only son for us.

see, this is where it gets tough. two good, logical point!

74

I could REALLY use some help right now....

by babygrl4903 in

hey all,.

ok...i know for a fact that you have all probably heard this before but i am new here so i don't really know all the topics that have been discussed.

so, at the risk of repeating past topics.....here i go.... i am 16 years old and have a boyfriend who is a jw.

babygrl4903

Thanks Melbatoast

I know that him being with me is considered not right. The elders have already confronted him about it when they first found out.

I still don't understand the movie thing. I mean, my boyfriend and his friends go to see R rated movies and stuff. so unless they are lieing about what movies they are seeing, no one seems to care. and his friends don't seem like the type that would go see the movies if they weren't suppose to. I dunno though...you know more than me. I just think its odd that they would if they weren't suppose to.

As for looking down on me, I know they do. I know I am not accepted and I know our relationship is not accepted. Its so hard on us. I also know that they believe that if you are dating you have to be planning for marriage. (His friends used that as one of their back ups as to why he shouldn't be dating me and how it was pointless coz hes too young to think about that) And like I say to everyone else, I know this is going to sounds dumb coz of our age but we really do have the intent to get married out of high school (if we can figure out this mess by then).....