TeenYuck,
It has always been my opinion that people that don't desire to have children, ought not to have them. I only get annoyed when they attempt to offer me little "gems" of parenting advice, or get all huffy when a child misbehaves.
I didn't want any children either until I met my husband. I was militant anti-kid. In fact, when I ran into one of my closest friends from high school after nearly 20 years, she was SHOCKED that I had kids. I have a younger brother and sister. My brother being nearly 11 years younger than me. My Mom was only 17 when she had me and was done having kids by the time she was 28. She really scarified her youth for marriage (at 14!) and kids. I didn't want that to happen to me. When I was a teenager, you wouldn't have been able to pry my legs apart with a crowbar! I never had the idea that sex was bad, I just wasn't willing to risk pregnancy.
I didn't have my first child until I was nearly 30 and married for over 4 years. Then, we were also told we probably wouldn't have children because of a condition my husband has. "A million to one" his doctor told him. Ha! When I went off the pill, I was pregnant within 4 months. Make that a million in TWO!
Anyway, it is none of anyone's business why you don't have kids. My best girlfriend is childless by choice. Our lives are very different, but I wouldn't never fault her for her choice. She sometimes baby-sits my kids and they adore her.
Tena, it seems for you, childless is the right choice.
Andee
Edited by - BeautifulGarbage on 15 November 2002 13:9:17