Hello everyone,
Ok, I read the article and though I think that the author IS NOT talking about children being victimized, unfortunately, if the concept ever caught on, I believe that this certainly would give molesters and pedophiles justification for their depraved crimes against children. It seems that imbecile authors that write such rubbish NEVER seem to have any children of their own.
I WAS NOT promiscuous as a teenager and was a legal adult when I had my first sexual encounter, and have absolutely NO regrets about it whatsoever. I was the last of all my friends. Interestingly enough, NOW as adults, they wish they had waited. And I can assure you that I am probably one of the most open- minded individuals when it comes to human sexuality. One of the biggest motivators that kept me “celibate” was there was NO WAY I wanted to be pushing a babystoller, living on welfare, sorry friends I can’t go out cause I can’t find a babysitter, I have to run to the store to get diapers, while I was still in high school teenager.
I think that the parental attitude regarding sex and sexuality can make a difference. Talking openly and honestly about it. However, not going overboard, giving them more information than what they can emotionally digest, and put into perspective. Acknowledging the powerful emotions and feelings that can blindside teenagers. Also, being that teenagers tend to live for “right now”, helping them to look down the road a bit and pointing out how experimenting with sex could possibly hinder their plans in the future. If I had a dollar for every teenager I have seen on TV who had to give up their dreams because there’s a baby coming. Not to mention the very real and serious health risks involved with having sex.
I will give my parents credit for their attitude in this department. They always made it clear that if I ever wanted to talk to them about sex and sexuality that they were available. The subject was NOT taboo. However, even in that environment, teenagers are extremely reluctant to discuss the matter of sex with their parents. Starting to have open conversations early, but not too early (like explicit conversations with 6 year olds), can help keep the lines of communication open
Then there are all those advocates of the high schools passing out condoms. What a waste. Teenagers almost NEVER use condoms, even when easy access to them is provided. I know that most adults HATE them, and we expect, impulsive children to use them? Come on, people, GET REAL.
Now, since the author of this book not only believes that teenagers ought to have the “freedom” to be sexually active, but also advocates this for children even younger. I have a ten, almost eleven year old daughter. Yes, it is extremely difficult these days to protect her innocence and childhood. In fact, the other day she wanted to know what the word “Rape” meant. I remember feeling my heart sinking. When I was 10, I had never heard of that word. However, she had at school. And I had to find the words to explain what that is to a ten year old. UGH! Try to gently explain it!
Also, when I look at her, I can’t imagine, or stomach the thought, of another human being, let alone an ADULT, saying that my child consented to sex with them. Actually, the thought makes me homicidal. Is there ONE responsible parent here that truly believes that it is a GOOD thing that a 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, year old is sexually active? Would you have thought this would have been a good thing when YOU were that age? How about your own child? If you do, I would direct you to the closest mental health clinic because YOU need to have your head examined!
That is my opinion on this subject.
Andee